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Father's visitation to a newborn? Shared Custody?

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Singlemum401 · 22/05/2020 09:19

Hi!
I'm due in November and I don't know what to expect that the father is entitled to once baby is born.
I'll have primary care and I'm planning to breast feed and I know he is going to want to have baby as much as he can.
He doesn't drive and lives over an hour away so it's not like he can just pop round for a visit either and I'm not going to be driving baby over an hour there and over an hour back multiple times a week just because he can't drive.
I can see him taking me to court for all I'm worth and I just want to have an idea of how it can work and what he will be legally entitled to?

I also don't want baby going on public transport for the first year because of all this COVID-19.

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HoppingPavlova · 12/04/2025 07:30

@Jrm92 Any of you ever heard of a pump and store breast milk

I’d think everyone has. And? I had one born with disabilities who I had to pump for (had already had others I’d just breastfed normally). What would have been a fairly quick breastfeed with a baby was a really prolonged ordeal, it took roughly 4 x as long pumping and that was with a hospital provided dual medical grade pump and constant access to a lactation consultant at the hospital who had to deal with many people who had to pump for poorly babies, and also medication to try and address the issue. Apparently, it was unfortunate but not uncommon. So, no, I don’t believe this should be FORCED on women.

ETA - I had tried pumping with my first and it didn’t work, but that was with a domestic grade pump, and I didn’t persist as had no need to. Would have been more convenient and given me more flexibility but was not essential. Didn’t have a choice though with the baby I referred to above, and the reality was it meant I spent more time on the pump than I did with my baby because it took so fucking long to get minimal amounts.

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