Prohibited Steps Order

[iloverupaul]

Does anyone know anything about these? My ex has filed one to stop me from moving back 'home' (where I was raised and where my family are). It's 165 miles from him. I moved due to domestic abuse.

Realistically, would they make me move back/closer? I have a non molestation order against him, proof of abuse and I'm living with my parents.

@frazzledasarock I stayed with friends initially but this was only short term and I couldn't stay with them much longer. If I didn't go home to my parents I would likely have ended up in a refuge. I nearly went down that route.

Of course you can’t stay with friends permanently and courts can’t expect you to either.

Make sure your solicitor presents to court evidence of dv and the fact ex kicked you and your baby out of your home.

He has no leg to stand on. He can not dictate to you where you live. You’re still in the country he made you and his child homeless. I’d put that clearly to the judge, your ex threw his child out of his home and made him homeless.

Sounds like also CAFCASS are on your side, make sure you get reports from them saying they advised yo not to drive to him for contact.

AND keep repeating you’re in fear of your safety and cannot safely be alone with him for contact. It also safer for you to be with family in case he is violent.

I thought courts were now taking into account DVA when dealing with child contact issues.

@frazzledasarock I'm not sure they care all that much but my solicitor seems to think I'm in a very good position. I just want any contact that's ordered to be safe. Can't afford any more meetings with solicitor until legal aid application is done sadly 😥

Are you still in the same country or moved abroad?

If you go to court, you can expect to be told you gave to support visitation rights be it supervised or not to start with and you'll have to comply with them. It could be that he had to travel first, or meeting half way, but if he stick to the arrangement, you can expect that at some point, he'll get unsupervised access.

If you are still in the UK, he can't make you love back closer. It could be more difficult if you moved abroad.