Contact and abuse help please!!

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I am hoping someone can help me with some reassurance or experience on a very difficult situation. have s contact order with ex for DD.

DD13 started to show signs of depression last year, started to self harm and then disclosed physical abuse and sexual abuse from ex. All of this went to the police and SS.

SS did a section 47 and said no contact. Police have now investigated but said not enough evidence to prosecute. In CAMHS and looks like it will be a long time until discharge. PTSD symptoms.

Ex is seeking contact. Wants to mediate. Obviously I can’t. But what the hell do I do? She is 13; can’t she say what she wants? PTSD makes it complex?

It feels totally crazy making to have this guy present himself as a normal father - DD really messed up by what has happened.

Alas I am still in this mess! There is now a guardian involved. I hope all is finished at the next hearing. The family court is hell.

Oh Im so sorry, are you self representing? It is hell. Im just sitting here debating what to do, Im already broke, just made a promise to myself that I will sell the house to make this stop here and now. Its so sad that they do this to their children, they don't care that going to court means the children also lose out on all those other things money could be spent on. But the thing is, will it actually stop. Do you feel confident you'll have a good outcome for your situation, or hell for nothing? Why the hell havent they sorted out the family court yet? Sending solidarity and strength your way. Stay strong.

It’s horrible and I have lawyers but very broke. Currently it’s all up to DD to say what she wants. I’m pretty fed up. I can’t influence anything but the only chance this man has got is to blame me. It’s abuse, financial control. I’m told that I will never get it back. In the end he’s going to lose, it’s just he wants to cause as much damage as possible.

Yep exactly the same here too, very very tempted to spend the cash on a one way ticket to somewhere far away with a non-extradition treaty. At least we'd have a life free of this BS, even if it was in some war-torn hell-hole, got to be better than the family court process and broken outcomes.

Well you have my sympathy but the family court has just proven to me how misogynistic the UK is. If I hadn’t done anything for my child she’d probably be dead. But because my ex has legal rights then we’ve all got to listen to this abusive guy go on and play his game. It’s the longest exercise in grey rock ever

EDIT sorry I just saw the updates