Mothers bank accounts

[Justjackbutterfly]

Can anyone give me some advice please.
Found out my older brother (only us 2 siblings and mother 93 is a widow) has had his name added (a couple of years ago) to all my mothers bank accounts 😥 bro and I are both POA for mum who has a will with her solicitor stating everything (house & money etc..solicitor has copys of all bank books/ accounts but when they were only in mums name..account numbers are still the same) is to be split between my brother and I. Brother and I share looking after mum but brother pays her bills etc. I have a sinking feeling about that when mum dies he will not be truthful about the money..mum is frail so dont want to upset her as brother can be quite bossy ☹

If I were your mum I'd add to my will that you get the first £4K. Easily done.
Difficult situation. Well done.

The £4k is long gone .. I don't want any more stress on my mum. I wish her and my late dad had spent all of their money when they still had their health to enjoy it...any single thing mum needs/wants from now on I am going to make sure she gets it! Xx

I have just started to stand up to my brother and he hates it!

Sounds like your brother was 'conserving his inheritance', rather than doing what was best for your mum.

He sounds horrible. Stealing from his own mother.

Well done for getting it sorted, but be wary of other strokes he and his wife might pull.

@Gingernaut...I know! Its so worrying ☹ I am so naive about these things as I only want what's best for my mum ☹ she has done so much for my brother and me all our lives 😥

Aw.

I hope the building works go OK.

Well done for sorting it out OP. There is only one conniving person in this situation, and it isn't you! I'm pleased to hear that your Mum is having a few things done at home to make her life more pleasant.

Does he still have POA? If so, he can use her accounts.

You should remove his POA. She only needs one of you to have that.

Have you asked him for receipts to cover the £4000? Why not have the solicitor write to him requesting the receipts to explain the £4000 shortfall, so that it doesnt come from you and he cant just tell you to fuck off. If he cant provide £4000 of proof, then change the will so you get the first £4000 and then everything else is split 50/50.

If he says anything you just say, "no, you're the conniving bitch. You stole £4000 from mum and you had yourself added to her accounts so you could keep stealing, and have her money after she's gone. Mum isnt going to take things any further, she is just making things fair between us. It's up to you how you behave now, but you dont get to lash out at me just because I caught you and had it stopped. You did this."

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Does he still have POA? If so, he can use her accounts.

You should remove his POA. She only needs one of you to have that.

Have you asked him for receipts to cover the £4000? Why not have the solicitor write to him requesting the receipts to explain the £4000 shortfall, so that it doesnt come from you and he cant just tell you to fuck off. If he cant provide £4000 of proof, then change the will so you get the first £4000 and then everything else is split 50/50.

If he says anything you just say, "no, you're the conniving bitch. You stole £4000 from mum and you had yourself added to her accounts so you could keep stealing, and have her money after she's gone. Mum isnt going to take things any further, she is just making things fair between us. It's up to you how you behave now, but you dont get to lash out at me just because I caught you and had it stopped. You did this."

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