I have 4 children and wont be having any more but I want another baby, when will this feeling go ?

[fidelma]

My youngest is 6 months and I feel like I want another help

I know how you feel, my youngest is 6 months also and I have had a strong urge since he was born to have another. I only have two at present. My hubby isn't too keen to have any more and to be honest I know deep down that I need to return to work, earn money and secure our future before having any more, and should I really be feeling like this when I only had one 6 months ago? I feel that I'm neglicting the babies needs!

my youngest is just 4 and the feeling is juwst starting to fade. I only have 2 but wanted at least 4. not sure it ever goes away just gets less intense.

I know the feeling - my 3rd and youngest son is 7 months and I'm longing for another one too. We just about make ends meet as it is and are a bit squeezed in here. Our families live miles away so we get no help and are always tired but if my dh wanted another I'd be more than happy to go for it. I love my 3 boys to bits but deep down I'd love a daughter which I think is less likely for us. i wish the broodiness would go away too!

Chrysanthamum we had 2 girls then tried the boy thing 2 boys later

I also have friends who have had great success with the timming method.

Well it's worth a go if you are quite relaxed about it.

I know how you feel, I have four (two boys and then twin girls) and i still think about having more. Its daft little things like thinking I'll never be pregnant again (yeah cause that was like loads of fun), or have a tiny baby again.

In other more sane moments I think god I can hardly cope with the kids I've got, far less more!

I have 3 and really want a fourth. It won't be happening as DH had a vasectomy

His reasoning is that if I had a fourth I'd want fifth.

I'm hoping that eventually it will wear off.

This will be me - am pregnant with dc4 - but I love being pregnant and new born babies...well babies and children in general...
but we have run out of money, room and dh has told me if I want anymore I better find a new man (which seems like a bit too much like hard work to me plus I quite like the one I've got plus who would want someone with 4 kids!!!)

I have 3 girls and have the longing for another really badly.. DH is ok about it, the only thing that stops me is my daughters are 4,3 and 2.
I always feel I am missing someone if that makes sense...

Fidelma
the timing method you tried? Is that were if you want to conceive a boy u do the deed as close to ovulation?

I've have the same feeling since the baby was born 9 months ago. Which is weird because the actual birth should have been enough to put me off totally having any more.

still here with me and i have too many dcs and am 157

( well feel it!)

I am the same, I have 4 aged 6,4,3 and 1 at the weekend. All I keep thinking about is more babies even though I KNOW I am done. We have a fab holiday booked in sept so cant get pg anyway but I dont think I will ever not feel broody

I actually got my mum to video me the day before I had DD2 so I could tell the future me not to do it again. Baby is nearly 7 months old and I really want another. Don't think I'll get one though

i have two and want more. OH says no it hurts alot.

' who would want someone with 4 kids'
well i have 4 kids and im on my own, im not sying ild have more but i sure still long for more. im sure one day god will match me with a man that loves me and all my beautiful babies!

I wanted another one when DC5 was first born. Now she is 3 I can quite categorically say I do not want another. Ever.

Perhaps you aren't finished?

3 peasinapod To have a better chance of having a boy do the deed bang on when you ovulate.I used a clearblue ovulation kit.You must not have sex before ovulation as the girl sperm hang around.The boys swim faster !

It worked twice for me.4 x for my friend.It's worth a go.However 4 girls would be sooooooo lovely.Let me know.

My 4th child (dd3) is 4 weeks old and so scrummy and beautiful I can't help feeling sad that she's my last....

She has to be my last, I had a horrible pregnancy and really don't want 5 children. Plus I've been having kids for 14 years so would really like to have some freedom in my later life

DH is having a vasectomy next month to stop me from being tempted as I know it's a bad idea but don't trust my future self!

My DS is 14 and dd1 12 so I might only have to wait 8-10 years for grandchildren

Those of you with 3 or more DCs already who are "longing for" another one - do you have a harmonious relationship with your partner and agree on child-related things like discipline, getting up in the night etc? Because one of the main reasons I might choose not to have any more is because I wouldn't want to put my marriage under any more strain that it already is - I have become more irritated with my DH with each child!

It does strain your marriage.I should of stopped at 2 but hey ho we are getting there.Luckly dh and I love each other .

odymandrell Sad I know, but me and dp worked out disapline methods, talked routines and decided on who would get up at night for which child before any of them were born, we intended on 2, we've ended up with 4, but aside from a few minor modifications which have been discussed well out of child earshot its worked really well.

My youngest is 9 months and I would love "just one more" but I won't allow myself because it would impact financially too much on the other children.

I was recently told that the urge for "just one more" never goes away. That it would always be there and to squash it as best as possible and move on. I really hope they were wrong

I'm desperate for another one but I MC'd a few weeks ago at 15wks and DH now says no. He can't get over the guilt as it was all very traumatic. We have 3 lovely girls and I am VERY grateful for them all but there is someone missing from our family - he doesn't feel it though and I am heartbroken

Just had my 5th and he has to be my last really.

I said that after my 4th though.

But I am 42 and one of my DCs has SN. OH has a disability and we are on a pretty low income. Oldest (living) child is 16, youngest is 10 weeks.

Head says its time to stop.

Pretty sure we will foster in a few years time. I want to do respite fostering with children with disabilities.

I have a friend with 5 who is finding it really hard to say no more.

Its horrible.