Ex is contesting non molestation order

[margherita5]

He's denied all of his abuse and has made up lies about me. I'm so tired and feel like giving up. Has anyone ever had their ex contest their non molestation order and have it removed? I'm desperate for it to stay in place. I don't have a massive amount of evidence but I do feel like I have some fairly damning text messages which discuss his past behaviour. He's admitted to some things that he's denied in the letter.

I'm exhausted. I just want my abuser to leave me alone 😥

I conditioned him in to thinking he had anger issues

That just sounds like, ‘she made me hit her’. They’re going to see right through that. As a pp has advised, ignore the poster that appears to have an axe to grind.

It's hard to ignore when you're so hurt and worn down. To have someone even online defend your abuser (that's clearly what's happening here) without knowing what he's done to me and my son is saddening.

Thanks @Evidencebased and @S1naidSucks I thought I was going mad there!

Thank you @Racmactac

margherita5, there are a minority of posters that enjoy other people’s suffering. There are also those that through their own experiences or indeed behaviour, have to deflect blame into victims. You know that’s whats happening here, so don’t let them get to you. I can’t give you any legal advice, unfortunately but hopefully someone will be along later to help you. 💐

Please ignore Maximus - it’s clear that they’ve never come across a partner who abuses them and places them and their child at risk.

Abusers don't deserve to see their children imo, unless of course it's done in a contact centre. I'd say this about a man or woman, the child's well being comes first. Abusers can't be trusted, it's who they are. A child deserves parents who aren't abusive, if this means only having one stable influence, surely this is better than being part raised by an abuser.

HTH Maximus.

@Kashali thank you. I'm actually in court at the moment and they're suggesting indirect contact due to one incident that put my son at significant risk

Does this mean he won't get time on his own with your son?
I have no idea what you are going through, but have a dh I support from abusive parent.
My thoughts are with you my love, the very best to you and your son. I hope you get the best outcome.

@Kashali it means he won't, for now, get time with him at all. Thanks for your kind words.

I'm not going to sleep tonight! Thanks to those who have answered kindly.

Maximus when I talk about my son, I don't say this is 'our son' when his father isn't present . If I said to someone upon meeting 'this is our son Bob' and only the two of us were present it would be most odd. Anyway, you aren't helping.

if the abuse was bad then you should have police reports etc which will back up your statement.

Aka if you don't have police reports it never happened.

everyone deserves protection including kids who are stopped from seeing there dad's because of non mol orders

Possibly implying that a tool which I'd successfully used to protect thousands of people shouldn't be allowed because kids need protecting from non mol orders?

it is interesting how you say "my son" he isn't yours

Whose son is he then?

are no longer together and have moved away so what exactly do you need a non mol order for anyway?

This shows an extremely poor understanding of abuse. He could be in Australia and still be abusing me.

what about OUR son? Or did you create him yourself?

Technically I did grow him on my own. Yes.

won't involve your family

Wrong. He's not allowed to contact me through my family members

anything he destroys from 200 miles away will be impressive

He changed the locks on our jointly owned property then burnt my belongings. Impressed?

I feel like you have some anger issues so will leave it here but throwing wild accusations at people you don't know does not look great.

Yes, I'm the one with issues... clearly!