Family court and post separation abuse

[evrey]

After fleeing dv with children. My ex partner is using the family court to humiliate me further and enjoying it.
He has of course denied terrorising me for years, and thrown in many false allegations against me.
I am at the point where i can see this is all about destroying me and very little to do with him genuinely wanting his children.
But I have been told I cant back out now even if I offer decent access . Mentally i do not think I can take anymore which is of course what he wants.
Is there anyway to lessen the time this will take? I need to heal and this is stopping me and the children from doing so.

Hi, OP. We're sorry to hear you're going through this.

Hope you don't mind us popping our head round the door to let you know about this AMA we're doing on Monday:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/AMA/5224878-ama-on-divorce-financial-separation-and-co-parenting-with-amanda-bell

Might be useful. Bit more info below:

We’re pleased to announce that Amanda Bell, Co-Founder of affordable divorce platform SeparateSpace, will be doing an AMA this Monday (9th December) covering divorce, financial separation and co-parenting.
Before founding SeparateSpace, Amanda was a Legal 500 recommended family lawyer at a market leading London law firm. She helped hundreds of clients sort out their finances and parenting arrangements following separation. Amanda now leads SeparateSpace - an online platform created by experts across law, finance, therapy and psychology to provide affordable support through divorce

I have been where you are and it's hell. Please contact Women's Aid for advice. They will be able to signpost you towards the support you need.