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Divorce/Adultery/Mediation

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Changename5000 · 23/01/2020 16:26

History

H & W married 35 yrs
Separated March 2019
H & I started dating beginning June 2019
W & Partner started dating same sort of time, lasted few weeks, ended. Started Dating new person a few weeks later, still dating.

Children all grown up and we are all late 40's early 50's

No House they rented, £30,000 debt, which will be paid when lump sum comes in.

H & W are attending mediation as civil service type pension to discuss and split fairly. H wants 50/50, W wants more, she wants all the lump sum and a monthly sum paid to her until she reaches 60, which is 8yrs., he gets no lump sum, and some of the monthly pension. (She says she needs to buy a house, he has no house)

She has stopped the final mediation appointment, where they agree and sign paperwork and any further mediation she wants in separate rooms.

Anyway, letter recieved today from W, to state W is divorcing H due to adultery from Dec 2018. But this isn't the case.

There is a letter 'statement of admission' which W solicitor wants H to sign and return, also agreeing to pay all court costs.

What is the best thing to do?

He has a long list of unreasonable behaviour which her could use to divorce her, but as she gets legal aid she wanted to file.

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katieak · 03/02/2020 21:06

Adultery or any other reason for divorce makes no difference. He could have been a saint of a husband or shagging a new woman every other month and it makes no difference. Just let her get on with divorce.

Money wise, no court is going to give her all the lump sum if they don't have any other resources. 50/50 is likely after a long marriage

Changename5000 · 05/02/2020 20:04

He has offered 60/40 of the lump sum in her favour and 60/40 of the monthly pension in his favour.

He won't touch any of her pension

She still wants a monthly maintenance until she is 60, which is 8yrs

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