Talk to me about having 4 DC - I already feel overwhelmed with 3!

[NoCapes]

I've just found out I'm pregnant with a surprise DC4, my head is absolutely up my arse atm

I struggle with 3, I really do struggle
Number 4 was just not part of the plan - we'll need a new car, we will probably have to move, I won't be able to go back to work

Talk to me about life with 4, is it as hard as it is in my head?

How old are they zippidy?

6, 4 and 2!! How old are yours? (Sorry if youve already said!!)

I am picturing the conversation when I tell my mum and dad.....dreading it!!

8, 7 and 3 so older than yours! I find managing the three okay on my own and am fairly big now at 30 weeks

Haha Zippidy I can't offer much reassurance there, I struggle with 3! 🙈
How old are yours?

Oh sorry I hadn't refreshed before I replied

I found the transition to 4 super easy... admittedly I cried for almost a month when I found out. Shes almost 8 now and it's busy but I love it.

Gets much easier when they get a bit older. I was watching my friends sil with her 4 under 7s the other day and id forgotten how exhausting it can be!

Don't rule out going back to work.. you might be glad of a break.

I had the afternoon with just my oldest 2 today and found myself thinking 'why did we fuck with this? This is so easy!'
I just can't even fathom how much harder it's going to be with an extra one
Sofa we will have 4 under 7, and 2 under 2

I don't think it gets harder with an extra one. The 4th really does just slot in. I guess because you're so busy already.

The things I find hard.. booking hotel rooms very few family rooms cater for 4 children so you endup booking 2 which doubles the cost. But on the plus side clothes can be passed on so you save some money there.

Mine were 7,6, and 3 when I had dd.

So I just peed on another stick to confirm it. Two equally strong lines, and my period was only due around today!!

(Shit- does that mean it's twins??!! 😱)

My dp just said "what have we done?!"

God I'm scared! So so scared.

It will be fine

You will be fine

WE WILL ALL BE FINE

Thank you fresh! 😊

I'll be sure to update you in a couple of months anyway!

30+4 today

I'm sure it will be fine but an extra baby is an extra person (obviously). It's very noticeably when they kids are older teens. Food, shoes trips, holidays etc. We planned for no 4 and I loved having four but to say it's no different from 3 is a bit daft.

Just wait until all four have partners and are they all staying over your house....

Sorry your DP is saying he wants you to have a termination when you want to keep this baby. It's entirely your decision, not his. Will he continue to be good to you and all the DC?

You say DP rather than DH - if you're not married then giving up paid work would not be sensible as you would be financially/economically vulnerable.

Can only reiterate what others have said. 2 to 3 was really hard, the lowest point in my parenting life. 3 to 4 was no trouble at all. I actually had 5 brewing for a few weeks - number 4 had a twin which I lost. At the time, I wasn't bothered as I only wanted 4 children and I was just relieved to know number 4 was still in there, but now I sometimes wish number 5 had made it.

Anyway, yes you need a people carrier, but I don't know that a house move is immediately inevitable. Kids are happy to share rooms for many years. Mine are all grown up or teenagers now and still share rooms and beds on holiday without any complaint.

It's really lovely to hear the positive stories. Thanks! NoCapes- hope you're doing ok