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Husband refusing to divorce on grounds of his adultery.

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WantsADivorce · 24/07/2013 15:22

Have NCd

My husband and I separated in March. three weeks after the separation he began seeing another woman, they are still together now. I think it's safe to assume they're shagging.

We had been married less than a year, and I have said I would like a divorce based on his post separation adultery (which I have researched and is possible).

He is refusing as he doesn't want it on record that he committed adultery. I don't really see the big deal, it's not like you have to take the divorce certificate into job interviews or hand it out to prospective romantic partners.

He is apparently concerned that in hundreds of years a distant descendant might go on 'who do you think you are' and his adultery will be outed. Confused

He also says that I cannot prove that he has had sex with his gf.

Honestly I just want some real closure and a divorce would give me that. I am not currently ready for a new relationship, but when I am I don't want the fact that I am still married to be hanging over my head and if he will not agree to divorce on the grounds of his adultery then I will be forced to wait until March 2015. it doesn't seem fair.

What can I do?
TIA for any advice

OP posts:
MumnGran · 25/07/2013 14:26

weird! Do sexual things have a different spin?
or is it just that you have to detail the behaviour, and that is what was meant by my legals? whereas you don't have to detail adultery.

Sorry. No intent to hijack. Just thoroughly confused by this!

iheartdusty · 28/07/2013 23:34

i think you have it right there MumnGran - adultery just means one thing, but you have to be specific about unreasonable behaviour and it has to be 'unreasonable enough'.

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