can the father of my children stop me moving

[mickie2011uk]

can the father of my children stop me moving from coventry to brighton ???

Sorry, I missed that - I thought it was the mum who was kicking them out.

Probably unreasonable - I have something of a bee in my bonnet on this topic, so should probably be quiet when it comes up.

I would carefully check Brighton councils criteria for accepting people onto the homeless register and housing waiting list before you make a decision to move if I were you. I know that it varies from council to council, but in my area (neither of the ones you have mentioned) I know that I had to prove that I had been resident in the area for 6 of the last 12 months, or 3 of the last 5 years before they would accept me onto either list when I moved back here. I was very lucky that I just squeaked in on the 3 of the last 5 years criteria and had I stayed where I was for one more week, I would have missed out and had to have waited 6 months while staying with family before i was even accepted onto the list.

If Brighton will accept you onto their lists, then it may be that your best bet is to move in with your sister temporarily and register straight away as homeless to get a place in a hostel. Once you are in there, you will get priority housing so would have a place to call your own much quicker. If it all goes ok with your sister, there is no reason you can't stay the odd night with her (although do check the hostel rules on spending nights away first as some can be funny about it) to give you a change of scenery and a bit of a break, but if you leave it until the inevitable stress of lots of people in a small flat means that your sister asks you to leave, you risk losing that support and bolt hole.

excuse me 1 i'm not taking his daughter away his daughter lives with him we have 2 boys 2gether the reason y he kicked me out was because he hit me in front of our children so i have no sympathy what so ever how dare u judge any 1 when you dont no the facts !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

my mums kickin me out but he did kick me out x

If you are new to mumsnet, you may be unfamiliar with the terms 'stealth reveal' and 'drip feed'.

Anyway. Sorry, and sorry you've had a bad time. I hope it works out.

what does that mean ?

He hit you. If you had approached women's aid chances are you would be re housed by now!

Anyway,good luck, you need some. It's been a traumatic time.

Mickie if you had said all of that about the hitting etc in your first post then people could have advised you differently from the start.....

I'm going to leave this thread now.

all i wanted 2 no is if he he could stop me use the ones going in 2 the whole story i felt like i had 2 defend myself !!!

Custody, contact and the like aren't cut and dried. Every situation is different which is why people were asking for details. It isn't to be nosy or judge, it is to establish what is the best advice to give you and also so that people can make suggestions about things you may not have thought of yourself.

You have been offered overhwelmingly supportive advice and you have been rude, defensive and snippy in return. If people are now being shirt with you, I suggest you look to your own behaviour as to why that may be.

It may also help if you fully type out all the words in your post, as many people here simply don't do text speak, so with the best will in the world will misunderstand your posts because they are hard to read and decipher.

hang on a minute someone has already said this to me is there any need for you to repeat it ???? i understood a page ago why they asked them questions and as i explained know one said me oh well a judge might ask you this so you need to sort your defence out , they just fired the questions at me and if cant understand my posts dont comment

because you obviously wouldn't no what your commenting about and were's the lodgic in that ?

when you go to court for family/children matters there is a box to tick which asks "is there domestic violence".

domestic violence changes things.

it also changes things from homelesssness /housing perspective.

did you report him hitting you and do you have a police crime reference number?

no i never reported him for doing it x

My partner got a prohibated steps order from the court in a day when his ex partner threatend to move to spain. He got that through legal aid when he was between jobs.

it is a bit difficult to bring up domestic abuse/violence if you havent reproted it - if anything does happen in future be sure to report to police straight away.

Whoa... hold on a minute, there is a big difference from moving within the UK to relocating abroad. The courts have made it quite clear that usually it would be inappropriate to prevent the parent with majority of care of a child from moving within the Uk. The exceptions are when the proposed move is to somewhere inaccessible or the motivation for the move is deemed purely to frustrate contact.

As long as there are realistic and practical arrangements for education, employment, housing, schooling, finances, contact and travel an application to prevent the move is unlikely to be successful. The courts also consider the motivation of the parent objecting to relocating and whether that is out of a desire to control the parent rather than for the benefit of children.

OP, you need to consider how realistic and stable your plans are for the children.