Adoption, fostering and a bit complex!

[zeebrugge]

I was adopted as a baby in 1971 and lived with my adopted parents until March 1987 when they were both drowned in the Zeebrugge Ferry disaster. I was put in short term foster care and then long term foster care until I timed out on my 18th birthday.

I was allowed to visit my former home, on the day after the funeral, to collect my belongings but never stayed there again. When my aunt and uncle came back from Denver in 1989 they lived there for a while.

Now I can sort of understand why I wasn't in the will, being adopted rather than a birth child. But as somebody told me over Christmas, and why I am writing, surely I was left something. Did I really matter so little.

Now you've set me off searching, how long did finding that lot take, or is it all on The Spreadsheet (TM)?

This is freaky - I went on the Bereavement board tonight (don't usually, but had had some sad news earlier). I clicked on one thread and thought, oooh, this style looks very familiar, did a quick search on MN and re-read some of the original posts here, thought, yup, and asked MN. I now see you've been having a delete-fest here, while I've been most, err, disorganised.

Or am I missing the boat and being a bit thick and unkind?

Nope.

MrsS - yes it is easy ti MISS the point and get disorganised.

Actually - I am still upset with OP having lost people I knew and parents of friends at Zeebrugge. And it had a huge ongoing effect on people working on the ferries. MNHQ - I know you can't prove anything at all - but it would not hurt even the OP if this thread disappeared....

Crikey! Was there a bunfight?

Just read this, what's with the deletions? Is op a bridge dweller?

It seems some people are convinced the OP is making the whole thing up. I don't know the basis for this belief although it appears to be based, at least in part, on alleged similarities with the style of one or more other posters. If the OP is telling the truth she will have found the deleted posts quite insulting.

I don't see why it shouldn't be real. There seem to be an awful lot of lawyers ^^ up there, who seem convinced. I haven't read anything that shouts troll.

The aunt and uncle have been living off Op's money for 23 years apparently - including the highlife in France - after surrending their passports. And they have ALREADY (within weeks of being caught) handed over a sum of cash more than 6 years wortth of Op's dh's oilrig earnings. Now the op has moved back to the distinctly average family home - mortgage paid off. How much insurance did these people have? Why were the accounts not frozen? Where were SS? Normally there should be another trustee? Where was op when her parents went off to Zeebrugge? Where had they been? The ferry was coming from Belgium that night. As a minor, no way would she have just been handed over without the authorities being involved.

There are obvious answers to some of your questions. For example, the OP would have been 15 or 16 when her parents went to Zeebrugge. Many of those involved in the disaster were on a day trip through a promotion organised by The Sun. I don't find it particularly hard to believe that the parents may have gone on this day trip leaving the OP to look after herself for a day. Some of your other questions also have obvious answers but I would agree that some do not.

I have no idea whether the OP is telling the truth or not. It may be that those who allege she is posting under multiple identities are correct. I generally take posts on here at face value. Maybe that means I get suckered sometimes.

If the Op was sock puppeting, hq would know surely! They are pretty quick to delete usually? Or are we saying that each SP post was sent from a different sock puppet address? And I know that he whole story is a bit strange, but you only have to read the newspapers to see that weird stuff happens everyday! People go through hell right under our noses all the time!
She started this thread in 2010, and it's still here. Plenty of time for HQ to investigate, surely?

Maryz - I agree totally. I worry that money has changed hands and that PMs are going on behind the scenes....not necessarily on this thread.....