Court orders

[Mama21419]

I left my ex a few months ago finally breaking free from the controlling behaviour. Long story short he's taking me to court now. When we were together our two children he never spent any time with them unless forced. He has never looked after any of them wholey on his own and now he's trying to get court orders to do this. I have said that I don't see him fit for unsupervised contact due to him using drug and drink daily. He has just had his licence renewed after s ban for drug Driving and drunk everysingle night when we lived together. I suppose I'm asking if anyone has been to court and been told they are allowed unsupervised contact? I have put my feelings aside to the point in refusing getting non molestation orders for the harresment and threatening behaviour towards me so that the children can see him regularly with me present.

Hi @Mama21419.

We're moving your thread over to our Legal Matters topic - hopefully there'll be some Mumsnetters along shortly with some advice and support for you.

We're sorry you're going through such a difficult time. Sending good wishes.

And another bump, for luck.

You need to get the non mol or restraining order if its been offered to you,

You need to stop faciliatating his relationship with the kids if you dont thibk hes safe around them then keep him away fullstop, if your letting him see them whilst your there the courts wont look at it as you supervising,

When you get the notification of the court date you will also have phone call from CAFCASS to discuss your concerns. My sister was in the same situation and explained about his background/drink/drugs/unstable behaviour and the judge ordered supervised contact at a contact centre whilst liver function tests and drug tests were done.
Came back as positive for cocaine and a lft commensurate with a chronic long term alcoholic. Judge did not change the contact terms. The father gave up coming to contact after 3 visits.

The courts are a joke.
They all go on the whims of whatever judge you get that day. My ex was proven chronic excessive in drugs and alcohol and has failed every drug and alcohol test for the last 18 months (6 tests).
The first judge we had, and have had most of the way was wonderful, she saw right through his abuse and manipulation and refused unsupervised contact until he was completely abstinent for 6 months.

The final court order, it was a different judge, who took a complete different view and claims that as long as he dose not drink when he has the children, he can do what he likes in his free time.
So now, providing he dose not drink 4 days every month he can be unsupervised overnights with the children which knowing him, is going to be so very dangerous.