THIRD party uploading photographs of my child on social networks. information/advice please??

[AMummyFromNotts]

Hello
I sent my ex partner a few photographs of my child nothing was intended other than just showing him how much she has grown.

I then see these photographs passed on to his mother which she has posted all over fb without my permission or even any acknowledgement from ex they have been passed on in the first place at all.
Second of all it been done publicly and there no privacy settings provided.So there all sorts of people who can view these photographs or even worst copy and paste them .The manner they have been shared just makes this even worst and personally just shows lack of respect.

There also a numTber of comments from unknown people that i personal don't know or are any relation to my child whatsoever.

third of all the child is under the age of 16 and we talking around 8ish months here

1. Legally the father doesn't ottained any PR rights to approve to any of this behaviour.

tbh before i had my child i used to think why people where so touchy about this kind of stuff .
But when you stumble across photographs of your child without any indication of them being in the view of the public and not even asked beforehand was just shocking and the lack of care in the way they have been posted just makes me more annoyed!!

All these photographs was directly took by myself and i never expected them a week later to be uploaded on a soical network site by someone i never gave them to in the first place.(I blocked her from acessing my fb so whilst browsing with mates somewhow i stumble across them accidently tbh so it was a complete shock.)

His mother doesn't have a realtionship with my child so it not even a case of that .Not going into the details about how this come about .
She aware i particuly don't like her/anybody uploading photographs of my child before it even came to none speaking terms.
In the past i have got a photograph removed but they are just then uploaded again 5mins later even worst without my consent/permission again.
I am not going to continue to waste my time filling out copy right forms for them to just be ignored.

And as a mother i am funny about uploading photographs of myself close relative and my child and if i do they are limited to who can view these so it not even a case of that i do it and expect no1 else to.
these photographs haven't even been uploaded on my own profile they was intended to be on my phone and for personal/family memories pretty much.
I have no problem with her having photographs of my child on her phone etc but when they are uploaded on social networks without my approval it a different story.

I don't know if this is far fetch but is this a police matter? could i report my findings to a police officer who can warn her to remove any existing photographs?As it clearly obvious she continues to ignored what i say and the social network removal policy.

does he have shared parental responsibility? If he does, then i suppose he doesn't need permission. Sorry can't be more help, someone who knows about these things will be along soon im sure. Im sure you can contact facebook and ask that the pictures are removed.

You can report the photos to Facebook (or whatever site it is) but I don't think it's a police matter.

No he doesn't have PR .
So he not entitled to consent to anything and even if he was it stilll should be a joint descision between both parents .

I got some previous ones removed of fb but then she just uploads them again .
So that techinque is jut pointless..

I'd keep reporting them. And don't send him any more photos. If you want him to see them, load them to Flickr or something similar, preferably Google+ where you can lock them down more, and then if she posts a link to them on FB or wherever you can just take the photos down yourself.

My X's ow does this too. It pisses me off no end. as all her druggy mates told her how much Dc look like HER

If I report them will FB take them down?
Will she know it's me thats reported? We aren't friends but she has zero security and is a friends with friends of mine.

Tbh i never thought for a second he would of pass them on . honestly thought he would keep them for personal use or whatever but obviously not won't be sending anymore though as they are just uploaded everywhere.

But if a school teacher or a stranger uploaded photographs without my approval i'm sure legal actions can be taken ?
I was even ask by tutors and people i know to sign consent forms to ottain photographs of field trips and so on so, i dont see why the rule don't apply in this case

OP, you took the photos so you own the copyright and can have FB take them down as before.. But you can't stop MIL or ExP taking their own photos and posting them, just as you couldn't stop a parent at a party or whatever. Parental responsibility is nothing to do with it.

Unless there are child protection issues with your DS being on there, I would leave it and seethe quietly - and not send any more pictures digitally!

Cross posted.

No, no legal action could be taken. The school consent forms are a courtesy and probably do cover some children with CP issues also.

If rights over a person's image worked how you suggest, we wouldn't have papparazzi (which might be a good thing!)

I aware of that.
I own all the copy right photographs of these what have been uploaded .
But i understand if they was to take photographs of my child ofn there own devices they entitled to do what they like and i would have no control on what happened to them
so that is a valid point

But i own these photograph they was taken on my mobile and camera so what my rights to controlling where they go then ?

But papparazzi take them on there own devices so they have full copy right .
If someone would to take that photograph taken by that papparazzi surely legal action taken ? or copy right action comes into motion where the other papps would be forced to remove the image .

Ok. I think it would be a civil matter not a police matter.

So FB will keep taking them down if you keep alerting them.
But it seems like mil is putting them back anyway. You could probably get a solicitor to write a letter pointing out she is breaching your copyright but I wonder if it would be worth it as even if she took them down permanently surely she would post ones that her or your ExP had taken in their place?

I agree it is annoying but I don't think you can achieve your goal of her not posting any photos of your DS for strangers to comment on etc, only protect these specific photos.

If you think she'd just keep reposting the photos, could you just accept they're there to stay but ask, via your ex, that she sets the privacy controls to her friends only? Then don't send any more.

Ok since fb changed ,i am finding it difficult to report and remove.
But I will be contacting a solicitor for a letter to be sent regarding the issue .

I am aware of the fact if they was to take photographs i wouldn't be able to say much and obviously in that case i would of consented to it in the first place.
this image isn't suitable to be posted .Anyone can ottain these images simply by copying and pasting and print screening.
I am more than annoyed because they havent consulted to me or told y exp haven't even told me about the image being passed on to another party it took me stumble across it accidently to realise this .
My heart was in my mouth when i seen it

I think jammy has the best idea, you can set individual settings for photos so she could do this. Some people don't realise that you can set your facebook settings to friends only, so keep it friendly and ask that she does this. If she doesn't, get facebook to remove them.

Ah, I didn't realise the photo's not really suitable to be posted. I'm not familiar with how to get fb to remove it, hope you work it out.

Me and his mother no longer talk .
We not on commuicating terms .
I have a police warn my exp for threatening behavoiur .
I had a number of abusive emails of this women in the past i am not going to directly contact her as this make provoke situations .
That wouldn't be a wise idea .
only think i can do it removed photographs without confronting her using fb

can you ask his mother to put more privacy on her photos, or take them down?

Im assuming theyre just normal child pictures? what are you worried might happen if people see the pictures?

Ah yes, that does change things - but if the pictures were not suitable for publication, why did you give them to him? I would be very curcumspect about what you pass on to him in future.

I would try asking her to change settings first if possible

Btw if the reason it isn't suitable is nudity (picture in the bath or whatever) FB May well take it down for that reason. If it is because it is identifying of eg house or school I would hope MIL or ExP would see sense.

what makes the situation worst is the fact . We do not like each other .
The worst possible thing you can do is attack someone through emailing then 4 months down the line upload photographs of there child without acknowlegement . I don't want to give her the upper hand by contacting her telling her to remove them as i know it isn't going end nice and then it going look like i am going out my way to cause trouble . I am very annoyed more about the fact she uploading photographs without my consent but then yet again is might be an excuse to start a confrontation knowing i might get in contact asking her to remove don't want to fall in her hands

Sorry, x post re abusive emails etc.

Sorry, you gave the photos to your ex so they become his & he can choose what to do with them. You are making mountains out of molehills.

Regardless what tbh she shouldn't post them, no1 should post photographs of other people children unless of course it at a party or gathering but randomly posting photographs with no event or point in doing it are different in my opinion
And if i was to post any photographs of any of her children i sure would be putting up with alot of abusive emails from her and family members .
Yes i did give him the photos but it doesn't entitle him to pass them back and forth there a limit to how you manage that image you recieve
but he sure hell won't be getting any more .
And i will be getting fb to remove them when i figure out how to ..
I may contact my local police officer to warn them off and make them aware i am not happy with this and if it continues i will take legal action .
then mayb it might stop what you reckon people?nd obviously in the future he won't get any images

We have just been thru this exact same thing although from the other side.

you don't go in to any real details, is he seeing your child etc etc

My partner is fighting to see his children and on occasion we bumped in to her and she allowed me to use my camera to take pictures of the children and my partner which i posted on to Facebook now I'm the devil for doing it. As is my partner for posting pictures of his children on to Fb for his friends and family to see, so of the people looking she doesn't know in the same respect if she posts pictures my partner won't know who is looking at them.

I dont really see the issue here there his children his mothers grandchildren and they more then likely what to show off how beautiful your children are and how they have grown where is the harm in that????
Yes I agree they should be private etc but you sent the pictures and probably because you dont like the mil your more annoyed in the exact same way my partners ex dislikes me!

It nothing to do with disliking that a sperate issue .
I never created the wedge she was being abusive saying she going try and get full custudy of my child etc .
and throwing out all these sorts of threats so she only the person to blame for the disliking business .
My main problem is i don't upload images of my own child myself so what make her think she entitled to ?
She never been in contact with my child to take photographs so it not a case of going to a birthday party where she attends and get an image that way
and i do it on a very high privacy setting where only certain people on my friend list can view .
He doesn't see his child regular due to the case she is the grandparents but she doesn't have contact with my dd due to what happened .
Atm i also going throu a CSA as my exp claiming he isn't the father so yet again they all contridicting theresevles .