Divorcing and husband put house on market without my permission?

[jay789]

Married 20 years, only one child still at home. House in both names. Divorce process only at the very beginning, nothing official yet no consent order etc.
Husband has put the family home on the market, I knew nothing about this until sign went up. Rang estate agents and they had no idea he has a wife.
He refuses to speak to me at all. Adult children say he’s already put a deposit down on a new build somewhere.
I do want to sell the house and move on, but no settlement is agreed yet, I guess it will be 50/50 but I’m worried all this is happening not following the correct process.
Can anyone offer any advice? I am booked in with the solicitor.

Not necessarily m we put down a £100 reservation fee for a new build, my parent £250 for theirs it's not like a mortgage deposit.

Why drag it out if the house needs to be sold anyway?

This is a really really good point and Its worth reading again. That money (or the property if he completes the purchase) is marital property while you are still married.

How much was it? How has he squirrelled away enough for a house deposit without you knowing? He must have been doing it for months at least.

If he's a 'spender' as you say how did he manage that? Was it a gift (stupid to gift to a devorcing man if so).

You’re not “using the same solicitor”, he has a solicitor and you don’t. Stop blithely accepting everything he says as true, it isn’t and he is quite obviously attempting to fuck you over.

Get your own solicitor. House isn’t to be sold until a financial order is in place. Do you jointly own the property? If not you can register for home rights, but you just need to see a solicitor asap.

My sister had this with her ex partner…. Right before exchange she demanded a decent chunk of money from the sale and got it as he was so desperate

Ask this question on the divorce board (under relationships).
You need to fill in a FORM HN1 for what’s called a Matrimonial Homes Rights Notice. This alerts any potential buyer (or any Conveyancer Solicitor) to your existence and no sensible purchaser would ever buy a property with you still living in it.
You also need your own solicitor. A sensible one who won't encourage you to fight ridiculously but to get what's fair. You can discuss with them for half an hour free. Do not use your husbands solicitor.

You’re not “using the same solicitor”, he has a solicitor and you don’t.

This 1,000 times over.

I have to say OP and I mean this kindly

You are being MONUMENTALLY naive and urgently need your own legal advice.

You sound incredibly naive and too trusting. You can’t do things fairly and through the same solicitor- particularly with an ex who is doing unlawful things behind your back and who won’t speak to you!! Get a solicitor.

Sorry, we both still live in the house. We went to see a solicitor together. We were both there. The solicitor said if we were going to agree everything amicably we wouldn’t need two separate solicitors or to go to court or anything. Now my husband has done this I have booked in to see a new solicitor on my own.

One solicitor can act for both of you on the sake, but that's nothing to do with the divorce or the split of assets.

Did you also talk to the estate agent?