Grandparents picking child up without consent from parent

[Anna713]

My son has a court order stating his daughter lives with him. His exwife has limited access, twice a week with no overnights. Her parents have stated they will pick the child up from school when they want to although my son does not want them to have contact atm. What can he do to prevent this? Can he phone the police? She is 14 so not a young child. She would go with them willingly because it is difficult for her to say no to them. She understands why her Dad doesn't want her to see them but she is in a difficult position.

What he plans to do is stick exactly to the court order, that is twice a week at set times. They want her to stay over one night a week but he is going to stop that. That is what they are going nuts about. Plus for this week he has stopped contact because she didn't want to go.

14 is usually an age where they are quite vocal about what they want to do so I feel for her if she's not speaking up as the toxic adults have caused this.

Unless she speaks up she is going to be pushed around.

I’m sure her dad can speak on her behalf if she doesn’t feel comfortable in speaking to her grandparents and I’m sure your son can take it back to court and the judge will listen to what your granddaughter wants..then the other grandparents won’t be able to keep saying they will come and get her when they want to, I hope it gets sorted soon but at 14 the courts will 100% listen to your granddaughter

Thanks Londongirl8922. Her dad isn't speaking to them at all. He just gets a load of abuse. She did visit her gps yesterday, because she wanted to. My son was reluctant but it seemed to go OK and she came back happy for a change. Her mother didn't bother turning up though. It's good to know the courts will listen to her if she refuses to see visit her gps in the future. My son has kept the messages she received from her gps and her mum just in case.

Your very welcome 😊 Yes definitely make sure your son keeps those messages, maybe ask him with yourself to sit and talk to your granddaughter and ask her if she would like him to go back to the courts and have it that it’s not court ordered that she needs to visit, but only visits her grandparents when she wants to go and see them on HER TERMS the fact that her mum isn’t even bothering aswel… please keep us posted with how it goes! Sending your granddaughter lots of hugs xx

If there is a court order (although there doesn’t have to be) I would be getting him to make a court application - C100 form - and specific issues order to address the matter as to that grandparents are not allowed to pick up, contact should be planned and agreed between the parties to ensure safe and appropriate.