Will childrens serviced yet re involved

[Girlmommy]

So social services were involved when my dd was born due to concerns of dv from her dad. It closed not long after as they no longer were concerned and he passed his risk assessments ect. Well anyway her dad and I started seeing each other again recently but it’s not gone well he’s not blackmailing me for money I’ve not got and I want to call the police and get restraining order and cut the contact with his daughter as I don’t want get growing up around him but I’m scared to tell the police incase ss get involved because I’ve got loads of evidence on him blackmailing and threatening me ect but he’s got nasty messages I sent him back too nothing like he’s sent Thougj mainly name calling cause he does it to me so I’m scared incase I get in trouble for it and I don’t wanna risk losing my daughter . But I can’t take the abuse and blackmail from him any longer he’s involving family members now ad it’s not fair on then I feel like I’m just gonna live in fear all my life if I don’t tell the police but I’m scared as I don’t wanna lose my daughter as the ss will find out we got back together

If you don't call the police you are prioritising your needs over your daughter's need to be safe - it's that simple.

If you do call the police then SS may well be involved but it will be about protecting her and not punishing you. Put her first, do what is asked and ask to be referred for help about healthy relationships and impact of domestic abuse (which isn't just physical violence) on children. If you show you can keep your daughter safe they will step away. At the moment that isn't your priority and that's worrying. Sorry if that sounds harsh - I know domestic abuse is complicated and that's why you and your daughter need proper support, you can't do it on your own, no one can. Best wishes to both of you

jusy wanted to give an update so I came clean to the social today and dad sent them all videos of me from when I was pregnant chasing after him ect and he tried to make up to them I’m abusing my lo which I’m not anyway I asked her to come and check her out today myseld and they could see he was lieing but I’ve told them what he’s been doing abusing me spitting at me throwing drinks at me screaming at me smashing things up also thay he’s started to take drugs and I told them we was back together a few times anyway they said that will probs only go to a child in need plan , and I said I’m stopping contact now it’s all out in the open as he can’t blackmail me any more . And the social worker said I should still let him see her ? I am shocked at this as I would of thought they would of took it more serious and advise no contact. Anyway if I stop contact and Let him take it to court to see her what’s the likely hood of then allowing contact as ideally I want him not to have contact with her at all and I don’t think the social will tell them he shouldn’t have contact