I get asked a lot if I'm going to have one final go for a girl (have three sons), this irritates me as it implies that I am not satifsied to have three lovely healthy boys, and people can imply that my life is not quite right without a girl in the mix (like we get a choice what we have!).
I am not so irritated when people ask if I'm going to have another, and are not 'gender specific!'. I think as someone has mentioned that people are just interestd, curious, nosey even - but I can live with that!! For some mums it is just a means of conversation.
I think if I'm honest I get annoyed when people ask if I'm going to try for a girl because deep down I know I would have loved a girl. Sometimes we think about going for no 4, both of us would be happy with another boy, but admittedly we would both love a girl and then I think I the comments about bet you're hoping for a boy, and if it is a boy 'ah, never mind, four boys, what a handful blah bloody blah!!' would really annoy me.
Random mums at toddler groups seem to be quite negative about boys (one said to me 'oh poor you!' when I had my youngest son, took a lot of restraint not to punch her on the nose! Am curious, do mums with three girls get the 'going to try again for a boy' question, and is it said in a negative slant to your girls, or am I hijacking this thread??!!
As for retorts, I work as a teacher in a school for children with profund and multiple disabilities, and I tend to say 'well, when you work where I do, I realise I am so lucky to have three happy healthy children and am thankful for what I have'. This works well with the gender question, and then people usually drop the subject. I do actually mean this as well, working where I work does make you feel thankful and blessed for what I have (and it also stops me feeling too sorry for myself when I think about not having a girl, we really are lucky to have healthy children whatever their gender)
Cor that turned into a long post!! x