Did you have 3+ children in a row of the same sex?

[PickledElectricity]

I would just like some anecdata please because I am in turmoil.

I am pregnant with my second boy and I know it's stupid and irrational but I thought I was having a girl. I was convinced that I'd have one of each and it be lovely and all done. This illusion was shattered at my 20 week scan. There was no ambiguity!

My son is lovely, he's so gentle and good natured and sweet, I love him to bits. I am excited to meet this baby and see the brothers bond and play with each other.

But I also think it's magical that I come from an uninterrupted line of women since the beginning of time and find it sad that it could "end" with me.

I feel like I personally know quite a few people who had 3/4 children of the same sex before they got the other and then stopped. I don't want to join that club. I never wanted a huge family and think it looks stressful.

I have some time (but not too much given DP's age) to decide if I want a third. I think I could deal with 3 but 4 would push us all over the edge, not least because of the size of our house!

So anyway I'd just like to hear other people's experiences please.

Lots of people have 3+ children of the same sex, I know several families of 4 with all boys or all girls and one family of 6, 5 boys youngest a girl. You will have seen celebrities/ famous families with 3+ of the same sex in a row (eg: The Rooneys have 4 boys, the Beckhams have 3 boys with fourth a girl). Obviously there are also many families who have 2 of the same sex and then the third is of the other. You can’t know which camp you will fall into until you conceive, you might have a third baby and baby is a girl, you might have four more children and only have boys. It is true that if you already have children of one sex it is slightly more likely the next one will be of the same sex (I think I read it’s something like 53% chance of same sex to 47% chance of opposite sex though so not a huge statistical difference) but obviously that’s not the case for everyone. Ultimately you can’t choose your child’s sex (unless you adopt) so the only good reason to have another child is because you want another child, not because you specifically want a boy or girl.

I'm pretty sure there's data that shows the more you have of one sex, the more likely you are to continue to have babies of that sex.

I know quite a few families of three boys or three girls. Can only think of one with a mix. One family of four all girls, and one of five mixed.

@PickledElectricity 3 years between eldest two and then 2 years between youngest and middle child.

4 boys in a row, now pregnant with a girl

Did you keep trying for a girl or just want a big family and didn't care what you had?

I had the same idea! My second is a girl; though, although I can’t quite believe it.

I know a fair few people who have a lot of one gender. One of my close friends has four boys, and really wants a girl. They’re going to try one more time. I was one of four girls, my mum really wanted a boy.

I’m not sure the gender of your husbands siblings makes any real difference. Mine only has brothers (three) and we’re having a girl. I know several women whose husbands only have sisters who have had all boys.

6 DC

DD1, DD2, DD3, DS1 👼 and then DTwins who are DD4 & DS2

At our scan for the twins DH was convinced it would be 2 more girls, you could have knocked him over with a feather when the sonographer said twin 2 was a boy 😂

Yup. I have 4 boys and I wouldn't change it. Convenient in lots of ways - especially with hand-me-downs.

I have 3 boys. Interestingly (there are 2 fathers, but that's not the interesting part!), both these men went on to have another child with another woman. Both men also had a further boy.
My DP is one of 10. It went like this... BBGBBBGGBB. He went on to have a daughter. His eldest brother (he is number 2 boy in the list!) had 2 girls followed by a boy. His eldest sister has had 3 boys. The rest don't have kids yet. I always find it so fascinating
My lovely childminder had 3 boys, went for a 4th... got another boy! Had a surprise 5th pregnancy... finally a girl!
I'm fine with my 3 boy lot. It would be nice to have a daughter, but I'm not that close to my mum, so I don't think having a daughter automatically means having that mother daughter relationship.

The lady across the road had 3 boys. Got pregnant again in error and had a girl. It was lovely as she thought it would be another boy.

@PickledElectricity no we didn't try for a girl in fact I was hoping for another boy, we just knew we wanted 5 children. I still can't get used to referring to the bump as "she/her" 😂 will be lovely to have a girl.

3 boys here! Whilst I wouldn't change them for the world, and didn't have any of them purely trying to get a girl, I would have loved to have had a daughter.

I have three boys and, honestly, I can’t imagine having a girl in there. Apart from
the odd row they all get on well and a sister just wouldn’t have brought the same dynamic.

Four sons in a row. With third I was convinced he was a girl as I felt different to the other two pregnancies. This was before scanning to find out the sex. So right up until I gave birth I thought I was having a girl.

But never regrated any of them.

I have G (2017), B G (2020), B (2022)

well i have 4 boys & 1 girl... but between my 3rd son & 4th son i unfortunatly suffered 3 recurrent misscarriages 🤷🏻‍♀️

Your sons DNA is of less valuithan a hypothetical girl? Your sons children will be less important than a daughter's?

If anything that's worse than "I want someone to do shopping and nails with" wankers.

That's not what I said and you're extrapolating meaning that was never there.

If I said I find roses beautiful it doesn't mean I think all other flowers are ugly and worthless.

Yes, I have 3 DS who have the same genitalia but are all different personalities
All are amazing
I somehow never pictured myself with a DD

That's not true. If you have two of the same you are significantly more likely to have a third of the same, for various reasons.

Plus, it's not even 50/50 for a first birth. Female foetuses are slightly more likely to survive until birth.

Mine are each 3.9 months apart strangely. Certainly didn't plan it that way!

My third was a boy after two girls.

That's very interesting. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage and I sometimes wonder if it was a boy or a girl.

Sorry for your loss

@MeowCatPleaseMeowBack what makes you think that if you have 2 or the same sex you are significantly more likely to have another? A study that looked at all births in Sweden since 1932 found out it was random. You can read about it here:

edition.cnn.com/2020/02/18/health/boys-girls-run-in-families-wellness-scn/index.html

I should have said 'around 50%' for chance or getting each sex.