DH being charged with theft - what is the likely outcome?

[appledumpling]

DH is 99% likely to be charged with theft by his employer. He has sold items that were in a skip but obviously still belonged to the company. There is also a breach of security involved because of the type of company. The financial gain involved is a four-figure sum.

What should he expect to happen in terms of sentencing. Custodial/suspended/community service?

I can't get any answers out of him and am struggling to cope with it all. I need some concrete facts so I can make plans. He will obviously not have a job at the end of it.

OMG I feel for you apple but there are some positives here.

At least he has not been charged yet - that is a good thing and he may not be either - so when he is looking for another job he doesn't have to say there is a court case going on, also he doesn't have to say he left his old job due to being sacked or disciplinary proceedings - so at the moment he has a clean slate, even though you feel like the foundations of your world have been rocked.

You will be able to get benefits to help cover some things like council tax etc - he needs to sign on asap and possibly you too - this is not a time for false pride - it could take a while for the money to come through so you need to get the process moving. If you are worried about how to proceed I would say you BOTH need to get to the CAB and get some good advice - they are excellent at this.

I think you both need to deal with everything now as a team and stay on top of things - you can deal with this together and if you do the children will be ok.

So don't panic - just take one small step at a time [smile}

Good luck and chin up

Just thinking of you ,wondering how you're doing .

appledumpling - I know it is not what you asked, but my thoughts go to your relationship with dh.

In your shoes, I would want to know two things from your dh:

1. Why he did it
2. Did he know it was wrong?

If he couldn't answer those questions satisfactorily, I would personally be having a very serious re-evaluation of a future with him.

Nothing in your posts indicates any remorse on his part, btw - just fear/anxiety about financial and legal ramifications. It also sounds as if he has been evasive with you regarding details of what transpired. Doesn't reflect well on his character, I'm afraid.