My ex wants to sell the house me and the children live in

[jodie2304]

My self and ex partner bought the house approximately 11 years ago and we are both on the Mortgage. We split 6 years ago as he left for someone else when I was pregnant. I have stayed in the house with both our children, my youngest being 5 having disabilities and having had the house adapted for him by a dfg grant and he also has a lot of medical problems which means extra equipment in the house etc. My ex partner paid the mortgage since we split in leau of maintenance and has now decided he no longer wants to do this as it’s too expensive so wants £300 a month from me or He is saying either me and the boys move out so we can sell or I have to buy him out- I obviously can’t do that as I’m on benefits due to giving up my career to care for my disabled child and our eldest son. What are my best options please?
Thank you

So if he paid his £400 or whatever naintantaince you could afford the short fall of the mortgage and afford to live? I know it’s not ideal relying on him to pay that and circumstances could change but realistically there are lots of people in that boat that would have to sell home if lost jobs etc

I’d focus on the short term. An agreement in place to get him to pay enough to allow you to afford to stay in the house. Maybe play him at his own game, tell him that if you can’t jeep the house then you will have to go to work and he’ll have to have the kids 50/50... it might work.

Is working a possibility in the future? Can you start and get some further qualifications whilst you can’t work? You need to look at the longer game eventually, and be in a position to support yourself once the kids are a bit older. I know there aren’t a huge amount of opportunities to work from home but I’m sure you will have some skills to build on. There used to be lots of funding for low income families to support further education.

Wishing you and your dc all the best

Also remeber with his name on that mortgage he will most likely NOT be able to get another mortgage for his own house so is one of the reasons why mesher orders are becoming rarier. ( though OP cannot get one since she was not married a mesher order is nirmally closer to 50% then normally appointed as the massive deley in getting it and remeber its the price when the trigger for the order happens not when they split.