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Blood test nurse with NO appointment got firemen to damage door.Who pays?

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logiccalls · 03/12/2025 22:06

Someone who goes decades without any G.P. contact (being allergic to chemicals, and therefore never wanting to get pills) decided to get a private health MOT: The results were excellent, except for one which indicated it might be advisable to take a further blood test via the N.H.S.

The person was permanently disabled by a violent and stalking ex, therefore finds it difficult to get to a surgery, and asked them to send a home visiting nurse to do a blood test. This is a person made resilient by adversity, and keeping as healthy as possible, so with no history of mental problems or heart problems or anything else. (And even the requested blood test was resulting from a private MOT, which the NHS knew nothing about)

The GP has never been spoken to, just the receptionist, who promised to pass on the request for the blood test .

There was no further contact: NO appointment: No response: No email: No phone contact: No letter: No text.

Many weeks later, suddenly, a stranger had got into the block of flats, without using the intercom, and was agressively hammering on the flat door and trying to force the door handle to turn.

There was still no phone call, email or text. It could have been any intruder, inebriated, deranged or drugged. The occupant stayed silent.

The mobile phone rang, but with a witheld number, (which someone who has previously been stalked would of course never respond to.) Eventually, the stranger at the door went away. (There had been a parcel outside the door, before the stranger arrived, and as soon as she left, the occupant could at last open the door to retrieve it, and did so.)

An hour (?) later, a man was beating on the door as if to smash it in, and shouting. The occupant is deaf, but was obviously not going to open the door, to violent strangers, so again stayed silent. (But, because the parcel had been taken in, was clearly not lying unconscious on the floor for lack of a routine blood test, for which there had been NO appointment.)

The hammering on the door continued for hours, (?) and although the phone was constantly being rung, it was never used to send a text explaining there was any legitimate reason to attempt entry.

Later, it turned out the nurse had called the fire brigade, and it was their men taking over from her in battering the door. They then began to drill holes in the door.

The occupant had been unable to use the phone to try to get a lawyer, or to ring for any possible help from neighbours or the building caretaker. The 'number -witheld' calls were coming constantly.

With the flat's front door being destroyed, there was at last no choice for the occupant except to go to the door and call out "Who are you and what are you doing?"

A fireman explained who he was, and that there was a blood test nurse who had claimed that the occupant had "failed to attend an appointment for a blood test", which apparently he believed was justification for smashing the door. (?!)

a)There was NO such 'appointment'. b)The occupant had no idea who the nurse was, or the fireman was. c)Nobody texted.

But could it ever be reasonable to smash the door of someone for such a minor reason, for someone with no medical or mental illness history, and with evidence the person has taken in a parcel, so is obviously fit and well?

This is bullying and abuse of power, instigated by that extremely aggressive nurse, and enabled too readily by a fire brigade who were colluding in the constant phoning, yet never requesting a text should be sent, to a deaf occupant, to identify themselves or the blood test nurse, or to give information about the alleged "appointment".

(The medical records will not show much contact with the NHS, for decades, but there would be a note about deafness, so the fireman's statement that he had called out the word 'fireman' would not be justification to destroy a door.)

There is no house insurance. The front door is a security door and a fire door, so will be expensive to replace. Large holes have been drilled through it. Is it true, as the fireman suggested, that the NHS surgery will be liable to replace the front door?

OP posts:
TheSnowiestQueen · 04/12/2025 21:53

Therefore, there can be no justification for claiming the person had "failed to turn up for a blood test".

What on earth are you on about?

You were expecting a home visit. You weren't expected to go to the surgery.

Are you okay? Really? Not much of what you're posting makes much sense.

PigletJohn · 04/12/2025 21:54

Fatiguedwithlife · 04/12/2025 10:25

The trouble is there isn’t enough people to do the visits, never mind make phone calls to all seventeen patients to tell them approximately what time they’ll come.
A lot of patients have a key safe so we don’t need someone to unlock the door.
In my area we can try and book am or pm visits, but again if something with greater clinical need comes in, it will push everything about. This can happen once we have set off on our rounds, and from experience, if we give a rough time and aren’t able to honour it people get more upset.

I can't help wondering whether it takes more time to traipse to the home of someone who doesn't know your coming, and is out, or to pick up a phone.

If you are afraid to let them know your number, you might even try leaving a message.

TheSnowiestQueen · 04/12/2025 21:56

PigletJohn · 04/12/2025 21:54

I can't help wondering whether it takes more time to traipse to the home of someone who doesn't know your coming, and is out, or to pick up a phone.

If you are afraid to let them know your number, you might even try leaving a message.

They HAVE her number.
She said that- and her email.

She won't answer her phone if the number is withheld.

Many organisations withhold their number for safety and to prevent clients or patients ringing them willy-nilly.

Bruisername · 04/12/2025 21:58

I get that the DN can’t give a fixed time but I think it makes sense to give a day/half day window

pp gave an example of a relative who struggled to get downstairs to the door so if they knew the day a family member/carer could get them settled downstairs to wait

I would imagine a lot of housebound people can feel quite anxious/vulnerable answering the door (as in ops case) so having some warning would be helpful

and to people saying ‘you requested a visit so you should have been expecting it’ - how long a period would you wait to chase up if the DN hadn’t been round?

SleepingStandingUp · 04/12/2025 21:58

logiccalls · 04/12/2025 21:10

There were holes through the door by that time, therefore the fireman was able to speak through the holes, which transmit sound better than a solid thick firedoor. Being deaf does not mean total silence in most cases: It means difficulty in interpreting spoken words, or quieter sounds.

The peephole briefly showed a g;impse of a woman in a black tracksuit : Perhaps not everyone comprehends that if a potential assailant is bending down with shoulder to the door, attemting to burst the lock, in intervals between apparently attempting to force the handle, and battering at the door, they are not fully visible?

Perhaps 'total stranger in black tracksuit', suggests 'nurse'?

Even with NO appointment, No text message, No email warning of intention to arrive uninvited and force entry, and a refusal to use the outer door intercom, instead sneaking into the building uninvited and unauthorised?

Does that seem like 'harmless well-wisher' to some people? Not to everyone.

Particularly given that addicts and criminals do gain entry. So, at times, do all manner of people, doing all kinds of activities, and attracting all kinds of visitors: Some flat owners let their flats to tenants who may rent by the day, or who may pass credit checks yet turn out to be 'dubious': There have even been cases of rival gangs vandalising common areas.

It must be wong to suggest that anyone, ever, should open a door to an unexpected uninvited stranger, who has taken measures to avoid the street entry camera, and is then attacking the door.

I think people are confused that your using deaf which typically implies total loss of hearing rather than hearing impaired, so can hear but not well.

but why didn't you call the police? if you'd cancelled the call and dialed 999 no one could have called you and they'd have attended immediately when you told them there was an assailant trying to break your door down and it was possibly your previous stalker.

Bruisername · 04/12/2025 21:58

TheSnowiestQueen · 04/12/2025 21:56

They HAVE her number.
She said that- and her email.

She won't answer her phone if the number is withheld.

Many organisations withhold their number for safety and to prevent clients or patients ringing them willy-nilly.

Yes he’s saying the DN could have left a voicemail

logiccalls · 04/12/2025 21:59

HiCandles · 03/12/2025 22:35

There is not the slightest chance the GP surgery are liable for damage. Nor the community NHS trust who employ community nurses, as is the case in most areas rather than GP practice directly. You asked for a home visit and then refused to answer the door. I cannot believe the nurse didn't call out who she was. If the deafness is too severe to hear that, how can you hear that door being knocked?
Extremely foolish not to have house insurance. But whether they'd even pay out in such an avoidable situation seems unlikely too.
Perhaps you should get a Ring doorbell or similar so you can see who is standing outside? Seeing a woman in nurse uniform and able to display ID could've avoided all this.

There is a "ring doorbell, or similar" It is an intercom, outside the building, to stop anyone entering unless invited by a resident, who can view and speak to them, (if they are at home, and ready for the visit) and can then click open the main entrance door, and in turn, can open their own flat door a few minutes later. But the nurse avoided using it, and somehow sneaked into the building without invitation, without displaying herself on camera and without speaking to the occupant. (Who could in any case have been out of the building, if a friend had taken her out, even into the grounds, or for a drive.) .The nurse was in any case not in a "nurse uniform", from the brief glimpse through the peephole of the flat itself. She was in a black track suit.

OP posts:
Bruisername · 04/12/2025 22:00

Why didn’t you shout through the door? I understand that you can’t hear them but they would hear you

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 04/12/2025 22:04

This is such a lot of nonsense.

TheSnowiestQueen · 04/12/2025 22:04

Everyone knows that anyone can sometimes enter without using the intercom because sometimes they follow someone in, piggy-back them, or the external door is not closed.

So sensible people get their OWN security measures.

Given you have been stalked it's nothing less than incredible that you have not put measures in place.

Sorry but you are making excuses. I am talking about why YOU personally don't use measures for your safety and I'm sure you understand that.

You're just avoiding questions you find awkward .

Posters aren't going to support you when you blatantly avoid these questions and like to pretend it's all someone else's fault.

ThisLittlePony · 04/12/2025 22:15

But the nurse avoided using it, and somehow sneaked into the building without invitation, without displaying herself on camera and without speaking to the occupant.
what benefit to her would doing all your suppositions do for the nurse?

Bruisername · 04/12/2025 22:15

Was it actually a nurse or was it a ninja?

SleepingStandingUp · 04/12/2025 22:15

@logiccallswhy didn't you call 999

logiccalls · 04/12/2025 22:16

FullBl00m · 03/12/2025 23:26

Most properties have some way of seeing who’s at the door eg spy hole, window, ring doorbell. I’d have thought someone with this history would even more so have a way of visually vetting a visitor.

There’s no way this person didn’t know who was at the door or phoning their phone, they were narked not to have been informed of the visit in advance and it’s massively back fired because the diligent district nurse was concerned about the welfare of this housebound patient who was unable to answer door or phone, and quite rightly ensured someone checked on them in a timely manner.

Can you imagine if she didn’t and OP was found dead two weeks later - papers would be reporting how DNs had visited got no response and left, and the DN would’ve been held responsible.

"Spy hole, window, ring doorbell" Well, no windows onto a communal corridor. Spy hole on the flat door, yes, but that showed a glimse of a total stranger in a black tracksuit, but mostly only of a shoulder, as the onslaught on the door included barging it trying to break the lock, battering and hammering, and violently snapping the handle up and down, so mostly just a track suit shoulder, or nothing visible. Addicts do at times get into the building.

You are right though,there is the equivalent of a ring doorbell. It is out on the street to stop strangers gettinto into the building, unless a resident sees and speaks to them on camera, then presses the button to admit them into the entrance hall. This woman had somehow sneaked in, probably by following a legitimate resident through the door and being too aggressive for them to risk challenging her.

OP posts:
ThisLittlePony · 04/12/2025 22:17

Bruisername · 04/12/2025 22:15

Was it actually a nurse or was it a ninja?

ninja las GIF

A teenager mutant ninja turtle even?!

EddyNeddy · 04/12/2025 22:18

logiccalls · 04/12/2025 21:46

Do you think the firemen bring the engine up in the lift? You are being aggressive and it is strange. The request was to discuss blood tests, which it could be hoped might be with a nurse or doctor on the phone:

The person involved has NO experience of navigating whatever procedures may be familiar to you, if you get to your surgery at frequent intervals. Perhaps you might happpily drive or stroll to the surgery to discuss with the receptionists how to make appointments with whichever part of the service you needed (is it the nurses, or do you go to a doctor's appointment first?

But what if you were not mobile, so getting out at all needed a lot of planning? Would you find it difficult to repeatedly get to your surgery, in order to have a chat with, in a series of dates, the receptionist, then the doctor, then the nurse, (or the hospital if that is where the blood tests are taken) ?

You really would need someone somewhere in the surgery to lower themselves to pick up a phone and actually speak, just like reasonable human beings.

The mystery of the alleged 'appointment' has not been solved: The surgery had the phone number, the address, and the email. Not one of these methods was used: In that case, there was no appointment. Therefore, there can be no justification for claiming the person had "failed to turn up for a blood test".

Can there?

The justification wasn’t that you ‘failed to turn up for a blood test.’ It was that you were a person who claimed to be totally housebound who didn’t answer her door despite extensive knocking, so the nurse was genuinely concerned for your welfare.

ThisLittlePony · 04/12/2025 22:18

but that showed a glimse of a total stranger in a black tracksuit, but mostly only of a shoulder, as the onslaught on the door included barging it trying to break the lock, battering and hammering, and violently snapping the handle up and down, so mostly just a track suit shoulder, or nothing visible. Addicts do at times get into the building.
ah so now it’s the tracksuit clad ninja nurse who broke the door down?!

Raineeee · 04/12/2025 22:19

Wait here, there is a peephole?

It makes 0 sense now. So are the firefighters all in "black tracksuits" too?

AnnaMagnani · 04/12/2025 22:19

Don't expect an intercom to prevent people coming into your building. When I used to visit a lot of patients in flats, invariably somebody would be coming in or out of the front door and hold it open for you.

One block the intercom had been broken for years. However you never had to wait more than 5 minutes before somebody opened the door.

NHS staff are trained not to leave messages on a voicemail that doesn't identify the phone owner.
Our phones either come up as 'number withheld' or a central switchboard - for both our protection and the patient.
Us - being hounded by patients who think the have a personal hotline to the nurse/doctor
Patient - people have died after leaving messages on the phone of someone who is off sick/on holiday/not on shift and waiting for them to call them back for advice.

We don't give out personal emails for the same reason.

Nope, you can't phone people up as you go. 1. there are minimal admin staff. 2. If you get someone on the phone, half of them will want to chat even though you have called to say you will be there in 30 minutes. 3. For each call on the road you need to find a private place your car hotspot the notes system on your laptop, assuming there is mobile reception, find the number, and then make a notes entry to say you made the call and what happens.

Each phone call would be taking 20 minutes at least, without allowing for more than a couple of sentences of chat.

Bruisername · 04/12/2025 22:19

Honestly was the tracksuit clad person even the district nurse?

they have protocols and there’s no way she would have tried to shoulder barge the door down!

this is turning into a (very) tall tale

NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/12/2025 22:21

AnnaMagnani · 04/12/2025 22:19

Don't expect an intercom to prevent people coming into your building. When I used to visit a lot of patients in flats, invariably somebody would be coming in or out of the front door and hold it open for you.

One block the intercom had been broken for years. However you never had to wait more than 5 minutes before somebody opened the door.

NHS staff are trained not to leave messages on a voicemail that doesn't identify the phone owner.
Our phones either come up as 'number withheld' or a central switchboard - for both our protection and the patient.
Us - being hounded by patients who think the have a personal hotline to the nurse/doctor
Patient - people have died after leaving messages on the phone of someone who is off sick/on holiday/not on shift and waiting for them to call them back for advice.

We don't give out personal emails for the same reason.

Nope, you can't phone people up as you go. 1. there are minimal admin staff. 2. If you get someone on the phone, half of them will want to chat even though you have called to say you will be there in 30 minutes. 3. For each call on the road you need to find a private place your car hotspot the notes system on your laptop, assuming there is mobile reception, find the number, and then make a notes entry to say you made the call and what happens.

Each phone call would be taking 20 minutes at least, without allowing for more than a couple of sentences of chat.

Or they'd ask the caretaker to let them in so they could carry out a welfare check. That's normal (and why FIL is only permanently disabled, rather than dead).

WLnamechange · 04/12/2025 22:21

logiccalls · 04/12/2025 22:16

"Spy hole, window, ring doorbell" Well, no windows onto a communal corridor. Spy hole on the flat door, yes, but that showed a glimse of a total stranger in a black tracksuit, but mostly only of a shoulder, as the onslaught on the door included barging it trying to break the lock, battering and hammering, and violently snapping the handle up and down, so mostly just a track suit shoulder, or nothing visible. Addicts do at times get into the building.

You are right though,there is the equivalent of a ring doorbell. It is out on the street to stop strangers gettinto into the building, unless a resident sees and speaks to them on camera, then presses the button to admit them into the entrance hall. This woman had somehow sneaked in, probably by following a legitimate resident through the door and being too aggressive for them to risk challenging her.

Or she said "im after nurse im off duty but I've called back because im worried about a patient can I nip in, she's deaf and vulnerable "

SleepingStandingUp · 04/12/2025 22:23

logiccalls · 04/12/2025 22:16

"Spy hole, window, ring doorbell" Well, no windows onto a communal corridor. Spy hole on the flat door, yes, but that showed a glimse of a total stranger in a black tracksuit, but mostly only of a shoulder, as the onslaught on the door included barging it trying to break the lock, battering and hammering, and violently snapping the handle up and down, so mostly just a track suit shoulder, or nothing visible. Addicts do at times get into the building.

You are right though,there is the equivalent of a ring doorbell. It is out on the street to stop strangers gettinto into the building, unless a resident sees and speaks to them on camera, then presses the button to admit them into the entrance hall. This woman had somehow sneaked in, probably by following a legitimate resident through the door and being too aggressive for them to risk challenging her.

the firemen were in black tracksuits or the nurse knocked the door in whilst the firemen watched?

yikesss · 04/12/2025 22:24

logiccalls · 04/12/2025 21:46

Do you think the firemen bring the engine up in the lift? You are being aggressive and it is strange. The request was to discuss blood tests, which it could be hoped might be with a nurse or doctor on the phone:

The person involved has NO experience of navigating whatever procedures may be familiar to you, if you get to your surgery at frequent intervals. Perhaps you might happpily drive or stroll to the surgery to discuss with the receptionists how to make appointments with whichever part of the service you needed (is it the nurses, or do you go to a doctor's appointment first?

But what if you were not mobile, so getting out at all needed a lot of planning? Would you find it difficult to repeatedly get to your surgery, in order to have a chat with, in a series of dates, the receptionist, then the doctor, then the nurse, (or the hospital if that is where the blood tests are taken) ?

You really would need someone somewhere in the surgery to lower themselves to pick up a phone and actually speak, just like reasonable human beings.

The mystery of the alleged 'appointment' has not been solved: The surgery had the phone number, the address, and the email. Not one of these methods was used: In that case, there was no appointment. Therefore, there can be no justification for claiming the person had "failed to turn up for a blood test".

Can there?

If i ring up my GP and request a blood test to be done at home and then a nurse turns up to do a blood test, you say that is not an appointment? I don't understand what is so confusing. Many nurses have commented and explained. I see a lot of people that struggle to get seen at home then you read stuff like this- its bizarre. I agree, more communication was needed in this instance (not the nurses fault, or the GP if the OP hasnt been in years and failed to mention their very specific support needs when discussing their need for a home visit) but the guff about whos paying for the door and the nurse being a big devious bully sneaking around buildings and bashing down doors is ridiculous.

Mucky1 · 04/12/2025 22:24

Anyone who was seriously worried they were in danger would contact the police not a lawyer when feeling threatened and you can make an sos call whilst there’s an incoming call happening.

why don’t you have a ring doorbell surely you’d need to check who’s at the door when accepting parcels, pizzas etc?
it sounds like you’re a bit bored and making up tales

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