Firstly I am a total newbie here so not sure if posted in the right place and this might sound petty to some, but it's impacting my mental health causing me extreme anxiety and a disturbance to my family.
I will set the scene a little, I live in a small private road/drive leading off of a cul de sac about half way up. There are three houses on the private road with each house owning the portion directly in front of each house. My house is the first and so both direct neighbours have right of way over my road, however my issue is not with these neighbours (both quiet elderly couples), rather it is with the ones on the main trunk who have streams of guests/builders/deliveries who keep using my part of the road/drive to turn instead of driving 20 meters further where there is an actual turning point.
The maintenance costs for the shared road/drive is split between the three houses only and due to the excessive daily use we are seeing damage to drain covers, pot holes appearing and damaged front gardens where all the vehicles keep going. We know it's not so much the vehicles of the 3 three houses because my direct neighbours don't drive much and rarely have guests also the position of the damage.
I WFH part of the week and like most people these days have cameras outside my home and see at least 20 vehicles turning and hear the annoying reversing sound from vans about 2 meters away from my window. I have tried to approach the neighbours on the main part politely to remind their visitors, but they are always very hostile towards us and act like they are entitled to use the private road. We are a quiet family and keep ourselves to ourselves and dislike confrontation, but I will stand up for ourselves when I need to. We have encountered xenophobic bullying from neighbours, who think because you have foreign origins you are automatically below them or something here despite growing up in the UK and has gotten worse since dare I say it "Brexit".
The other houses should have been aware when they purchased their properties that the road is not included for them and can see the private road is separate from the public highway with the surface being different. We have a private road sign no turning... completely ignored 😱.
Basically we have a few bully type neighbours and do it on purpose and will stop outside my house with loud engine or music on or lights blazing in front room, short of putting in a gate (which we are not keen on) is there any we can do!? It is a total nuisance and our property is being damaged, we have tried to be nice but getting no where.
Some of the other neighbours have told their visitors and they now turn in the right place and understand our frustration, whilst the others don't care one bit and seems like they are trying to force us to leave.
I sent complaint emails to some of the company vans when I could get their number plate and showed them footage, this took a few years to get sorted and letters threatening legal action if the harassment/nuisance did not stop.
I've contacted the local council and their highways if they could help, that fell on deaf ears... I also had to contact the local police for one neighbour and they were spoken to after making it their life's work to shout four letter words at me and have every builder friend they knew drive their vans almost into my frony door for weeks on end.
I am so sick and tired of having to deal with this, and yes simple answer would be to move somewhere else, but why should we give in? Why do some people feel they can do whatever they want to cause misery to other's. If the shoe was on the other foot I'm sure they would feel the same. We worked hard to have what we have and don't expect it to be trampled over, we are always courteous of others, but it's not reciprocated.
And not to quote the Beetles, but HELP!