Cafcass manipulating dc and allowing abusive dad to do the same

[daddysgirlconfused]

ExH is abusive and has moved on to being emotionally abusive to the dc and then got physically abusive last year. The police said they didn't want to put dc through court, social services said it needed to go back to court. Both told me to safeguard the dc.

At court cafcass were told to do a section 7. Now they are doing another report and dc have a guardian. Cafcass are twisting dc's wishes and feelings and manipulating them into contact with dad who they view as not a risk. They have intimated that the abuse is made up. We are currently attempting phone calls but every call has been dad telling the dc how much fun they are missing out on by not having contact, how he really wants to see them, take them on holiday, but them lots of things and has bought them lots of things, how he'll tell cafcass that they want to see him and how it's up to them what happens next and that court don't need to be involved. Says he who applied to court to enforce the contact order.

Cafcass say dc are confused and have no clue it seems about how abuse affects children and makes them feel conflicted about the abusive parent.

What can I do? I strongly believe the dc are in danger but no one is listening to my concerns and haven't for years. Cafcass are saying to get my solicitor to question them at one of the next hearings.

Ask cafcass how to make a complaint about them. There will be an official procedure to follow where you can highlight your concerns about the process and questions.

From my experience, cafcass will say things like “daddy misses you” etc. Some may be impartial, but I fear most do not know how to be when their main goal is promoting contact, at all costs.

Cafxass wont say your Dad's a nice man or anything of the sort. They're impartial.

They should be working in the best interests of the child but they aren't always skilled or perceptive enough to do that. They regularly pressure children to see abusive parents because the courts prefer them to have contact.

They also seem to have a tendency to give in to abusive parents who threaten to complain about them, throwing the children under a bus to save their own skin.

The whole family court system needs a shake-up and some serious training on domestic abuse and coercive control.

Ime Cafcass will exactly says df is a nice man..
MY dc were being persuaded to see exh - not their df - he sent sweets and puzzle books. The Cafcass woman sat and told me if I didn't comply ss would take them away! I threw her out and made a complaint! She lost her job.
The senior officer we had admitted on the stand 4 years of case study in his report were exh's words....
The whole system is abhorrent..

I'm still here and reading and appreciate all the posts. Dd has been having nightmares about her dad murdering her and refuses to engage with the phone calls any more. Cafcass worker has been on holiday for the past week and isn't in next week either. I'm not sure how they can provide a report for court when they haven't been in touch for weeks. They take incompetence to a whole new level.