Police called out to my crying screaming daughter!

[paulanthony1976]

Hi everyone,
So our families bank holiday was ruined by a knock at the door on Saturday night at 10.30pm by the police. Someone had reported a disturbance from our home which the police came to investigate.

I was in bed already, as were the kids, and my wife was getting ready for bed when they knocked us up and interrogated us like criminals. About an hour earlier my 3 year old daughter had been kicking screaming crying tantrum as she didn't want to go to bed, but she soon wore herself out and was fast asleep when the cops came.

They took my kids names and birthdays and school details etc, as well as my wives and mine personal and work details. They had a good look around the house, checked on the kids sleeping in their rooms, asked us lots of questions and then left. Upon leaving the police told us they were satisfied that it was a false alarm, that the matter was closed, and that we had nothing to be worried about.

The next day on Bank Holiday Sunday at 9am, the police returned to our cul-de-sac, knocked on all our friends/neighbours doors and asked lots of questions about our family and if they had heard noise. Needless to say when the police left all our friendly neighbours came back over to us to tell us about their interviews with the police and to get the gossip from us and to express their support to us, and to condemn the "snake in the grass" living among us, and the for wasting the police time.

Although we had done nothing wrong, we now feel like criminals, and losing sleep worrying. Not to mention being gossiped about by our neighbours, even though all our kids play together in the street.

We are really angry at being falsely accused of something, a 3 year old cannot legally create a disturbance, can they? also angry at being told it was a closed matter, when then the next day they came back to interrogate our friends and neighbours. Can I complain for harassment and intimidation, or for defamation and libel?

I am now walking on broken glass every time my kids throw a tantrum and fearful of another public complaint or visit by the police and/or social services.

Any thoughts or suggestions are welcomed please.

Bingo!

I suggest you check your local environmental health website on what constitutes as acceptable noise and what is not regardless of hours. Oh btw it totally over rides your tenancy agreement infact your tenancy agreement will state about harassment/nusiances of neighbours including noise. Even my private owned home noisey skanky neighbours are not exempt from it, they already had written warning stating it can result in court action.

I'm wondering just what level of noise went on for police to come as usual environmental health is first port of call for wanky noisey neighbours.

Wonder if your vibrant neighbours just had enough finally.

You're making yourself sound ridiculous now.

The call wasn't passed to police as a child having a tantrum it was passed as a child screaming (most likely). Huge difference.

Whether you stay in a place with a 0 crime rate or the worst area imaginable police will always attend a call like that

You've been offered some good advice but are choosing to ignore it and focus on being argumentative

The 'crime' is not having a tantrum.

The 'possibility of crime' was raised by late night screaming. Something which you know happened.

Anything,really, anything cn happen behind closed doors. You cannot tell which family includes a child abuser by looking.

But you can report when you perceive a child in distress.

And those reports might lead to a lo of idiots where actually everything is ok.

But from time to time they save suffering (save lives even).

And that's what the "bitches and trolls" see as a good thing but, seemingly, OP does not.

LoftyJen, and other nicies,
thank you for your rational views and useful opinions which r appreciated,

to the trolls; go get a life/

What do you think a troll is, OP?

I can't. I'm too busy nurturing my kids.

"to the trolls; go get a life"

A sentiment with which all would agree.

"a lo of idiots"

DYAC - a lot of reports

A troll is someone who disagrees with the OP Tantrums, 'rational' 'nicies' are people who agree with him.

Such a reasonable system

I can understand that having the police come to your house might be a shock.
But whoever phoned the police was concerned about your child. They had no way of knowing it was a tantrum, they just heard a child scream that obviously sounded like the child was in trouble so they called the police.
You say that they should have come over and you would have been friendly and shown them round the house. They had no way of knowing that, and by your attitude on your posts I very much doubt it.
You point the finger at your neighbour but have no proof but still talk of posting earplugs through her letter box. That would be at best passive aggressive at worst harrassing her. Well done you for wanting to do that to a woman living on her own.
The police were right to follow up on any suspected abuse, that's their job.
Put it behind you and leave your neighbour alone.

You are getting rather rude there, OP, to people who disagree with your viewpoint.

If that is the attitude that you permanently have then I think you will have far bigger problems as your children get older.

If the 1976 is significant, that makes you 37/38 yes?
So 50's isn't that much older really is it?

1976 is the year that I got married,

Or do you want to live in a nanny state instead? we all know what a nanny state looks like to!

Woah! Daily Mail alert Police should never investigate reports of screaming children because that's nanny state ?? Bollocks.

Is that you with a name change

And it would be "what a nanny state looks like too" OP. As

I was thinking that too with a name change!

Did you actually leave your three year old to cry her tantrum out? That is what I am wondering from the phrasing of the OP. As you say she was screaming and crying then wore herself out?

I live in a semi-detached house with very quiet neighbours. I have a three year old and older dc too. I do tell dc to keep the noise down so as not to disturb the neighbours. It is possible.

As you're so into educational trips and that...

Weirder and weirder.

Paula and Tony or Paul Anthony?

And if you got married in 1976 how can you be young and vibrant and calling fiftysomethings 'old women'?

Date of birth maybe?

If you got married in 1976 I doubt you have kids who are 3 and 6.
Unless you're Charlie Chaplin of course.

this is turning into my favourite thread ever, can we have it moved to classics

You aren't the same Dad who trapped his kid's finger in the Ryanair toilet door and wanted to sue them are you?

His tone was somewhat similar.

I think OP is busy name changing again...