@MissedTheBoatAgain
If you are aware that I have been on MN for some time have you actually read my posts - my DAB did not turn up to my Final
hearing - she informed me Saturday my hearing was on Tuesday.
I suffer with depression at times of stress I cannot function - I had prepared a file for the judge in addition to the normal hearing files - for her to refer to when I became emotional as i knew I would.
Except I didn’t expect my X’s barrister to attack my MH so viciously as he did - constantly asking why I was unable to work, making out my MH Is all in my head which ironically it is - but that I don’t really have depression despite many many many letters on file - this attack only stopped when I ran out the court - the judge did not stop this - why did she let it continue to the point where I said I feel suicidal - does that quantify what I’m saying. YOu get to this point because nobody believes what the fuck you are saying - despite the proof - what sort of justice system is this - my solicitors told me i needed a four bed house - my solicitors told me to spend £40k on a new car - my solicitors told me I would definitely get joint lives spousal - either they were so out of touch with what is current decisions in court to be professionally incompetent or they were playing a game.
“Alleged failure of the system” - of course you have to say this - this system pays your wages!
“Am I taking it to appeal” - now you see I think this is another manipulation of the system - 28 days you get to appeal - why not longer - the court doesn’t work on 28 days to anything - I was fucked when I came out of that court room - not the full final hearing in Feb where I self repped because my barrister didn’t turn up - but the March hearing - the little one hour hearing just to split the pension - except I had a barrister here - she identified all the previous failings - the reason why the Feb hearing should have been adjourned, the lies my x told to the judge, the decision that I could return to full time work in a couple of years based on what Exactly? But you see she too didn’t stand a chance because the x’ barrister here - different to the Feb one - was an old chum of the judge - both worked at same chambers!
She asked for a retrial because my Feb one was unfair - she asked for an appeal - the judge said no - I wonder why ? She prepared a file for me to pursue an appeal if I wanted.
Except my head was fucked - i’d Done everything I could to prepare a file - I’d spent £93k on legal fees - you now what I reckon I could have done bugger all, no paperwork, no solicitor and not come out any worse off - why did I go through this not to protect myself but my kids! KIds - priority and All that! I’d like to fucking know right now who’s priority they are!
So to appeal another £30k maybe? To go through what I’d just been through even I’m not that bloody stupid!
Except right now my head’s fucked - I have to give notice on the rent of the former family home tomorrow - 2 months notice- this is 18 Feb! I can’t afford to continue to pay the rent til August and end of lease! The house I’m buying is 200 miles away - £240k as opposed to the £450k! I can’t afford anything other than a one bed flat where I live - I’m paying DS school fees because cunt x claimed he couldn’t afford them - this was when my DS was suicidal - in case you missed this bit!
So right now I can’t make the sums work - not like the judge whose sums did not add up - why? Who the fuck knows - when you do your case studies do the sums have to add up or do they say oh it’s adrift by £72 k - never mind it’s close enough!
Well that £72k makes a huge fucking difference to me! And more to the point I emailed her but we’ve all experienced “lost in the post”
So @Xenia - what I want to know is if I pay a visit to the old bill and say look my x lied in court here’s the proof - will they trott him off to clink - or because I’m joe bloggs and he’s not a politician - although he was personality of the year in his industry! - will it get lost In the never ending to do pile.
See I have to make a decision -the x is aware of all above - he knows I’m going to be moving - because the kids will have to live with him to finish their a levels - but he will not communicate with me - ignores ignores ignores - but I’ve also had to make sure I’ve bought a 3 bed house because I can’t actually rely on him to do this - and it may all go tits up! This will be school fees down the pan kids mental health down the pan everything down the pan except the company!
This judgement of fact - who will have a copy - x solicitor ? Will it be on court file along with my various emails that never seemed to be received? I think I need a copy of this because it must have the maths! If there isn’t one is this a procedural failure of the judge - is this like a form e - you know a document that’s part of the process - except maybe judges can decide oh I won’t bother with that today!
So missedtheboat what have you got to say now - full of vitriol perhaps? I over exaggerated the figures?
I used to be a mortgage broker - let’s imagine a client came to me and said I want to buy a house I’ve seen this one I like it it’s £500k - they have never owned a house before - they have no idea how it works - all they have been told is find a house you like and we’ll take it from there.
So they have £100k deposit - they had the sense to save this - and need a mortgage of £400k they earn £50k. So I know there’s no way they can afford it - but they really like the house and tell me it’s their dream home - so I say well you never know it depends on the bank manager of the day - let’s put your salary down as £150k . Now they also don’t know that this will be confirmed by their employer - why would they they’ve never done this before - and I don’t tell them - why well because they really love the house and I don’t want to say you cannot afford it because then they may go elsewhere. So I play along with it - hopefully someone else may buy it and they’ll never know or I can just say oh that bank manager Yes he doesn’t like new builds - never lends money on new builds - I’m sure I told you this at the start. So they say can we have our deposit back? Oh no that got used for all the paperwork - did you think it was for the house? No I’m sure I said it was for the paperwork and you need another £100k for the house!
Who’s at fault in this situation missed - the client or the mortgage broker?
Right now I feel sick - my heart is starting to pump crazy - I Bet you’re going to tell me the client and come up with some bullshit as to why it was their fault - and you know what if you were convincing enough I may believe you because ive been gaslighted before and right now I’m pretty vulnerable - but we all know it’s the mortgage broker, the professional the one who does this day In day out, the one with qualifications and how many years experience - but no it’s the client she wanted a house with a pink door - if only she’d chosen one with a blue door it may all have been different!
Now I have to get up and tell my kids what’s happening - before Christmas or after Xmas ? Or If I ignore it will it go away - or do I pay a visit to my x,s office and ask him why the fuck does he not reply to emails about the kids living arrangements -do I wnt to get police involved - damn quickest way to do it!
Oh and apologies if I Come across as a bit irrational - I am fucking rational as hell - just dealing with a bunch of incompetent arseholes!