How old are you????

[Zola78]

I know a lady should never be asked or reveal her age but I am interested to find out what age people on this forum started having children and when they stopped. The reason being today I went to the doctors. My eldest has had a terrible cough for over 6 weeks now so I just wanted to make sure he was alright. I had to take all 3 children (ds1 3, ds2 2 1/2 & DS£ 9 months). The way she (the doctor) spoke to me felt a little patronising. I just felt like a child who had done something without thinking i.e having more than 2.4 children. They boys were well behaved but she just kept referring to how many and how young they all are etc.

I had my first child at 26 and my last at 29. I was married (I still am), I own my own home; I'm educated so why then do people presume to have children in your twenties as oppose to your 30s is a juevenille mistake?????

Ds1 at 30
DD at 32
Ds2 at 34
Ds3 at 39
Ds4 at 40
Just as well it took us a couple of years to conceive at the beginning, and in between ds2 and ds3 or we probably would have had more, and now they are older I don't know if I would manage. As it is I'm constanly on the road ferrying people to school, music, soccer, scouts........

yup i so have this problem with doctors.
usually i get "your brave" and are shock when i told them this baby was planned (on my third have 2 and 1 year old) i also have to take them with me and there is no allowence for it, i actually wont be attending my next midwives appointment because the children are not allowed in the room with me, and DH is working all of that day and CANNOT get out of it.

its terrible that doctors feel is ok to pass judgement with you, how dare they? they dont live your life?

i am 23 and married. we rent as mortgages are so dodgy atm we feel safer this way. but in no way are we sponges of the council (not that anything is wrong with ppl live in council housing i mean from a societies pov!)

makes me so mad!

Hiya, I started very young.
DS at 16
DD1 at 18
DD2 at 23
I'm 29 and expecting number 4.
I have done a degree in between DD2 and baby number 4, final in May

I have always been judged and my eldest 2 children are so nice and well mannered I've had people comment on how well I've done which is rather patronising but I suppose nice. I was on my own until I was 21 and met DH who is a fab stepfather.
DD2 who has a father I am married to and live with so 'should' technically be less screwed up is a little madam and has been my most difficult child!!!

I hate stereotypes.
I love lots of children but to most people that makes me uneducated and silly.

What annoys me the most is when random people ask if they were planned?!

Oh and we own our own home and receive nothing apart from child benefit.

I was your typical "career woman" in may peoples eyes, so much so that my Dad was, shall we say, gobsmacked when I told him I was first pregnant. Apparently he presumed that I didn't want to have children !

I have, in fact, always wanted to have family and for it to be as large as possible but having married at 21 and realised at 25 that I really really didn't want to have his children, got divorced and then taken my time to find the right partner (wanted to get it right this time!) so now have.........

DS at 33, now 3.8
DD at 35, now 2.1
no3 due in April so will be 37

All planned and love having close together - both dp and I are from larger families with close age ranges and specifically wanted that for our children.

(sorry, guess I shouldn't technically be in this club only actually having 2 at moment but am trying !)

Most annoying comments:
"must have hands full"
"your brave" (sometimes you can tell they want to say your mad but dare not !)
"this will be your last one then" ie I'm clearly positively acient and decrepid
"ohwell at least it doesn't matter what you have this time" IMO the joy is in having a child, whatever that may be and I'm grateful that we are lucky enough to be able to. This one annoys the most!

I had
age 23 DS1 now 4
age 24 DD1 now nearly 3
age 27 DS2 now 3months

having 3 is great & we hope to have have 1 more
everywhere i go i get "must have your hands full" said in a disapproving-sensible-nastycow manner designed to put me down. I say "yes, aren't they lovely!" in a smug-happy-terrrrriblypolite-human way, as if they have just given me a big compliment. "must have your hands full" makes me laugh now, though I used to get cross. I think it is usually said by people who are secretly jealous.

What really makes me mad is when people tut when we walk by on the street!

I had
dd1 at 20 she will be 10 this year
ds at 25 he will be 5 this year
dd2 at 27 she will be 3 this year
dd3 the day before my 29th birthday, she is now 15 months.
dd4 is due in June, I am and will be 30. I doubt very much that will be my last.

I get comments all the time, you don't look old enough, maybe you should look at more permanant contraception after this one!!! Like I don't know what contraception is???? God that really annoyed me. My consultant recently asked me how I had time to read a book with so many children. I agree with littlemama its pure jealousy.

Respect to all young mums on here - I was 37 with DS1, 38 with DS2 and 42 with DS3, now 10 months old. And I am considering a go at No4... I can only imagine the judging that will go on!
Just remeber, people do judge, and drs/MWs/ HVs are just that: people! Don't let them get to you.

mummy for 3! I like being older

dc1 24
dc2 26
dc3 29
dc4 35
dc5 38
dc6 40

and yes all the same daddy!

I'm 35.I had number 1 at 25,number 2 at 27,number 3 at 29,number 4 at 31,number 5 at 33,number 6 at 34.Number 7 will be born when I'm 35,and same Daddy here too.
I've put up with snotty"teenage Mum" comments from people who obviously don't know me cos I'm far from a teenager.Unfortunately/fortunately I seem to look younger than I am.Now when I go to check ups and scans I am apparently an older mother.Either way I am treated like I'm stupid/irresponsible blah blah because I have all these babies.I couldn't possibly have chosen to have them could I?

I had my first at 20 and my 5th at 32 ( ihave to admit I kept thinking I'm too old for this). I hate it when people ask if they have the same father, they look so alike!

I had my first at 24 and have just had my 6th at 39, but hilariously, people keep asking me if he's my first.....maybe I look younger than I am .......well, people do say that I look years younger (Goodness knows how with all these kids driving me insane LOL!!!

Have to say that people are amazed that they all have the same daddy.

Does anyone else get stared at (and even pointed at!) in the street when out with the whole family??

Hi,
I had DD1 at 25 she is now 10
DS2 at 26 1/2
DS3 at 30
DD4 at 33

nobody stared at me that I have noticed yet put people pull faces when I say I cannot be certain I do not want anymore!

TBH I do not think for is that large a family!

I have never been asked if they had the same father and do not know how I would take it if asked actually. After DS2 was born people already where asking silly things like

hi

1st at 18 now 16
2nd at 26 now 8
3rd at 28 now 6
4th at 30 now 4

would love number five soon

i had my first at 18 he is nearly 21
second at 21 he is 17
third at 25 she is 14
and fourth at 29 she is now 10
i also have two step children , and i am now 39.

I too dont feel i have a big family, however people do say do they have the same father, etc,,, yes my children do all have the same father, but it doesnt stop people asking

i had my first at 18 he is nearly 21
second at 21 he is 17
third at 25 she is 14
and fourth at 29 she is now 10
i also have two step children , and i am now 39.

I too dont feel i have a big family, however people do say do they have the same father, etc,,, yes my children do all have the same father, but it doesnt stop people asking

whoops sorry for double posting there

I am 30 next month and had

dd1 at 21 (8 now)
ds1 at 23 (6 now)
dd2 at 25 (just turned 4)
ds2 at 27 (just turned 2)

we were trying for 5 but just got a fab new job, so have put on hold until after Xmas when i am settled (tis on a Maternity Ward, so they should be nice about it!)

Oh - and all my dh's - we were lucky enough to meet very young through a friend!

DC1 at 27 and DC5 last April before my 32nd birthday, lucky to have one set of twins in the mix would have loved another set.

We get most of the comments (esp "hands full" and "are they all yours?") and loads of double takes but I mostly look at it as a positive thing now. I found parenting one child a real struggle and would never have guessed way back that one day it would come so naturally. I probably have looked in wonder or surprise at larger families myself back then. Of course it's not all plain sailing but the good moments far outweigh any bad.

DH and I have been friends for years (met him when I was 16) and married for several of them. I'd eventually love a 6th, am studying for a degree in my spare time. I think we were indirectly asked if they have the same parents when buying raffle tickets today. The old lady asked each dc what their surname was despite me saying they were one family.

I also get the impression people think I have a big family due to carelessness/ignorance/religious reasons, they are when I point out that I've always wanted a big family without large age gaps.