4 children in a 3 bed house

[fizzyblush]

Is it possible to have 4 children whilst living in a 3 bedroom
House? Any experiences ? I want a 4th but we have a 3 bedroom house and wondering if that is just too small logistically?

[PebbleMillAtOne]

How do you think most families cope. The kids share.

[Thewheelsfalloffthebus]

What are the age gaps ? What would need to happen if the fourth baby was a girl? Or a boy? I would personally prefer boys and girls not sharing a room from about age 10 onwards.

[DogsAndGin]

People cope with this. But it’s not ideal.

[rattlemehearties]

Depends on age gaps I suppose but this is normal, I'd have thought?

[Anoisagusaris]

Of course it’s possible

[sunshineandshowers40]

Depends on ages and sex of children. We are in a three bed with 3 children and ideally I would like a fourth bedroom but it's just not possible at the moment. I wouldn't have a 4th child in a 3 bed but it also depends on the size of the bedrooms. We have loads of downstairs space but none of the bedrooms are particularly big.

[greenbirds]

Our fourth child was born when we had ds9, dd4 and DS3. We were living in a three bedroom house, although the third bedroom was very small. We managed with ds9 in the small bedroom, dd4 & DS3 sharing, and our youngest son shared with us until he was 4, when we managed to move to a bigger house.

To be honest, I wouldn't recommend it unless you are likely to be able to move at some point. It was okay when the children were smaller, but we spent a lot of time worrying about how we would manage as they got older, as the age gaps and sex of our children meant sharing wouldn't be ideal for long. It was also difficult at bedtime as different children needed different conditions to settle down to sleep.

That said, it all worked out okay and I have never regretted having four children for a single minute - it has been fantastic!

[shuckleberryfinn]

its fine. they used to share but that wasn't really working, one has extra needs and there's some quite big gaps in age, now the baby sleeps in my room, oldest sleeps in a downstairs room with a sofa bed while we try to fund a loft conversion.

[Queenoftheashes]

I grew up in this fashion until I was about 14 and we got an extension. It was better when we were younger tbh. But it’s possible to do.

[MadMadMadamMim]

My DSIL had 4 children in a 2 bed council house. Because she had all boys they were told they had to put two sets of bunk beds in the room and the boys could share.

They gave the boys the 'master' bedroom and they took the smaller one.

It's doable.

[Kitkat151]

Kids share ....but I would never have done it....i stopped at 3 for this reason....but entirely your choice

[PinkSyCo]

I had 5 in a two and a bit bedroom house, so yes it’s possible, not ideal but doable.

[MyDcAreMarvel]

Obviously it’s fine , two kids in one room is perfectly normal.

[Cisforcamel]

My dad grew up in a 2 bed council house- 6 kids (2 girls, 4 boys) shared a double bed head to toe. So 4 kids in a 3bed house seems a luxury…..

[ThirdElephant]

What if your fourth was twins? I've seen it happen.

Personally, I wouldn't, because it would negatively affect your current DC and would only be of benefit to yourself. Where I work there are lots of larger families and you find the kids don't get homework done because there's no quiet space to do it, they come in tired because their younger sibling kept them up all night... I think people should put their existing DC first.

[AskingforaBaskin]

Don't. It's selfish.

[Dumblebum]

It’s doable but not ideal. What if you have three of one gender and one of the other, what if you have twins or a child with disabilities?

[FairyCatMother]

Perfectly doable and reasonable. My neighbours have four young children in a three bed mid-terrace, and seem to manage perfectly. My mother was one of four and grew up in a three bed house, sharing rooms with her sisters. This modern trend of insisting each child has their own room is impossible for many families, and in my experience families remain closer due to the more limited space they share. DH and I also live in a three bed, are likely to for the next 10 years at least, and hope to have a larger family. Wishing you and your growing family all the best!

[WaterBottle123]

4 children is a lot, when you consider climate change

[RussianSpy101]

What’s your current set up? Surely only you and your husband know as you’re the ones who know your bedroom sizes, who currently shares with whom, who sleeps best, the age gaps and potential future age gaps and so on…

[RussianSpy101]

@Dumblebum how would those factors affect bedroom sharing?

[ThirdElephant]

[quote RussianSpy101]@Dumblebum how would those factors affect bedroom sharing?[/quote]
Twins mean more people, which might be a bigger squeeze if one of the three bedrooms is a box room.

Disabilities that are profound might require medical apparatus and hospital beds etc, resulting in a need for that child to have its own room (usually a large room at that), necessitating a house move.

[ThirdElephant]

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[RandomMess]

We did until the youngest was 9, then we relocated somewhere much cheaper.

The youngest 3 were very close in age which made it easier. Sometimes we had 3 in largest bedroom. Other times we had one sleep in the bottom bunk in the smallest room but beyond sleeping in there it wasn't "their" room as such.

[AHungryCaterpillar]

Of course it’s possible, only on mn do people think all kids should have their own room, back in the real world everyone I know has kids sharing a room, even those with 2! My friends kid share a room and they have a 4 bed house, I have 4 kids in a 3 bed.