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Ex took out second charge on family home after separation without my knowledge – can I challenge it?

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hp5678 · Today 14:16

I’m hoping someone might have experience of something similar, particularly with the Financial Ombudsman.
My ex-partner and I had already separated and court proceedings concerning our family home were ongoing when he took out a substantial second-charge loan secured against the property. He did not tell me he was applying for the loan and I had absolutely no knowledge of it at the time.
I remained living in the family home with our three young children. One of our children has significant disabilities and long-term needs, and I am his main carer, which significantly limits my ability to work.
The Family Court has since found that I have a beneficial interest in the property through constructive trust/proprietary estoppel, although the exact percentage has not yet been determined. There are ongoing property and Children Act proceedings which are being combined, and we are being encouraged to see whether we can reach an agreement between ourselves.
The problem is that this second-charge borrowing has eaten up a substantial amount of the equity in the home. That equity is incredibly important to me because the house is the children's long-term housing security, particularly given my disabled child's future needs.
I am already paying the substantial first mortgage myself. My ex is now not paying the second-charge loan either, and his position is effectively that if I want to retain the children's home, I should take responsibility for this loan as well, even though he took it out after we separated without telling me.
Taking both on would put me under severe financial pressure and leave considerably less money available for the children.
I am also concerned about where the money actually went. My ex says the borrowing was used to repay old debts connected with renovations to the property, but he has provided only limited financial disclosure and I have seen nothing that actually traces the loan proceeds or evidences that explanation.
Because I had nothing to do with the application, I also have no idea what he told the second-charge lender when he applied. I don't know whether they were told that we had separated, that I and the children were living in the property, that court proceedings were ongoing, or anything about my interest in the home. The lender won't give me the application documents because I am not the named borrower.
The lender has been extremely slow dealing with my concerns and appears to think the Family Court proceedings will resolve matters. But this is where I'm confused. The Family Court is dealing with the interests between my ex and me and is encouraging us to reach a settlement. I am concerned about a different issue: how this lender came to accept a substantial second charge over the family home in the first place and what representations/checks were made at the time.
I want to know what the lender was told about ownership and occupation of the property, what declarations were made, what checks they carried out and whether the charge was properly obtained given that I was living there and had a beneficial interest but knew absolutely nothing about the borrowing.
I have looked into specialist legal advice, but unfortunately I simply cannot afford the fees I have been quoted, so I am considering pursuing the complaint myself and taking it to the Financial Ombudsman Service if the lender doesn't properly investigate it.
Has anyone dealt with anything remotely similar, particularly where an ex took secured borrowing against the family home after separation without the other person's knowledge? Has anyone successfully taken something like this to the Financial Ombudsman, and did they investigate the original loan application and what the lender had been told?
Any experiences or advice on where I should go from here would be really appreciated.

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hp5678 · Today 14:22

There is also a background of domestic abuse and protective court proceedings, and I am concerned that taking substantial secured borrowing against the home without my knowledge may form part of the wider financial/economic abuse.

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hp5678 · Today 18:11

hi anyone? would really appreciate any advice thankyou

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RandomMess · Today 18:29

I don’t know but who is on the deeds and who was on the mortgage?

Was his application fraudulent?

hp5678 · Today 18:39

@RandomMess thanks for your reply, its our family home, but he was on the deeds as sole legal owner and he was on the mortgage , but this was due to us agreeing on that as I couldnt work due to raising our children and my child who needs full time care and couldnt work. when we split due to domestic abuse he used this against me in court and said I had no interest and it was his home, I put forward my evidence to show them this was not true and my contributions and thst the home was always supposed to be our home, the court found I had a beneficial interest in, and I was able to register this with land registry and place a restriction. there was an occupation order in place during this and still now, as I then intitiated tolata/scheduyle 1 proceedings to transfer the home into my name for my childs long term needs due to his disability, as this is the entire reason we purchased this home for his long term security. during this before the court was in the process of making the findings he quickly went behind my back and took this second loan. I found out randomly as I was checking land registry for something else. I notified them that I lived here with our children and had an interest in the home, more than likely he didnt tell them any of this and took that loan. he then stopped paying that loan and now they are investigating it under fraud but they are so slow, and have moire than enough evidence in front of them that he atleast misrepresented the circumstances and our situation. I just am so confused as to what to do as he is now saying for me to pay this loan. it's nearly 47k.

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hp5678 · Today 18:44

@RandomMess the morthgage itself is around 1500 a month and he knew I wouldnt be able to afford to pay both so did this so I would struggle, as soon as he was arrested he said im going to sell the house. as he wast able to do that through the court, he really messed things up this way. when the second charge mortgage was still pending my restriction was also pending and was then placed first. they im sure knew this their charge still was registered after my restrcition. after I found out he had taken that loan I did tell them as I knew what he was planning they igniored me. I think they think the court will tell me to pay it so delaying the investigation but its so unfair im a single mum healing from dv 3 kids to bring up a child with long term disability, ive had not a single minute to breath ive been in court I lost a baby in July 2024 just before all this started and before he completely lost it with me, I have been dealing with court since. deep down if I was able and the money I would just agree for the sake of cutting the ties with him and not have to keep going back to court but hes put in an impossible position. he did this to make it more difficult to have an end to all this

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NotInMyyName · Today 18:57

It seems to be quite a complicated story and you need advice from a family law solicitor.
It might be a good idea to draft a timeline of events to help the solicitor unpick the sequence. You can get the first consultation for free (its quite short) and this allows them to advise on whether you have a case.
Good luck.

Minnie798 · Today 19:06

This sounds complicated.
If ( as I understand it), he is solely named on the deeds and the mortgage and you aren't married, whoever provided the second charge loan had all the information they needed to grant it.
Is he a very high earner?

hp5678 · Today 19:06

@NotInMyyName okay thankyou I did try and speak to one today they said it wasnt going to be family law maybe due to possible fraud. now im just wondering if its worth challenging it through the ombudsman as the loan company for this second charge is delaying their decision as probably want me to take it on im sure hes told them to tell me to take it on as this is what hes saying through the court also. thankyou for your help I appreciate it

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hp5678 · Today 19:10

@Minnie798 I think he used that yes, but didnt tell them I had interest in the home, and got there before the family court found that interest. the sad thing is the equity in the home was always meant to be security for our child who has complex needs, and also I never waived any of my rights or my interest when he took this loan so I just feel really sad that he was able to carry on that abuse through this. that was the whole point I went to the court to stop him from doing anything like this I just didnt know he could at the time do that, and didnt have much legal help also. he earns about 54k a year, thanks for your reply

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caringcarer · Today 19:11

Yes, you need to see a family lawyer and it sounds like a judge would be able to order your exh to show where this money went.

MadeForThis · Today 19:14

I would stop paying the mortgage as it isn’t in your name. Save that money. If he defaults on the mortgage and the loan the bank will repossess. They will not ignore the money he owes and it looks like he will not pay it. Save the mortgage money now. You will need it.

hp5678 · Today 19:16

@caringcarer thanks for your reply, yeah the judge did order him to provide disclosure about his finances and this as he said he was in financial hardship, he hasnt to date provided where that loan money went, but says it was used to pay off debts from when the house was renovated. his statements show he definatelt was not in any hardship, purchases at designer outlets money moving to accounts he hasnt provided the disclosure for. he wanted me to cancel cms, and because I didnt he probably thought this was a good way to make me pay that cms back because now all that money will be going to that loan anyway, I just have had enough and have said I want to come to some sort of agreement as this has been going on for 3 years , but maybe I should let it go to a final hearing

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Enterthewolves · Today 19:18

I think he must have committed fraud. We recently remortgaged and both of our adult children who are currently living here had to sign something saying they had no right to the property. If you didn’t do this he must have forged your signature. This is a messy area of law (dim recollections from
many years ago) but it is possible that the debt will stand but not be secured against the property (though I’m not 100%). You are definitely going to need legal advice but I’d say you need a housing lawyer, maybe contact Shelter? Sorry he is a bastard!!

hp5678 · Today 19:19

@MadeForThis thanks for your reply I would do this but if I lose the home I will really struggle with getting a home nearby here atall and my sons sen support is set up here in the local school, i struggle with getting him to school as is have to take him in the pram sometimes hes 7 years old but has quite severe meltdowns sometimes. moving from here would be very very difficult, I also rely on our garden as we dont get out much due to his needs, getting a house like this again that would cater to his needs near school would be so difficult, otherwise I would do this

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Enterthewolves · Today 19:20

MadeForThis · Today 19:14

I would stop paying the mortgage as it isn’t in your name. Save that money. If he defaults on the mortgage and the loan the bank will repossess. They will not ignore the money he owes and it looks like he will not pay it. Save the mortgage money now. You will need it.

I really wouldn’t do that until the issue of the second charge is resolved!

hp5678 · Today 19:24

@Enterthewolves thankyou for your reply, I appreciate it, I do think he either forged it or didnt tell them we lived here or even had an interest, as now they wanted the land registry documents the court orders etc. but they are taking forever to investigate. thankyou yes I didnt manage to speak to anyone in shelter today the lines were extremely bzy will try again tomorrow. yes he was aweful to me I didnt press charges didnt want revenge just wanted to have the security for my child as I will never be able to work while he has benefited off that and progressed his career will have a pension long term financial security, has no care of the children, instead of thinking about his children hes done everythign he can to make sure we lose the home even now hes wanted me to pay this loan as says its affecting his credit

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thestudio · Today 19:24

Once again, what is wrong with men?

hp5678 · Today 19:27

@thestudio I know, I blamed myself for putting up with it but I didnt realise how deep the trauma bond was and also I was dependant on him due to being the carer for our children but speficially my eldest child who needs full time care. I manage to finally break free after losing a baby and finally being able to see the reality in front of me - but ever since he sure is punishing me through the court thanks for your reply appreciate it

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Betterbeingdead · Today 19:30

Citizens advice ? That's free

caringcarer · Today 19:33

I think a judge will take a dim view of this behaviour. Does he have a pension?

Minnie798 · Today 19:33

Can you realistically afford to stay in the home?
If the mortgage is 1500 a month now, it will be even higher once your exes share of the equity is released.

hp5678 · Today 19:33

@Betterbeingdead thankyou will try them on Monday, wasnt sure if they could help but I will try thanks again

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hp5678 · Today 19:34

@caringcarer yeah I think he does not sure how much or what hes changed jobs so many times

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scaredysquiggle · Today 19:37

What a mess. I don’t know where you stand going forwards but advise anyone who isn’t on the legal title to their family home to register ‘home rights’ against the title on land registry if your marriage separates.

NotInMyyName · Today 19:37

The Law Society website allows you to find a solicitor in your area. Link below.

From reading their online advice it would seem that you may need a solicitor which is used to complex cases. Maybe the one you contacted doesn’t have that expertise or experience.

Edited to read better!

https://solicitors.lawsociety.org.uk/?Pro=TrueLInk