Daughter transgender

[Chimeraforce]

My daughter is 14 and told me she identifies as a male and has felt that for over a year. I know it took guts to tell me. She cried and apologised so I hugged and was supportive. I'm not happy though. She says she will tell her class this month which I'm dreading on her behalf. I've asked her if she is lesbian or wondered if Aspergers. She says no and that it kills her inside being a girl and upsets her when ppl including me, call her "she". I asked how she feels about her body she says disgusted by periods, lady parts etc. I'm concerned she's having an identity problem rather than defo gender problem.
I'm scared and unsure who to go to. I'm not wanting any of this and scared she'll get taken off me.

So it’s not ur daughter then hun

Again I’m utterly disgusted at the bullshit in this thread. This is absolutely unbelievable... listen to your children. Being trans is not a psychological disorder
Absolutely unbelievable

Being trans is not a psychological disorder... but there is some relevance to questioning whether or not your child is actually trans. With no intervention most would return to being content with their sex. So to accept someone's decision that 'they are trans' could mean a lifetime of medical intervention that could have been avoided. Of course listen to your children, but also don't take everything at face value. There is no other subject where we would accept the word of our kids as gospel, without digging below the surface. That's not disgusting or unbelievable, it's perfectly normal parent behaviour.

Yep learning to assimilate due to pressure from those that allegedly love you is definitely a possibility

*correction- one in every 200. still a very small percentage though.

@Transmom321

Well aren’t you just a treasure?

@caffeinatedenby

Who let you out?

Agree with you wholeheartedly

caffeine I’ve reported your post for perpetuating a discredited suicide myth and directly endangering gnc young people and distressing their parents. Shame on you.

Ooooo visitors, how lovely! Visitors with remarkably similar turns of phrase too...

OP - I’d suggest enthusiastically supporting your child to make superficial changes and even to socially transition. Forbidden fruit and all that. Most of the trans kids I know are just experimenting with their identity and have no intention of getting hormones or surgeries.

Ok maybe I was a bit rude but seeing transphobia just makes me so angry and I won't have it. Jay I think I have the right to be angry at someone who despises my very existence.

hello! i don’t know if you see my username, but it says enby- i am nonbinary, meaning i am a trans person. i think i know my stuff from personal experiences and what isn’t a myth. have a look at the stonewall website, and on actual records published by human rights groups! or is it just too hard for you to accept? thanks!

Sorry your thread has been derailed op.

@caffeinatedenby

hello! i don’t know if you see my username, but it says enby- i am nonbinary, meaning i am a trans person. i think i know my stuff from personal experiences and what isn’t a myth. have a look at the stonewall website, and on actual records published by human rights groups! or is it just too hard for you to accept? thanks!

I had to laugh reading this. My first thought, seeing this username, was ‘ooh, denby!’ It's rather nice pottery ware, including coffee sets, and I assumed that was the reference point. Funny how the whole world doesn’t leap straight to gender id before all else...

Hi OP, I just wrote a post explaining my similar situation and offering sympathy and support, but then I read some of the previous posts and didn’t feel up to dealing with some of the awful comments being made, so withdrew it.
It is so distressing to navigate this sort of situation, but stick by your child, and if you feel unable to do everything they want you to (suddenly change pronouns / name) then explain calmly why it is difficult for you but even if these things might take time, you love them as they are. They will not realise how disorientating and distressing it is for you. Find some one you can confide in. Good luck OP.

@caffeinatedenby

hello! i don’t know if you see my username, but it says enby- i am nonbinary, meaning i am a trans person. i think i know my stuff from personal experiences and what isn’t a myth. have a look at the stonewall website, and on actual records published by human rights groups! or is it just too hard for you to accept? thanks!

How can you be non-binary AND trans? Trans is moving from one gender to another. Non-binary means rejecting the genders.

@LeopardFever Being trans doesn't mean 'moving from one gender to another'. It's someone who's gender doesn't match the one associated with their sex (girl or woman for someone born female, boy or man for someone born male).

@Chimeraforce
Accept him.

Allow him to explore his gender. It's the only way to know if they are truly transgender or they are exploring themselves. Obviously he is too young for medical work, however taking him to a gender specialist will help him understand the root behind his identity. And with school, sadly it will be hard. My brother went through the same thing. But trust me it is the right thing to do.

Support him.

@Chimeraforce hi OP how are you doing?

[quote ASugar]@Chimeraforce
Accept him.

Allow him to explore his gender. It's the only way to know if they are truly transgender or they are exploring themselves. Obviously he is too young for medical work, however taking him to a gender specialist will help him understand the root behind his identity. And with school, sadly it will be hard. My brother went through the same thing. But trust me it is the right thing to do.[/quote]
“medical work”