I wish there was a switch to turn off Broodiness.

[ladytophamhatt]

I'd switch it off, disconnect the wires and mash the switch to bits.

I hate this feeling.

(sorry I said I wouldn't talk aboyt anymore, didn't I?)

Hi Bumface, your last sentence about knowing where you are and our DH's sending our minds into freefall is very true.

I sometimes think I read into Dh's words and actions to much because quite often he doesn't evenn realise that saying one thing to hormonal/broody woman(ie, me!!) can be read as something totally different....

I'm standing firm in my quest for No5 though. where it will be a succesfull quest is an entirely differnet matter.

It would be easier to switch it all off but, you knwo...I just don't want to

Hi LTH hope you are well?

Do you know what I'd do? I'd leave Dh to think you were being careful and allow yourself to think about another one.

Like you said, useless careful planning last time led to ds4. Point this out to him and say it could well happen again. The ball is in his court then, if he has unprotected sex he is aware of the implications and we''ll all cross our fingers for you hehehe!

My Dh is still not totally convinced a fourth is a great idea but is going along with it at present, but he def prefers the scenario of a slightly orchestrated mistake.

He said last week he needs to not plan this one, because he thinks it's ludicrous to plan a fourth child. He would much rather happily have sex and me show him a stick, looking surprised iyswim.

But that's just my situation. Go on seduce him

Squack

I think my DH is a bit like yours.

Now I have opened this can of worms I have decided that I could maybe squeeze another in in a year or so. So I have put that idea on the back burner and see how I feel then. I'm not closing the baby door completely, I can still see a chink of light.

I have tried to look at things rationally. Work out how old they would all be in two, three, five years time and do you know I really like the idea of all those people at all those ages. Yes If I stopped now I would have more freedom in 2 and a half years time when my yongest started school but I'm not sure I'll want it that much by then.

LTH do you have time to work on your DH? See if you can work out what he really wants (a tall order with DHs I know)Or are your hormones thumping too loud to wait.

Blimey don't I go on - sorry!

I can't ignore them Bumface, everywhere I turn I have screaming hormones ringing in my ears.

I found a photo of ds4 the other day, one like the one on my profile where his wearing the superman top and it made me cry.

My heart just aches to do it all again....and TBh I have absolutley no idea what Dh thinks abut it. He says one thing but his actions say another, then the next day(or time...IYKWIM ) it all swaps around again....its just horrible

LTH i have been hankering after another (as you know) since i had Beau, he is a year old this month. Just in the last week i have started to go off the idea.

I have just thought about the aching back, awful labour (with Beau) and the screaming baby afterwards. I have never not felt broody. It is very odd and i am not really sure what to do.

I have had a lot going on recently and dh is going to be away quite a bit soon, not sure if that is contributing. I am a bit tbh.

I know what you mean LG&T about the achey back etc, I had a awful PG with ds4 but in my head I just think 'welll its not forvere...its only 9 months and just think what you get at the end'

How is DD?...and how are you feeling about it all now?

It is only for 9 months and you do get a yummy baby at the end. I just want the baby to stop climbing up my legs/pinching food off my plate/sleep all night etc...

I am still about it all.

DD is great, she had another app with the Consultant on Tuesday and has been given the all clear about her heart. I am so relieved. We see the Growth hormone specialist on 8th May, so fingers crossed for that. I asked about having my eggs frozen too, she is referring me. I want to do that before i have another too i think.

I am ok about it now, definately shock for the first week. I dont think i have ever been so worried in my life.

Your broodiness my die down like mine is [hopeful for you emoticon] It sucks that your dh is being such a knob. They do not understand the pull of the hormones. I dont think they realise we are so governed by them, it is not as if they just appear for when we are pregnant. They are in our bodies deciding our fate every day. It is a lot for us to just get through the day. Can you imagine what they would do with dealing with periods and PMt, possible menopause, breastfeeding etc... We deal with ALL of this on a daily basis, we dont just turn it on and off ffs. Bum and tits to him

Ooooh that was ranty, can you tell i'm hormonal

Oh I agree lg&t, bum and tits to him indeed, just no fanjo . Glad to hear your dd is doing well too.. I remember your thread.

I know where you are coming from LTH, I only have 1 but would love another. DH stops short whenver I try to talk to him about it. He is 40 this year and next year I am 35 but he refuses to believe that I might not fall within seconds like I did with dd and therefore if we are to have dc2 he needs to talk about it so we can make plans. There are things that need to change before we start trying. He won't discuss the changes, he won't discuss trying and frankly the whole thing is utterly depressing. So I do understand your need to talk about it - it can be all consuming can't it?

I am re-instating the sex ban.

He refuses to get the snip....and I refuse to be at the mercy of my hormones and his desire for sex using a method of contraception that resulted in DS$.

I'm so pissed with him.

I don't like putting such personal stuff on here but there isn't anyone in RL who understands.....

I could go on and on about what been said about all this but I feel like its too private IYSWIM....It crap TBH.

DS4 even

I have have 4 children. For a while I found it hard to come to terms that I was not having anymore. I enjoyed being pregnant, and felt special. It came to me that I am special when I am not pregnant too.

Sometimes you have a situation where one partner may want another child but the other does not. Its important that both of you talk it over and make a decision together.

Its more that just wanting another child, you have to consider your finances, available rooms, big enough transport etc etc.

I now look back and I glad with the decison we both made. I am not redundant as a mum, as a matter of fact my kids need me in a differend way. I am considering child minding and I help out in school once a week to get some experience. In the future I would like to foster a little girl. I am now focus on other things.

I have turned my attention to the kids I have and I also have some time to look after myself also.

With 3 boys and a daughter I still adore little baby girls but I have moved on to the next stage with my kids.

I hope someone is helped by this.

Bumface, I haven't come across you before, but can't stop laughing at your name! Love it.

I haven't finished yet with the whole baby-having thing - I only have two, but came here because I want millions (well four). I hate that it has to be a practical decision. Even though No3 is hypothetical as yet, No4 is even hypotheticaller because of all the financial, big car, affording holidays stuff.

My dad told me recently that he and mum wanted a fourth but didn't because of financial reasons. While he said he sometimes regrets it a bit, it's something that he gives a huge amount of thought to. They drew a line, he got the chop after my baby bro and that was that.

So yeah, maybe you do need to stop now, lavish attention on someone else's bump/baby and hold on for grandchildren.

Your dh is v naughty for releasing the worms, bumface (snickers childishly). But, like you and Squack we chose the same method of conceiving for both our children - took away the goalie (and I may have looked at ovulation calendars online) and then acted surprised when we scored!

I was sterilised after baby number 2 because we planned to adopt any subsequent children. I did go through a period of mourning and I think you have to go through that however many children you have because a part of your life is finished. The mourning gave way though to a huge sense of relief that the decision was made and I never needed to think about contraception again. We have since adopted a little girl and the family is absolutely completely and utterly complete!!

mum2bless you do make sense

i have been lucky with dp and the split of our family that i have three then big gap then three - ( same dad)

BUT i still worry

i am pg and not enjoying it but know that i will be sad when it is over

i know it is selfish

five is bloody hard work and the teenage bit is unrewarding

but the little bit is soo lovely...... hard though

yes lth i wish there was a switch

ooh I wish there was an off-switch too - ds2 is only 3 weeks old, and I am already thinking about no 6 . It is utter madness really, i'm sure my body, finances and relationship can't really take another baby (and as for my career ...).

dh won't have the snip while I feel like this, but is sure we should stop now.

[good luck on your quest though LtH - it is early days for us, but I am loving having 5 atm )

Ohh Pollyanna....you lucky thing

Well, girls I haven't found the switch but there won't be a no5 here.
Dh is adamant he doesn't want more (still won't get the snip though). I need to let go of the idea and move on.

TBH our relationship probably isn't in teh best state right now anyway. There are lots of issues other than this just bubbling under teh surface and although being PG would make me unbelieveably happy it woudl only be pasting over the cracks....

I am glad that at least the situation is clarfied for the time being LTH

Why dont you put any axtra energy (!) into looking fabulous for the summer

Enjoy your non pregnant state dress well etc and see how you feel when summer is out?

LTH email me chick [email protected]

Trying to Lg&T but my hotmail seems to have died....

I can't type any message to you.

Oh bugger. Try again today I will CAT you, do have CAT?

I have got CAT, need to pay for mine again though....

I can't even send an emtpy page....the send button won't click.

hmmm, i seem to have stumbled across the switch lth, would you like me to post it to you?
i thought, once i was in the swing of it, like; one baby, pg again at 3m post partum, that id go for it and have the lot. 6 kids. nice big noisy family.
had 3 in 2 and half years and burnt myself out didnt i.
doh.

That would be great nappies.
send it recorded delievry so it doesn't get lost in the post

LG&T, have you got MSN?
I still can't send anything so I'll add you if you have.