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AIBU to ask if I could contest my mother’s will?

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impossibletocontest · 06/06/2026 08:32

Is it always impossible to contest a will in England.
I’ve been told I will not be inheriting and that my brother will be the sole beneficiary. He has a good very well paid job as does his wife, own their own home and are comfortable. Dm has a large estate so he will inherit a large amount.

I live in HA accommodation, with one child (disabled and SEN) plus I have a physical disability which is progressive and I can only work PT so reliant on UC top ups and will probably end up totally reliant when health deteriorates further.

I know England is difficult with this issue is there any chance a court would look at the situation and see that it’s fair to award me something?

ive been told that I won’t even be able to get a caveat before probate as they won’t tell me immediately on the death of dm so the assets will already have been given ? They are very low contact with me so I think they’ll absolutely do this. Is there anything now I can do or do I have to just accept that I will always struggle and my brother gets everything. As a child I was my DM carer as she had alcohol and MH issues so I feel really really used and cast aside.
She is 84 now and in poor health and the only contact I get is her telling me how I won’t get anything from her .

OP posts:
Pollqueen · 10/06/2026 13:02

Actually you may have a claim. Ilot v The Blue Cross [2017] UKSC 17. Very similar circumstances to yours OP, ill health, reliance on benefits. Long term estrangement from mother who left her entire estate to animal charities.

Claimant contested and the court awarded her £50,000.
Any claim must be made within 6 months of the grant of probate as there is a strict limitation period

Worth seeking legal advice

Janicchoplin · 10/06/2026 17:23

bridgetreilly · 10/06/2026 11:54

Speaking ‘morally’ is not that helpful in a discussion about legalities.

Are you a solicitor?

MissyPants · 11/06/2026 14:29

I think they are both awful people, and money brings the evil/greed out in a lot of people.
Yes you aren't down for the money, but that doesn't mean it is right or fair.
What type of person your brother must be to happily watch you suffer whilst he inherits everything. He could give you some, but as you say this is unlikely.
And your mother using it as a weapon to cruelly remind you of what you will be missing out on.

You don't need counselling ffs, you need a helping hand, to make your life easier, which both family members are depriving you of.

Noras · 11/06/2026 21:00

lizzyBennet08 · 07/06/2026 09:44

Honestly, the grounds on which you can contest are very limited and specific and given you haven't had a relationship with her for over 20 years and she was of sound mind and has told you multiple times over text that you won't be getting anything ( re confirming her wishes) you have zero chance of success here and would waste money on legal fees that you don't have.
Im sorry. She does sound horrid but still has the right to leave her money to whomever she chooses and she is choosing to leave it to her son 'who the courts would see has looked after her for the last number of years.

Are you a lawyer? I ask as so many are clearly trying to help and it would be better for only lawyers to comment onwards.

I was a qualified solicitor in another area and I defer to those who work in probate be it as CILEX, a barrister or solicitor.

I think that we need to stop confusing her.

Noras · 11/06/2026 21:03

ThatCyanCat · 06/06/2026 23:17

Lawyers, what are the implications of OP's family deliberately withholding the news of her mother's death when it happens, in order to stop her making a claim?

I found this advice

This is a question which has come before the court on a number of occasions in recent years and most recently in the case of Kaur v Bolina which came before the High Court late last year. In that case, the court allowed the claim to proceed five months after the statutory deadline had passed and, in doing so, provided some useful guidance on the factors which will be taken into account in this type of case.
So, what is the deadline to bring a claim under the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependants) Act 1975?
The 1975 Act provides that a claim for reasonable financial provision must be made within six months of the date the grant of representation is issued by the Probate Registry. However, the Act also provides that the court may grant permission for a claim to proceed after the end of the six-month period.

What were the facts?
In Kaur v Bolina, the claim was made by the wife of Mr Bolina, who died in September 2019. Mr Bolina’s last Will left his entire estate, valued at between £300,000 and £350,000, to his two adult children and made no provision whatsoever for the claimant. The two children were also named as the executors of Mr Bolina’s estate; they distributed the estate to themselves in August 2020.
Mr Bolina and the claimant were married for seven years but had a turbulent relationship and by the time Mr Bolina died they had separated and the claimant had left the matrimonial home. Mr Bolina’s Will was prepared in 2014 at the same time as he had made his first petition for a divorce from the claimant; they subsequently reconciled but a second petition was made by Mr Bolina in 2018.
The claimant maintained that she did not learn of Mr Bolina’s death until December 2019, some three months after the event, when a court hearing took place to address outstanding matters in their divorce. It was the adult children’s position that the claimant was aware of her husband’s death much earlier, in October 2019. In any event, probate of Mr Bolina’s estate was granted to his children in December 2019. In May 2020, the claimant applied to the Probate Registry to register a caveat against the estate and was informed by the Probate Registry that she would be informed if a grant was issued; she was not told that a grant had, in fact, been taken out six months earlier.
Also in May 2020, the claimant wrote to Mr Bolina’s children indicating that she intended to bring a claim under the 1975 Act and inviting them to participate in alternative dispute resolution. The children maintained that they had responded to the claimant’s letter and told her about the grant, although the claimant denied ever having received their correspondence. The six-month period expired in June 2020 and in July 2020, the claimant instructed solicitors to write to the children setting out her claim under the 1975 Act; the children denied receiving this letter. In November 2020, the claimant’s caveat expired and she was informed of the existence of the grant. A claim under the 1975 Act was issued on her behalf promptly thereafter, five months after the expiry of the six-month period.
How did the court exercise its discretion?
The judge drew heavily on previous case law to reach his decision and, in particular, he referred to the 2019 case of Cowan v Foreman, which attracted much discussion within the legal world, and which emphasised that the purpose of the court’s discretion is to allow claims to be made out of time when it is “just to do so”. In other words, in order to obtain permission to bring a late claim, a claimant must show that they have a “substantial case” and the court must consider all the circumstances of the case:

  1. Did the claimant act promptly to bring the case?
  2. Were negotiations started within the six-month time limit?
  3. Was the estate distributed before the defendants were notified of the claim?
  4. Would the claimant have recourse to any other remedy if the 1975 Act claim was not able to proceed?
In this case, the judge ruled that the claimant’s claim should be allowed to proceed out of time for the following reasons:
  1. The claimant had an arguable case. In other words, her claim for financial provision under the 1975 Act was meritorious given the length of her marriage to Mr Bolina and her own financial circumstances.
  2. The children were on notice of the claim since May 2020, within the six-month period.
  3. The claimant acted promptly once she learned of the existence of the grant.
  4. The distribution of the estate was not complex and had been made by the children to themselves after they were told of the potential claim.
What can we learn from this case? Although the claimant was successful in obtaining permission from the court to bring her claim out of time, this is a stark reminder that administrative errors can lead to costly and lengthy litigation. Had the claimant entered a standing search when she first learned of Mr Bolina’s death, she would have been notified that the grant had been issued and her claim could have been issued within the six-month window, avoiding an expensive preliminary hearing. Ultimately, this case was decided on its facts and it demonstrates that the court will carry out a balancing exercise, weighing up the different factors set out above to decide whether allowing the claim to proceed is fair. There is no guarantee that the outcome will be the same on every occasion and so potential claimants under the 1975 Act should seek prompt and early advice to avoid losing their chance to bring a claim. Our Contentious Trusts and Probate Team can help… even if you have missed the six-month deadline.
JuliettaCaeser · 11/06/2026 21:16

That case is about a spouse that’s a totally different claim scenario to a claim by an adult child. Perfectly illustrating why you need to listen to actual lawyers not AI slop.

Noras · 14/06/2026 22:46

JuliettaCaeser · 11/06/2026 21:16

That case is about a spouse that’s a totally different claim scenario to a claim by an adult child. Perfectly illustrating why you need to listen to actual lawyers not AI slop.

Someone asked what happens if the limitation period was missed due to lack of notification of mother’s death. This case relates to that.

I am an ex solicitor and the case pertains specfically to extensions of limitation periods.

Who the party was I’m this instance under the 1975 Act is not the issue it’s the question of when the court will exercise its discretion to extend limitation. That’s the point I was arguing.

in essence the claimant under the 1975 Ct has to act promptly once they discover that the person had died and limitation had expired.

Although not a Probate lawyer I have appeared on numerous arguments re Section 33 extensions in PA re extensions of limitation for those types of claim. I have a feel for how the courts try to act fairly to prevent injustices.

However I agree that she needs to listen to probate lawyers.

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