Ivf September 2025

[Klmno]

Thought I would start a thread as can't see one already
Anyone in the same boat who'd like to chat?
It's our first round. Likely to need a freeze all which I'm quite disappointed about as means won't even transfer until Nov.
I'm on short protocol.
Feeling pretty fed up ATM tbh, partly because it's come to this but also just want to get going, currently just waiting for my period early sept and feels like my life is on hold until then!

@Tinkerbell098 I really am sorry and all your feelings are so valid. It’s rubbish, it’s so shite. Infertility is one of the hardest things we can go through and it’s unfair we have all had to be part of this club.
please don’t feel guilty or beat yourself up, I hope you can take some time for yourself over the next few days.

if you want to talk then I am around 🩷 xxx

@pastelheart thank you so so much! I really appreciate your thoughts Xx

Hey ladies, so sorry I have been so quiet. For some reason, I didn’t get email notifications for any updates on the post so just assumed the group had gone quiet!!

hope everyone is doing okay.

i had my scan on Saturday @ 7+1 and saw a lovely heartbeat, cautiously optimistic 🤍🤍 EDD 12th June.

I’d like to join another thread too please @pastelheart xx

I also haven't been getting notifications in my emails, just came on Mumsnet to look for something else and saw.

I'm so sorry @Tinkerbell098. Please don't feel guilty for wanting what most people get so easily. It's ok to feel grateful for your child and long for another, the two feelings can coexist. I hope you are looking after yourself as best as you can ❤️

Sorry to hear about your scan too @firststeps124 , really hoping your repeat scan was better news.

I'm waiting for ovulation so we can start our frozen transfer (non medicated). I thought I'd feel excited when it was actually the month, after all this waiting, but I'm terrified...it's been good having a few months of not expecting to get pregnant therefore not having the feeling of disappointment. I know if it doesn't work it'll be crushing (although I appreciate that I'm so fortunate to have multiple embryos to try).

Hi @Klmno .. I seem to remember we had similar timelines and like you, I haven't been on here for ages so just catching up!! I feel very similar in the sense that I've had 5 weeks of not even thinking about TTC in the 'break' between our egg collection and frozen transfer cycle.

We're having a medicated cycle, and I'm due to start taking tablets to bring on a bleed next weekend, with the cycle likely starting around the 22nd. I think based on that our transfer could be anywhere between 10th-17th but my maths might be way off! My clinic are great but it's always so non-committal in the sense that they say 'you can request on CD1 but we may not be able to fit you in'. And also, with Christmas closures I just hope we don't miss the cut off!

Sorry you're feeling anxious about it 😥.. I think I feel a mix of excitement but serious nerves for when it does come to testing! I'm also hoping we will just know one way or the other for the actual week of Christmas so we can either enjoy some drinks with our family if it's rubbish news, or obviously be super pleased if it has worked.. I think it's the not knowing over that whole period that will be tricky! Keeping everything crossed for both of us xxx

Hey @Klmno and @AnonTTC
I'm always waiting to start FET process. I'll be starting meds when my bleed comes next week and looking at transfer date at end of November. Fingers crossed for us all 🙏

i am looking forward to following your FET journey guys! 🩷🩷🩷🩷

Ahhh how exciting!! :) I think you'll be slightly ahead of me as I'm not expecting my cycle to start until mi/late November. Not long for you to wait at all!! Fingers and toes crossed xx

Glad to know I'm not alone 😌
Had my ovulation scan today following smiley face yesterday. Lining looks great so we are doing our transfer next Monday and OTD is Friday 21st.
Feel very anxious about how I will cope with the TWW!
Just can't imagine a positive test after all this... Like it just seems to be something that happens to other people not me and I will never see one. I know it can work, just feel like it won't work for me, I don't know why. I'm worrying about my fibroids that so many different people have looked at and everyone has said something different. But also just scared to hope I guess, so just expecting the worst to protect myself. But I do need to have a more positive attitude!

Totally understandable @Klmno , I also can't imagine ever getting a positive test, I think my brain has convinced me we're just going along with the journey so we can say we tried. It feels so long ago I was doing the injections and felt really in the thick of it, even though that was only 8 weeks ago!

Exciting your transfer is so soon!
Do you have much planned for during the TTW? I also can't imagine how hard that part is going to be.

Omg how exciting @Klmno !!! Not long at all and great to hear everything has progressed as it should :)

I'm totally the same in the sense I just cannot imagine ever seeing a positive test.. but I do think I need to remind my brain that this transfer could go either way. I think because we've never had a transfer before it feels the closest I've ever felt to being pregnant (having an actual embryo put back in rather than guessing) so I'm almost forgetting it could potentially not work. Definitely need to prepare my brain for both eventualities!!

It's all the unknowns as well.. like in theory we will be having a transfer mid-Dec but there are so many factors that we can't control that could effect that aren't there. Can't wait to be off this rollercoaster!! haha.

Sending you all the positive vibes for Monday!! xx

@Klmno good luck for tomorrow I’m so happy for you and it’s great they got this sorted so quickly, has it felt quickly to you or dragged? Keeping everything crossed for you! Xxx

@Klmnogood luck today! Enjoy the moment 🩷🩷 xx

Good luck today @Klmno - so excited for you!! :) xx

Thank you so much ladies! I am really nervous but mostly about how to have my bladder the correct amount full. I don't want to be bursting and scared I'll wee when they're doing it if it's too full?! But don't want to not fill it enough and then they can't get to my womb properly! Any tips?

Will be glad when it's over but also scared about the tww.
But good news our embryo thawed fine so that's another hurdle ticked off I guess!

Best of luck for today!

I’m sure they said “comfortably full” ie you shouldn’t be about to wee yourself. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. If it’s not full enough, you can drink some more 😊 x

@AnonTTC the unknowns are so hard aren't they. Like after we had our freeze all I didn't know when my withdrawal bleed would be, then didn't know when next period would be, then didn't know when ovulation would be, then waiting to check scan was ok and finally get the date....so much waiting and uncertainty and even harder when your clinic is a bit non committal and vague! Mine is private so that side of things is more transparent and straightforward, it's a tonne of money but at least you know where you stand. NHS is amazing but can sometimes feel so disorganised and like you're kept in the dark! (I work for the NHS so don't want to talk badly of it but sometimes it's hard isn't it)

Thanks @babycoconut I think it'll be ok if they're running on time. Just worried about over-doing it but will stay on the side of caution haha don't want any accidents 😂

Ha, exactly that!!! Very non-committal but sometimes I think they are just covering their back. I have to break it down to each stage or it's impossible to know when things will be happening. E.g. Once I start my cycle at least I know when the lining scan will be, then once we have the outcome of that we will know the next stage etc. One lucky (I guess you could call it that) thing about me is that I don't have natural periods EVER so I can just bring one on to fit around treatment, which I'll do to tie in with this round. I'm starting the medication for that on Friday so feels like at least things are happening!!

Something that confuses me is why the official test day they give you is 2 weeks after transfer, when in my head surely it should be 9 days after (considering the embryo is already 5DPO)? Is it just to be safe you reckon? I only ask because I know I'll be DESPARATE to know before Christmas Day which I reckon will be about 7-9 days after my transfer 🤣

Hope everything goes okay on the full bladder front.. I'm sure they'll be able to get in there either way so don't worry. I have the most terrible bladder though so I know I'd be thinking the same haha! xx

Yes I suppose they don't want to make false promises. You are exactly right that a 'one step at a time' mentality is best! And it's good that you are able to look on the bright side about needing your cycles medicated.

My test day is next Friday, so 11 days post transfer. But yes, in my head it's 16 DPO. I guess like you say they don't want there to be any doubt whatsoever. But a test would theoretically show positive at 9 days post transfer! Especially one of those ultra early ones. I am same as you considering Christmas, because if this transfer fails our next one would fall to be testing around Christmas. It'll either make or break my Christmas. It's a tricky time of year anyway when you want a baby!!

Ahh that's good to know then that your OTD is actually only 11 days after, I feel like I can handle that 🤣 For some reason I thought it was 16 days after and there's no chance I'd make it, ha!

Totally with you on it making or breaking xmas.. last Christmas felt really hard because like you say, I feel like being childless is much more 'in your face' than any other time of year. I was tentative about even having a round so close to Christmas but then I thought.. even if it's not good news at least there's loads going on/distractions etc. I think I'm more keen to know before Xmas day itself because I'd prefer to be out of that awful limbo period where it's all you can think about. Even if it is unsuccessful, I think I'd prefer to know one way or the other. I've never had a transfer before though so I'm only guessing that's how I will feel, and in the grand scheme of things it's only one day isn't it.

What time is your transfer? They seem to be from 1pm onwards at my clinic which feels like such a painful wait!!

Yes 11 days seems slightly more manageable. I am going to try my best to wait for otd. I am working the two days before it so don't want to test those days as it will be hard to work if it's negative. But I'm off on the Friday test day and the next day so that will give me some breathing space if it's negative. I don't have any tests ATM so I'm just not going to buy any until the day before.

My Christmas last year was horrible with all the infertility feelings and I really really hope it's better this year. I guess I am lucky to have two attempts before then. But if both fail I'll start worrying that something else is wrong like with my womb or something. At least my family now know, last year I was so scared about them saying something insensitive! I know what you mean about just wanting to know whatever. The limbo and second guessing is just the worst isn't it?! I quite like new year to be honest, so maybe I would be able to see it as 'new year, fresh start, more hope this year' kind of thing. We'll see!

Heading to the clinic for 3, eeeek!

Wow we sound SO similar @Klmno .. last Christmas I was just starting Letrozole and it hadn't worked the first month so was such a mix of emotions and I also really resented ANYONE who mentioned when we will start trying for kids over Christmas.. it made me really go into my shell and not want to see people which was such a shame because I usually love Christmas and am incredibly social.. I don't even recognise the person I was this time last year. Luckily I'm feeling much better this year because regardless of a transfer I feel like we've made progress having our embryos in storage.

Totally on the same wavelength as you too in the sense that if we were getting on to transfer no.2/3 and not seeing results I'd expect my clinic to do additional tests because I read somewhere the culminative success rate is something like 75% after 2 transfers and 95% after 3 - so pretty good odds!!

Sounds like you have a plan with the testing.. and I bet work will help to keep you focused on the goal of it. Hilarious because that's only next Wednesday which in normal terms is nothing but in 2ww terms if about 5000 years!! 🤣

Ahhh not long to wait now!!! Hope it all goes well x

I also was on letrozole last Christmas so we really are so similar! In my case I do actually ovulate on my own but I think my progesterone drops too soon, so a doctor told me to try it. I did actually get better progesterone levels so I guess it was worth trying but still didn't help us conceive. I remember feeling really emotional on it. I had two friends have babies last Christmas and they'd both started trying after us, as happy as I was for them I'd really hoped to be pregnant when they were born. Agree with you about feeling more positive this year though, with embryos and having done several important steps to hopefully get closer to a baby!

My transfer all turned out fine in the end but was a bit stressful, because they were running late so I had to empty my bladder then refill it. Then they struggled to get the catheter in, used three different sorts, but luckily the embryo was nowhere near the catheter at that point, and the catheter was nicely in my womb by the point where they brought the embryo through to the room. They said it's already hatching which I think is really good, I'm just struggling to trust my body to keep it safe. I have a few fibroids and I'm scared some of them might ruin our chances, I've had so many variations in opinions on them and I'm still waiting to hear what the NHS thinks of them!

But I feel so much better now that it's done.
I would say to practice the bladder filling a day or so before, as I wished I had...but in the end with them running late it wouldn't really have helped me.
We got to take a pic of the embryo on the screen and I can't stop looking at it. Showed it to my dog just now and she wasn't remotely interested, clearly doesn't want to be a big sister 😂

@Klmno congrats on being PUPO. I have everything crossed for you in your TWW 🩷🩷🩷 xxx