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Wife left and denying me child access

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Alexjames92 · 01/08/2020 08:11

Hello. Last weekend, my wife left me and moved into her mum's. She didn't tell me she was planning on doing this (we've spoke about breaking up a bit recently but I never thought she'd do this). She also took our two daighters, aged 2 and 4. Since she's gone, she has only let me see the girls twice, and it had to be round theirs with both her and her mother present. She will not let me take them out as she thinks I will take them away. There is no reason for her to think like this, as I've always been a very much hands on dad and realise that the children need both parents. Last night, she realised that I've spoken to a solicitor, and my wife went mad and started telling me I have no rights to do that and that she is allowed full custody over them, which my solicitor has told me is rubbish. Hopefully the solicitors and courts will grant me equal access (which is what I've been told I'm entitled too). But the only trouble, due to covid, the courts are backlogged until atleast December. I just don't know what. Going to do if I can't see my beautiful girls before next year. I'm going to text her later just to ask if I can see the girls but I know she will either say no, or totally ignore me (I've been asking by text as then I have proof that I've been trying to see them). I'm just so worried and upset!

OP posts:
Ladedada · 02/08/2020 11:04

@dontdisturbmenow of course men leave for other reasons. It was an example and I think if it wasn’t stated they would ask..

Anyway OP I’m not sure about this advice not to do mediation. I don’t think it looks good in the courts if you haven’t tried to work it out yourself prior. If you can’t come to an agreement in mediation then take it further. In the meantime I would try and see your daughters as much as you can in whatever way they will agree with even if it’s not fair. It’s going to show commitment on your end. Hopefully your ex will come around .

FuckKnowsMate · 02/08/2020 11:32

@Codexdivinchi

*This sounds really similar to a real like situation I know is happening, although some of the details are different. In the situation I know the man is an utter control freak and has tried to turn his wife’s friends against her by telling lies about her ability to be a mother. He has also told the same lies to SS. He also disappeared with the dc and didn’t tell anyone were he was for three days. The wife only moved in with her mother to give them space to think but after he fucked off with the dc she took them properly to live at her mothers. And yes the courts are backed up.

There is just something about you OP I don’t believe*

So it sounds fuck all like the OPs situation then.

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