FET

[Peacejan]

Had my 3rd transfer on Friday 23rd (my 2nd FET) it's my last embryo and at the time of freezing it was 1BB, however once thawed the embryologist graded it at 1CC she tried to reassure me than it could continue to increase in grade but that it was better off inside my uterus. I just feel so disheartened and that it already isn't going to work because it couldn't event retain its grade 😞 I feel like it was just pointless and I've put my body and emotions through all if thus for nothing.

On another note I've had some light cramping feelings starting 1dp5dt which I've not experienced before. I'm trying to hold into hope but really struggling

Anyone had success with a 1CC embryo or a frozen embryo that downgraded?

Hi. No success stories, but I had my 4th FET last Friday. We can be in the dreaded wait together and symptom spot as we always do grrrr. When is your OTD?

Oh FET day buddies! My OTD is 6th September my clinic does the whole 14 days 🙄
I'm driving myself crazy. The last 2 transfers (1 fresh, 1 FET) I didn't have any symptoms what so every. But since 1dp5dt I've had some light cramping and pulling sensations. It's making me feel hopeful but then I pull myself back to reality and think it's never going to work 😩😩
How are you doing?

I have kind of given up hope this time. Not really fussed with it, which is strange. Think I am so done with the NHS just being slow and really unempathetic, I cant wait until it is over.

It's crazy how clinics are different. My test day is 4th, however my first FET I only had to wait until day 10. I swear they make it up as they go. What meds are you on atm?

Same, feel like its uust a tick box exercise to have 3 implantation failures for them to investigate further... im on the NHS round still but my clinic is private that takes on NHS patients. It's a lovely clinic I can't complain i just hate the whole process...

Everyone seems to have such different test dates it's like there's form rhyme or reason to them!

I'm currently on 1 estrogen patch(changed every other day) , 2 cyclogest and 1 lubion. I didn't miss lubion...
What about you?

Daily I'm on 3 cyclogest, 1 lubion and 150g baby aspirin. I am suffering with a nerve impingement in my shoulder, the pain seems to have eased since taking aspirin 😂

Any symptoms yet? I woke this morning with a lovely big spot, which I always get a week to the day my period starts. That has convinced me it has failed. Not getting any other side effects from the progesterone.

Good luck both! I'm in the TWW also, You could join us on the FET August thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/infertility/5125476-fet-aug-2024

I'm fed up with the lubion already haha it feels like an advent calendar to testing day haha but this time I keep bruising on my right thigh, never had that before and no issues with the left haha

I had some cramping and tightening since day 1 but feel like its probably in my head. I've not had any symptoms with my last 2 transfers. I always worry because during a natural menstrual cycle during my luteal phase my boobs get really sore which is obviously progesterone related but I've never had sore boobs with medicated progesterone... trying to put it down to the estrogen patches probably evening things out a bit more?

@Peacejan I'm the same, my boobs are unbearable normally the week before AF is due, to the point I used to not be able to run during that week as they hurt so bad. My very 1st FET they were super sore and full, but all the others including this one, nothing.

I keep bruising on my right thigh too😂being right handed you would think that side is easier. I know when I catch a blood vessel, it hurts!

The other night I don't know what I did but I'd only pricked my skin on my left thigh and it was so painful! It's made me panic now I'm worried about getting another painful area.

How are you feeling? Tempted to test early? I've decided to stay in my bubble till Friday

No testing yet, I will be good and wait another 3 mornings. I had a little light brown spotting yesterday and for the last 5 days I am waking through the night for the toilet - getting on my nerves! That's the only little hope I have, but then I think, I will never be that lucky and it's probably AF coming :(

I know the feeling. I keep holding into the fact I keep feeling twinges. But I don't think I'll ever be lucky enough to see a positive pregnancy test 😕
Feeling quite alone right now during my 2ww

I think my period is about to start, I am getting more dark brown spotting and this is something I usually get up to a week before it arrives. I may just do a test tonight to put me out my misery and prepare myself for actual test day. Plus I cant stop eating and feel like a ragging hormonal cow.

Is that something you've experienced wjth passed transfers?
Ive never had spotting with any of my transfers which just gives me a false sense of hope 😕

Hopefully it's good news though! Some people experiance spotting from 2ww for all the 1st trimester because of the progesterone!

I hope its good news for you 🙏

Never had spotting in the wait after an FET, but majority of times I do with period. My overall mood is what I get with AF. Medication on FET hasn't affected me like this before either.

My other half is moaning because I want to test. I'd rather see a negative today which prepares me for official test day, then find out Wednesday and having to go into work straight after. He doesn't get it.

Hopefully its a good sign then if you've not experiences this before on IVF meds

I don't think partners really understand the stress we go through with IVF. I don't even think mines asked me if I'm OK since the transfer... just got on with life and doesn't speak about it. I suppose it's his way of coping with it but feels a bit isolating

Mine is always very hopeful and positive, whereas I am a very negative nancy. I feel like it is a defence mechanism to prepare myself for disappointment. On my 3rd transfer, I was convinced it was going to work. When I we got the bfn, I was so numb I couldnt even cry.

How are you feeling today?

I'm the same, I'm trying to hold on to the tiny bit of hope I have but it's consumed by the negative thoughts trying to protect me on OTD. At this point I feel like its down to lucky and I'm not a lucky person I don't think itll ever work.

Did you end up testing?

Did you have PGTA testing on the embryos, OP?

I think it can help with peace of mind if you know the embryo is normal before it's transferred, even if it's downgraded after thawing?

@Peacejan No, I never tested, waiting for tomorrow.

@cosyleafcafe Mine havent been tested. Our Dr advised against it, basically said if it isn't euploid, they will not transfer, even though it could actually stick and be fine. If I tested all 3 and they had to be discarded, it would be a waste of money. I have 3 remaining frozen, once they are used my IVF journey is over.

I gave in and tested and its another no for me. Such bad period pains. Honestly may as well give up.

@AnonS I'm so sorry it's bad news 😔 I fear that mine will be the same result. I don't want to test early though I'm in the office tomorrow and don't want to have to fake a smile. I'm doing a short day on Friday so I can wallow in self pity

@cosyleafcafe my clinic don't do PGTA testing so wasn't an option

I tested this evening to let it sink in it failed, so tomorrow won't be as hard going. Now need to figure out what further testing cam be done privately as NHS are out of options i have everything crossed for you.

@AnonS just wanted to let you know that my test on Friday was negative as well 😔 back to square 1.

Really sorry to hear. It's horrible. My friend told me yesterday she miscarried at 10weeks, she was worried about telling me she was even pregnant as she fell straight away. Set me right back as well as feeling awful for her, but then mad at myself as I feel like it won't ever happen to me. Have you spoke to your clinic for next steps?