Hi all,
I'm in an interesting situation with a parent's will. I'm not a lawyer but have been an Executor before in various English estates and due to my job I'm fairly good at navigating bureaucracy/admin proceses.
A parent of mine recently died and a copy of the will contained at home stipulates that I and my sibling are the beneficiaries. As expected. However, the joint Executors are me plus my uncle.
I live in Scotland my uncle is in England, he's elderly and digitally excluded, doesn't know how to use email, text message or have any proper ID (i.e. no passport, no DVLA photocard, just a bus pass, and is barely literate - cannot write a letter of instruction, has refused to put a pen to paper to write a single paragraph saying he wishes to step back etc). He verbally and strongly confirmed he wants to "wash his hands" of any involvement in being Executor, is very stressed at the idea of being named on a legal document, and I want to take it on myself as it's a simple estate involving a small house (assets well under the IHT threshold etc). It's really not that complicated at all.
I have contacted the legal firm who did the will weeks ago to try and kick off getting the grant of probate.
Unfortunately, they have been quite opaque and are not helping to clarify next steps. They would not provide me or my co-Exec a copy of the official will (I just have the copy found at the house) or let me travel to England to see the will in their office. They will not let me make an appointment to prove my ID. They basically are saying until my co-Exec steps back, or "makes an appointment" and written instruction to let them release the will to me (which i've no idea how to engineer, short of travelling down to his house, writing up a letter and letting him sign it literally then and there) they cannot engage with me as "I am not their client". Whenever I speak to them, they keep pushing the idea of using their probate services within the firm for a fee (which I don't need or want).
Is this a normal legal approach when you have joint Execs?
It's the first time I've been an Exec with a joint Exec who functionally is unable to perform the role. And I've done it alone. Without any issues, even on a complex estate where the original house conveyancing wasn't all in order. But this time the whole process is really distressing and my parent's house just sitting empty over the recent cold snap is stressing me out - I don't see how I can move forward with getting the grant of probate in order to sell the house unless a miracle happens.
What is the NORMAL route to getting a will released on an English estate where there are co-Execs who don't live locally for a joint face to face office visit to the lawer?