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Neighbour dispute

474 replies

finallyhappyinlife · 19/12/2025 22:36

In may 2024 we had our drive paved by a local businessman . We are very happy with the work he did for us however the white residue from the hardcore he used underneath the blocks has run onto our neighbours drive leaving a strip of lighter tarmac which shows up when her drive is dry . She is extremely unhappy as expected and I have made several attempts to get the workmen back to discuss this issue however he flatly refuses . I have been totally civil with neighbour agreeing that it’s unacceptable and I have tried many many times to get him to sort this issue . I have ended up falling out with the owner of the business as I believe he is totally out of order . He refuses to speak to my neighbour saying she is just jealous of us having the work done . This has caused us immense stress and she has stopped speaking to us . Earlier in the year her son said she was going to have a fence installed between us and was that ok ? I said that’s up to you as we cannot stop your mum doing anything on her own property and it was no business of ours . This fence has never materialised .
Now today I have received a recorded letter saying she has been advised to get 3 quotes for re tarmacing the whole drive . The quotes range from £8800 to £11000 as she is asking us to pay for this work .
She is asking us to respond within 14 days or she will take it to small claims court .
I feel she should be sending said letter to the workmen who did the work and ruined her drive . Am I wrong ? Why should we pay out £10000 approx for the workmen’s error . And advice would be much appreciated on our rights and the next steps for us to take .

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HelplessSoul · 20/12/2025 17:14

Jonnyenglish · 20/12/2025 16:18

The legal standard is:
Restore the claimant to the position they were in before the nuisance,
not improve it.
Her drive was:

  • 30+ years old
  • Faded, cracked, end-of-life tarmac
  • Unmaintained
She is therefore not entitled to:
  • A brand-new £10–11k driveway
  • Betterment at your expense
Courts are extremely hostile to betterment claims.

Well said!

A few of these "team neighbour" proponents would do well to read this post a dozen times before posting more "team neighbour" baloney.

The NDN is a completely and utterly CF who is trying it on.

Well done OP for standing your ground against your cunty NDN. 👍

Heronwatcher · 20/12/2025 17:15

Yes sorry YABU. The fact you’ve chased means nothing, once the original company made it clear they weren’t going to act you should have got someone else in.

I wouldn’t be happy with a paint job in her shoes but I do agree her quotes seem high. I think you need to agree a figure between yourselves or you need to go and get some quotes of your own.

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:16

dawngreen · 20/12/2025 15:40

Why are you posting on here? Go speak to a lawyer to see about it. The trades ppl were the ones who caused the issue not you. I don't see how the neighbours can take the home owners to small claims court.

Because it’s a forum for people to ask questions and opinions 🤔 am I missing something

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Zov · 20/12/2025 17:17

Hollyisalrightactuallysorry · 20/12/2025 17:14

I’ve only read your replies OP so not sure if someone else has already done this but I’ve fed this into copilot (ai)

who very clearly says you are not liable (backed up by links to money saving expert site)

It also suggests reporting to trading standards.

Seems to go against most of the responses here…

AI is wrong - a LOT. OP would be batshit to ask AI/copilot and do what that says!

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:17

Hollyisalrightactuallysorry · 20/12/2025 17:14

I’ve only read your replies OP so not sure if someone else has already done this but I’ve fed this into copilot (ai)

who very clearly says you are not liable (backed up by links to money saving expert site)

It also suggests reporting to trading standards.

Seems to go against most of the responses here…

Really ?

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 20/12/2025 17:18

CoastalCalm · 20/12/2025 15:55

Does it not just need pressure washed ?

I believe OP said her husband's tried that, but wonder if it was a home-style sort of washer such as you'd wash the car with?

The pros have much more powerful machines, some with scrubbers, and I'd have thought it worth getting advice from one of them?

Zov · 20/12/2025 17:18

HelplessSoul · 20/12/2025 17:14

Well said!

A few of these "team neighbour" proponents would do well to read this post a dozen times before posting more "team neighbour" baloney.

The NDN is a completely and utterly CF who is trying it on.

Well done OP for standing your ground against your cunty NDN. 👍

PMSL. 😂

Zov · 20/12/2025 17:19

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:17

Really ?

LOL, seriously, you would act on what an AI response says?! 😂

Crack on. Good luck. YOU'LL NEED IT! 😎

#TeamNeighbour

Hollyisalrightactuallysorry · 20/12/2025 17:20

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:17

Really ?

Yes, I’ve got an EXTREMELY detailed response with links to various articles etc and websites.

ive clicked on a few and they all back up that this is for the neighbour to pursue your contractor.

Ill see if i can copy and paste the full response as its long

Jonnyenglish · 20/12/2025 17:21

Zov · 20/12/2025 17:18

PMSL. 😂

https://wiglaw.co.uk/remedies

REMEDIES

https://wiglaw.co.uk/remedies/

Hollyisalrightactuallysorry · 20/12/2025 17:24

Zov · 20/12/2025 17:19

LOL, seriously, you would act on what an AI response says?! 😂

Crack on. Good luck. YOU'LL NEED IT! 😎

#TeamNeighbour

Keep laughing…I’ve used its advice twice now. Once to take Vinted to small claims court when money went missing from my wallet. And won

And a dispute with the council over Japanese knotweed that had grown from their land to our garden. And it was put right.

MissMoneyFairy · 20/12/2025 17:24

Who came out to see it and advised that the staining is caused by your contractor and the sub level.

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:27

MissMoneyFairy · 20/12/2025 17:24

Who came out to see it and advised that the staining is caused by your contractor and the sub level.

Nobody only her and her son

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finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:27

Hollyisalrightactuallysorry · 20/12/2025 17:20

Yes, I’ve got an EXTREMELY detailed response with links to various articles etc and websites.

ive clicked on a few and they all back up that this is for the neighbour to pursue your contractor.

Ill see if i can copy and paste the full response as its long

Thank you

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kirinm · 20/12/2025 17:27

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:17

Really ?

No not really, I’m a lawyer and so is @prh47bridgeand both of us have said there is an issue for you,

Changename12 · 20/12/2025 17:31

OP, how would you feel if your neighbour now decides to paint her windows and while doing this spills some of this paint on your new drive?

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:33

Changename12 · 20/12/2025 17:31

OP, how would you feel if your neighbour now decides to paint her windows and while doing this spills some of this paint on your new drive?

I would be unhappy I don’t dispute that and I’ve never ever said she has no right to complain NEVER . However my first plan of action would be to chase the tradesperson as to me he is responsible for the error not the neighbour .
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MissMoneyFairy · 20/12/2025 17:35

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:27

Nobody only her and her son

That's not enough, no one will take them at their word, you and they need evidence this caused the staining so someone, you probably, has to get a specialist out either privately or through your insurance to look at the likely cause even if that means digging up part of your paving. Are the houses on a slope, what's the white stuff on your paving or is that just the photo lighting. I bet her quotes are only for a new drive, not for an inspection or remedy, if it is your paving or sleepers you need reassurance it won't happen again, what are the sleepers painted with.

DancingNotDrowning · 20/12/2025 17:40

For everyone saying OP has “damaged” the drive, generally the law doesn’t consider discolouration to be damage. Never mind the fact that OPs neighbour would need to evidence that it was the OPs work that caused the discolouration.

NewGoldFox · 20/12/2025 17:45

It looks pretty bad and it’s clearly come from your drive.

NoWordForFluffy · 20/12/2025 17:46

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:33

I would be unhappy I don’t dispute that and I’ve never ever said she has no right to complain NEVER . However my first plan of action would be to chase the tradesperson as to me he is responsible for the error not the neighbour .
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You need to contact your home insurer as you should have public liability insurance cover with your policy. This is NOT the add-on legal cover, it's cover for if somebody intimates / makes a claim against you.

The neighbour will have to prove that the discolouration is from your driveway, on the balance of probability. Have you looked at its condition through the years on Streetview?

Changename12 · 20/12/2025 17:46

Evidence - I suspect there might have already been some messages between the neighbour and OPs husband has already tried to rectify it by power washing. This is all evidence.

Changename12 · 20/12/2025 17:48

finallyhappyinlife · 20/12/2025 17:33

I would be unhappy I don’t dispute that and I’ve never ever said she has no right to complain NEVER . However my first plan of action would be to chase the tradesperson as to me he is responsible for the error not the neighbour .
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You neighbour has no contract with the person who did the work. You do and that it is why it is you that must chase it.

Notmyreality · 20/12/2025 17:50

NewGoldFox · 20/12/2025 17:45

It looks pretty bad and it’s clearly come from your drive.

It really doesn’t look bad at all. But that’s just it - it’s all a matter of opinion.
What is clear is the NDN is indeed taking the piss asking for a new drive. As pp stated that would be classed as betterment. Best a court would likely do is award the NDN costs to get it either cleaned or painted. And once the money is paid it’s the NDN problem to fix.

PrettyPickle · 20/12/2025 17:52

Sorry but you haven't been pro-active as you haven't addressed the issue your neighbour has a problem with and you have had ample time. You are responsible for dealing with the issue because it arose from work you commissioned, but you are not obliged to simply pay for whatever your neighbour demands. The remedy must be reasonable and proportionate.

  1. Don’t agree to re‑tarmacking yet - Your neighbour is understandably upset, but a full re‑tarmac is a big ask unless the staining is severe and cannot be cleaned. You’re not automatically liable for whatever remedy she demands.
Before committing to anything, you need:
  • An assessment of the damage
  • A professional opinion on whether it can be cleaned or repaired without resurfacing
This protects you from being pushed into unnecessary costs.
  1. Give the contractor one final, formal chance - Contractors often respond when things become “official.” Send a written notice (email + recorded letter) stating:
  • The issue (hardcore leaching and staining)
  • That the neighbour is demanding remedial work
  • That you expect them to return and fix the problem within a reasonable timeframe (e.g., 7–14 days)
  • That if they fail to respond, you will have to seek alternative contractors and pursue them for the costs
This creates a paper trail if you later need to recover money.
  1. Get an independent assessment - Bring in a reputable driveway or tarmac specialist to:
  • Inspect the staining
  • Advise whether cleaning, sealing, or patching is possible
  • Provide a written quote
Often, these stains can be removed or significantly improved without resurfacing the entire drive. This gives you:
  • Evidence
  • A realistic cost
  • A basis for negotiation with your neighbour
  1. Talk to your neighbour with evidence in hand - Once you know what the damage actually requires:
  • Explain that you’re taking responsibility by arranging proper assessments
  • Show them the professional opinion
  • Offer the appropriate remedy (cleaning/repair or resurfacing if truly necessary)
Most neighbours calm down when they see you’re acting reasonably and not dismissing the issue.
  1. If the contractor still refuses - Given you have no legal cover on your insurance, you have two options:
A. Small claims court (UK) - You can pursue the contractor for:
  • The cost of repairs
  • Any additional losses caused by their negligence
This is common in cases of poor workmanship or damage to third-party property. B. Trading Standards / Citizens Advice - If the contractor is ignoring you, reporting them can add pressure and help you understand your rights.

If you go either of the above two routes at 5, which I would strongly recommend if the contractor refuses to put it right, then you will need all of the above info to prove your case above them