Can I lose my house?

[Domingofromltoakley]

My DH is currently trying to get a financial order with his ex, I know he should have done it years ago, but she's always made life so difficult it's taken years to get this far. He's had to go to court twice already to get her to engage at all, she has form for this as she refused to engage with divorce or return papers etc and cost a fortune to eventually divorce.
Anyway he is now at the second lot of mediation, he's paying for his, she's on legal aid, he's returned his form E which shows he has nothing of value but a 10 year old car no savings really and we're living in my DG house which she kindly let us use when she moved in with my parents until she dies and its sold for the beneficiaries.
I own a house, well its got a large mortgage and a massive loan attached to my parents they lent me money in order to buy it. It's in my name only as I lived there before I met DP, he has never contributed to the mortgage or upkeep that has always come out of my personal account, and now the mediator wants it valued. Surely this isn't a marital asset of theirs that he has to share? Mediator hasn't even asked for the equity(little to none) just the value. Why do I have to get it valued when their FO has nothing to do with me?

In the wash up at court it turned out the former partner’s legal fees were 5 figures. The judge asked the lawyer why and the response was they had been instructed to engage a private investor and a Queens Counsel.

(that was interesting as I remembered being followed home one day so drove into a shopping centre carpark, the other driver pulled up in the road so I parked my car facing his and he knew he was caught).

this was all from a woman who claimed she couldn’t afford to buy the basics. We heard after the case that she threatened to report the solicitors office for malpractice and they dropped their invoice to a much lower amount to get rid of her.

I imagine it's more about knowing what and where he's living now. Make sure that your own house is presented as a liability rather than an Asset. He may have married you but you have this massive debt.

If she kept everything except his car, I'd wonder if actually she owes him. House contents are usually quite valuable once you include all the white goods. He has a car worth £1000, she has a washing machine, an oven, a fridge, furniture etc, vacuum cleaner...

The way some people conduct themselves during a divorce is bat shit. Being followed must have been really unsettling. What a horrible thing to do

Woman scorned and all that 🤨 no not a nice time at all..

We have friends 18 months into separation, no children thankfully, however it’s delayed because the initiator of the separation thought they were entitled to more than they were, thus it gets bogged down in arguments and then legal letters. In DH’s case it proceeded to court for determination.

I was upset the other party was able to easily access my income details from my employer and council including the property details of my ex which was part of our settlement. They (payroll) in turn were wonderful, they called and asked if I knew about the summons which I did not at the time. In turn they printed it on a blank document so it made it harder to see what amount meant what. They also left it to the last minute to send in. I certainly felt my privacy was invaded and all because I was in a relatively new relationship.

What are you doing with “your” house then if you are currently living in your grandmothers house? Presumably your house is rented out?

anyway rather foolish to marry him without him sorting the FO - so yes your assets are considered his now and all form part of the picture of his financial set up on Form E. It’s irrelevant the house is in your name only - he would be entitled to a beneficial interest in it simply by virtue of being married to you if he could show he contributed to bills or upkeep