What made you stop having babies please ?

[KatieDD]

I am in a bit of state of over this, having had a huge tantrum about wanting another baby and Dh finally giving in to shut me up I'm now feeling all wobbly about it.
We have three, we can comfortably afford three, there's not much I ever say no to (although it might not be a bad thing if I did) anyway the 4th would mean changes to our lives, we couldn't afford a bigger car or house so would just have to manage.
Also the "baby" at the moment is 4 and was grown up at 9 months old, I wonder do subsequent children develop much faster and therefore i won't have the lovely baby stage for long anyway.
Just thinking out loud would be grateful for anyone who could decide for me please

In my mind I had always said 1,2 or 4. Aftern my 4th I really did feel complete and was happy to give my baby stuff away and start moving on past that stage. I do on occasions feel a bit sad that I'll never give birth again or bf again but I think that is a natural thing - to do a bit of grieving at the end of a milestone stage.

I alos get pregnant very easily but neither of us want to be sterlised, too much of a "what if" although I think dh is too frightened to have the snap. We're only 31 & 36 though so got some breeding time left.....

DH

he says no more, one of us has to ecide it at some pint so I have chosen to not fight him over it

I have 4

i asked to be sterilised at the end of my first twin pregnancy, but they said i was too young! (after 6 kids)

so when i went back with 2nd set they said ok......i was still too young 29 and 11 months.

cargirl....i am not suprised he is frightened if you call it the 'snap' in your house...lol 'snip' sounds a little less painful!...lol

LOL LOL!

I'vve just had my mirena coil removed so are now relying on condoms and their 15% failure rate for contraception. He tells me has no intention of coming near me rather than get the snip........

KatieDD you can always pick up a cheap car, we bought ours for £1200 about 2yrs ago and its a fab, Toyota Estima 8 seater

we have a 3 bed house, and have our 3 boys in one room and DD in her own room - although we do plan to extend in a couple of years and a add a couple more bedrooms on

Hmmm I'm thinking hubby and I might move into the west wing so they all get a bedroom, ie convert the garage.
A cheapy car sounds good but it's the blooming inrsuance/tax/petrol that puts me off, we shall walk and be fit as butchers dogs (and probably wet too).

KatieDD I'm in a similer position to you. Nagged my dh constantly for 18 months about having another (we already have 3). He eventually gave in, much to my delight. However, my youngest (whoes 2 nearly 3 ) is being so difficult and clingy at the moment its kind of putting me off having another. Plus we've had a succession of broken nights for various reasons so I feel knackered at the moment.

I know the clinginess and toddler tantrums are just a phase. Am hoping that if I wait a short while things will improve and I'll be filled with enthusiasm again about having no 4.

How old are your others?

BBH mine are 7, 5 and 4 so it really is a case of getting on with it asap if i'm going to.
Planning to start TTC in January if we're going to, but am still a bag of nerves.
I've set myself a task to get a load of debt cleared before October and if I do it then I must be committed and if I don't then it's a sign lol