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Harassment

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Mylifestartstoday · 03/04/2020 22:05

I have been going through an awful 10 months because of my ex husband having an affair. He has continually threatened me - refusing to pay the mortgage, barging his way into the house, threatening to come round at ridiculous hours of the night, threatening to break in (the house is jointly owned)
I reported him to the police because I reached my limit when he again refused to pay the mortgage and became threatening about breaking into the house. He pays mortgage in lieu of maintenance payments.
He has subsequently restarted his relationship with the OW and I did something foolish, following a full day of hassle from him. I emailed them both, detailing things he had said about her when they were separated. I gave her dates and times that I knew would be of interest to her, and I gave copies of text messages he had sent me about her. Not my finest moment, but I’ve had 10 months of abuse. She has reported me for harassment, and I’ve been invited in for a voluntary interview. This report comes 3 days after I had reported him, and over 2 weeks since I emailed them both.
The police won’t do anything about his threats to come to the house because he part owns it, even though he no longer has a key, and hasn’t lived here for 10 months, yet I’m to be interviewed for an email I sent. I did not threaten, I did nothing other than fill her in on information I was privy too.
I’m terrified. I just want them to leave me alone. She has also complained to the police about our daughter telling her dad the OW must be a shit mother. The police have told her she isn’t to contact her father, if she does, she may be in trouble.
Can anyone advise me what will happen to me?

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Mylifestartstoday · 14/04/2020 19:25

Just to update.
The police called again today and asked me again to sign the community resolution. I refused. She wasn’t happy but told me she would have to speak with her superior as to what to do next. I’ve had another call to say the police a dropping the matter, so no further action.
The PC was much more pleasant this time around..wishing me all the best, and hoping I’m allowed to move on. All very strange, but hopefully it’s over with.
Thanks to everyone who took time to respond to me. I really do appreciate it

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strawberry2017 · 14/04/2020 21:33

I'd be tempted to follow up OP, if you had agreed to sign that it would have been on your record permanently but because you said no twice it suddenly gets dropped.
Somethings not right about this.

Mylifestartstoday · 14/04/2020 22:17

@strawberry2017 I agree, the whole thing is odd. Sunday, the PC was really arsey with me, today she was so nice. If I’d signed it, like you say, it would be on my records.
My ex has told my daughter that signing it just meant the situation was resolved. Now he is a liar but also quite gullible, so I can believe that’s what he’s been told by the OW, and would believe it!
I’m going to take it further with the police. I asked her for her number and which station she worked out of, I just need a couple of days to let the stress of the situation go. It stinks though, there’s something not sitting well with me

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strawberry2017 · 14/04/2020 22:22

I find it amazing that they would jump straight to that without even speaking to you properly too.
I am fully expecting you to come back and say there is some connection or something between them.
Either that or the officer needs to seriously revisit her training.
You do right to pursue but also let it settle for a few days.

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