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Passport taken

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MissingEsme · 19/12/2021 20:56

Hi all. Any advice greatly appreciated. My partner in the UK is due to come home to Ireland to me before Christmas. Flight about to be booked to discover passport is missing. His exfriend has his passport the last 2 months and won't return it. He promised to return it for the last week but hasn't shown up. He has now blocked him on everything. What can he do? Is it a crime? After a horrible year of serious illness, it seems I will never get him home. Any advice please

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MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 19/12/2021 21:46

There are trains and buses from Belfast to Dublin. He doesn’t need you to collect him.

tenredthings · 19/12/2021 21:48

Are you sure he's not using the lost passport as an excuse to not go to Ireland ? It seems a bit odd to keep someone's passport. Was he definitely in hospital if he's now remarkably recovered ? Are you 100% sure that he's not lying to you ?

titchy · 19/12/2021 21:49

@MissingEsme

For the people saying it's fishy, please don't respond if that's all you have to say. I explained the airport situation. I just wanted to know if its a police matter and if it could possibly be retrieved by them. If he reports it stolen to passport off it will be weeks before a new one is issued. He is still holding on to hope that "friend" will do the right thing.
Well you haven't explained the airport thing truthfully have you? As for the police why doesn't he phone them up and see if they can help. Doesn't matter what MNers think does it.
MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 19/12/2021 21:49

Train to Dublin £30

MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 19/12/2021 21:50

Personally I’d send the police round

Iamanicepersonreally · 19/12/2021 21:50

It all sounds very childish.

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MissingEsme · 19/12/2021 21:52

OK I'm going to leave this thread now because I don't like smart arses who are giving smart arse replies. Partner has just recovered from septic shock, almost died 8 weeks ago. Just recovered from cancer 7 months before that. There is also a global pandemic. I don't want him hanging around hours to be collected in a place none of us are familiar with. I'm trying to keep him safe. Thanks for all the good advice. When mumsnet is good it's brilliant but when it's not it's cruel. Thanks again

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MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 19/12/2021 21:53

I don't want him hanging around hours to be collected in a place none of us are familiar with.

He doesn’t have to. He can get the train or bus to Dublin.

katplva · 19/12/2021 21:53

I’m sorry to hear of your predicament. When I last looked about two months ago, Ryanair insisted on a passport to fly from UK to Ireland, but Aer Lingus would accept a driving licence as photo ID. Would re-booking a flight be a possibility for him?

MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 19/12/2021 21:53

And no one has been cruel to you Confused

iloverunningslow · 19/12/2021 21:54

I got the boat train from London to Dublin before. When I arrived at the ferry terminal I realised I'd left my passport at home but it was fine, they weren't required. I even managed to fly home using my UK driving licence as ID.
The trip was for the funeral of someone who I hoped to visit towards the end of his life but he died as I was leaving the house, hence no travel home booked and total lack of organisation.

TyrannosaurusRegina · 19/12/2021 21:56

@Lockdownbear

Sounds fishy, I'm sure you don't need a passport to get in or out of Ireland from the UK. Driving licence, or any other form of Official ID will do, same as an internal flight.
You do with Ryanair, I used to fly UK to ROI regularly ie once a month.
PositivelyFooked · 19/12/2021 21:58

Hmm, by your defensive replies I would say you also know this is fishy but you don’t want to be told that perhaps your partner just doesn’t want to come home to you. Or at least that’s how it’s reading.

You’ve had advise, no one been cruel, rude or hurtful to you. People are literally just telling you that the story here seems a bit half arsed from him, or not the full story.

But from a advise point of view: go to his house, ring the police to attend a grievance at the property. When they arrive, knock on the door and ask for your passport, I’m sure it’s seeing the police there will scare him into giving him his passport back but if he refuses then report him for identity theft there and then.

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MissingEsme · 19/12/2021 21:59

Now I'm repeating myself. I know there are trains. The safest thing is for me to collect him. That was not what I came on to ask. For those asking, a message has been sent to him from acquaintance saying passport to be returned tomorrow or police will be notified. Thanks again

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MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 19/12/2021 22:00

I know there are trains. The safest thing is for me to collect him.

You sound like you’re just looking for obstacles tbh.

DartmoorChef · 19/12/2021 22:00

Nobody has been cruel. People have explained that there are lots of ways that he could travel to you and that his excuses sound slightly iffy.

Kshhuxnxk · 19/12/2021 22:01

OP if you come back to the thread then yes, he should contact local police and ask if they can do a house call before he reports it stolen. However in the interim if they can't the entry requirement states:
"Ireland, along with the UK, is a member of the Common Travel Area. British nationals travelling from the UK don’t need a passport to visit Ireland. However, Irish immigration officers will check the ID of all passengers arriving by air from the UK and may ask for proof of nationality, particularly if you were born outside the UK. e asked to present, see the Ireland Citizens Information Board website.

TyrannosaurusRegina · 19/12/2021 22:01

OP I have a few times, flown Glasgow to Belfast with no passport then got the train Belfast to Waterford. It's not too bad, expensive nor does it take too long. Yeah it's a faff, and I'd understand if you didn't want him hanging around and travelling on PT due to his health issues though.

Kshhuxnxk · 19/12/2021 22:01

Ah, just seen you came back. Hope he gets home safely to you!

Frazzled2207 · 19/12/2021 22:05

I think he changes his flight to a non-ryanair one where he only needs another form of photo
ID not a passport. Or flies to Belfast and hires a car.

MajesticallyAwkward · 19/12/2021 22:05

The train isn't that much of a risk after flying, it's a non-issue, same with booking the flight with an airline who don't need a passport. Unless you/partner are looking for a drama with the friend or he doesn't want to travel.

There a easy solutions for you. It's an inconvenience yes, the friend is being very petty but it's not the end of the world to report it stolen and use another option if it isn't returned tomorrow and you can still have a lovely Christmas together.

Bluntness100 · 19/12/2021 22:06

Op do you suspect he’s not being honest and just doesn’t wish to come back? I think deep down you must know this is all very unusual. There are other ways for him to get back. He doesn’t need his passport and in two months he could have reported it lost and got an expedited replacement.

AlbertBridge · 19/12/2021 22:09

Just checking, but: you have met him in person before, right?

And you've never sent him money, right?

My lovely neighbour is being scammed by a catfish in Africa. It's 100% obvious to all of us, but they're blind to it.

Beck01 · 19/12/2021 22:10

Report it lost/stolen then book to get a same day passport from petty france in London

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MissingEsme · 19/12/2021 22:16

I'm laughing at the replies now. We are together 4 years now. And plans were made this year for him to move here until he got sick at beginning of the year. Most of his belongings are here. We've been back and forth numerous times. Always flown in and out of my nearest airport. I know there are other airports, it's the inconvenience and distance of the other airports and the fact that I am trying to keep him safe while he is still recovering. We're trying to find the easiest way for him. It will be reported to police tomorrow if passport is not returned.

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