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Help!! Court action wondering??

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AMummyFromNotts · 07/01/2012 17:28

Hi,
I have a 10 week old baby and i have given access to my ex partner(which he always had anyways ) he taking court actions against me i don't know what for really as he has access already:S and it regular contact
He constantly chaning his mind one minute he was going for fulll custody the next he going for PR i really confused however whatever he going for he said it won't take long during the time he had access, i just dismissed all his comments as i cba to have a battle.
I didn't put him on the birth certificate for a valid reason
I just wondering what do you lot think his next move is and how long does it all take ? Does he even have a case as after all he has access?
What the point in him having access to still want to take court actions?
I just don't understand what exactly he after .

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AMummyFromNotts · 18/01/2012 17:57

It also varies from person to person .
Your missing a key point your next door neighbour is a completely different cattle of fish here ,i assume he has a stable home that he doesn't share which is appropriate for a child upbringing.And also by sounds of it i whole heartly believe him and his ex agreed on such arrangements .
I know 100% the courts wouldn't offer aslong as that it just too much for any young child to cope with 3 days at her fathers 4 days with mother that a little choatic for a young child brain don't you think ?Having like half her belonging at her fathers half at home or even worst packing and unpacking her clothes every 4 days. How would that even fit around both our work schedules it would be an nightmare it would constantly be adjusted then readjusted.And the key point is a child needs consistently and regular patterns esp youngs ones
The bond is between father and child not child and not x-y-z that the focus.

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AnitaBlake · 19/01/2012 00:24

Why does he need too prove all these tbhings to you? You've been apart maybe 8weeks, and he's changed so much? You trusted him enough to have a child with him, and now you won't allow him more than 45mins a week. Who will look after her while you are at work when you go back? Have you started giving tbem 45mins a week too? You daughter will be happy so long as she is loved. And will know that she is with people who love her. Allow her to have aproper relationship with hher daddy, for both your sakes.

EllenandBump · 19/01/2012 00:49

Family courts do seem not to be expensive, but my ex;s solicitor hasnt been back in contact with my solicitor yet and that letter was received on the 6th (a saturday) But they should have been able to deal with it on monday surely. Just waiting to hear. I believed you had to go to mediation first, but due to domestic violence i can ask apparently to skip that stage. Just keep waiting, would rather know what i am headed for.

Ellie127 · 02/08/2023 15:01

Hi. I am just looking for a little advice. My baby is 5 months old, my babies dad and I are no longer together as he walked out and left us. He has proposed to see my son 3 nights a week, two nights during the week and bring him back early morning before he goes to work (he lives 40 minutes away) and alternative Friday/Saturday nights for the full following day. It’s so important to me that my son has stability and knows his home is here with me, I feel like three over night stays is a little too much, considering his age. I don’t know where I stand with this, if it was to go to medication/court. Any help/advice would be very much appreciated

Ellie127 · 02/08/2023 15:15

Hi. I am just looking for a little advice. My baby is 5 months old, my babies dad and I are no longer together as he walked out and left us. He has proposed to see my son 3 nights a week, two nights during the week and bring him back early morning before he goes to work (he lives 40 minutes away) and alternative Friday/Saturday nights for the full following day. It’s so important to me that my son has stability and knows his home is here with me, I feel like three over night stays is a little too much, considering his age. I don’t know where I stand with this, if it was to go to medication/court. Any help/advice would be very much appreciated

JibbaJab · 02/08/2023 15:27

My point of view he could be doing this due to your views and your expectations, which are yours alone not everyone else's. I wouldn't be happy with 45mins contact, I wouldn't expect them to stay away from mother at that age but that's short isn't it?

And yes a lot of fathers put no effort in at all but others do and want to be in their lives. I'm having to go through court myself as I've been refused contact for months, not even a phone call after I've been a stay at home dad nearly ten years.

So, as in the case of my wife, she hasn't thought this through but does not want to share at all, they are a possession and I'm supposed to just walk away and forget them, not a chance. Mine involves DA as well and they are isolated with her, so damn right I'm going for residency.

My view is my actions are valid and necessary for my children, just like any mother would all based off her previous and current behavior. He may not be perfect but it could very well be the same, considering what you've said so far.

You also need to bear in mind your child isn't going to be that age forever and as they grow older, more contact will be sought and granted.

I think just like my wife, you need to look at things outside your own perspective because the world don't work that way.

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