IVF Scotland - thread 5

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Hello, made a new thread for us Scots going through IVF, thread 5. Hoping this is the best thread yet for dreams coming true ❤️

She has made comments like "cross everything but don't cross your legs cos it might happen naturally ".

I actually found that really upsetting as it took years for me to truly be 100% on board with donor route.

I think if there are any issues with me doing hybrid working next week then I'll just get signed off

Our eggs didn't survive the thaw. Utterly devastated.

@IVFlife Firstly, what your manager said is completely shocking and completely inappropriate. If there is a higher up manager or HR department, I would really pursue informing them what was said, as what she said is awful.

I'm also so sorry to hear the eggs didn't survive the thaw. I'm really shocked that none made it? Is there anything that can be done? Can they defrost eggs from a different donor instead (you said there was other donors you'd matched with?). Can you take the day off work today as between unsupportive work environment and this news, some TLC of yourself might be good x

Sorry @IVFlife that must be really hard.

screw work. They don’t get it.

Thansk guys @2mumlife @IVFlife my scan went ok we have heartbeat and size is good for our dates but unfortunately we have an enlarged yolk sac? They didn’t seem too concerned about it but after googling (I know 🙈 how can we not) it seems like it really increases the chance of miscarriage and/or genetic issues with the embryo 😭 so I’ve come out of it now even more worried than before I had the scan. Not sure how I can keep going or how I can manage the anxiety better as I’m only 6+4 wks today and have so far to go (if I don’t miscarry).

@IVFlife in so sorry to hear the eggs didn’t survive the thaw for you, that must be absolutely gutting especially with 8 eggs. Does you clinic give you a guarantee/can you use a different donor? Your work really don’t sound supportive or nice, definitely take some time for yourself as suggested if they are going to make comments like that which are really inappropriate xxx

@Ellenn That's great news there is a heartbeat and measuring right for dates :) Is it just the 1 embryo that stuck? Never heard of an enlarged yolk sac before. I'm sorry that your scan has ended up just increasing your anxiety. Hopefully though there isn't anything to be too concerned about x

@2mumlife yes just the one! It doesn’t seem to be great sign, I’d never heard of it before either but seems to be associated with embryo abnormalities. I need to stop googling and leave it as nothing I can do about it now!

@Ellenn Do your clinic want to scan you again / now you've been googling are you able to speak to one of the nursing team at your clinic to try to get some reassurance?

@2mumlife ive got another scan booked for next Thursday they said for reassurance. I’m going to get a private scan done too I think as felt like it wasnt very good quality scan and really hard to see the heartbeat?

dont think I can bring myself to phone them as they will likely just say can’t do anything and don’t google 🙈 and just need to wait it out….

@Ellenn That's good they are giving you another scan next week. I know it must be really hard not to worry

@Ellenn hope all is ok and you get some reassurance at next scan

Sorry everyone. Been busy at work then away on a school trip (I’m a teacher).

@Ellenn yes it is quite a distance! Just really adds to the process but never mind. No other option really. We can claim for travel expenses from NHS Highland so that’s something I suppose. I don’t know if excited is how I feel for the next transfer but I feel like I needed the break. Sorry to hear your feeling more anxious after your scan but glad to hear that there was a heartbeat and size was good. Keeping everything crossed that it all works out for you. 🤞🏼

@IVFlife my work have been great so far. My headteacher is really understanding and accommodating and I know it’s not ideal having to find cover for my class etc but she gave me the whole week off around egg collection as we started in Aberdeen. That’s terrible that your work haven’t been supportive. I would definitely take that higher! So sorry to hear that the eggs didn’t survive the thaw. You must be devestated. Take care.

@Ellenn @IVFlife How are you both doing this weekend?

@ivf24 Good to hear from you :) hope you’re doing ok. Sometimes a break is needed between cycles x

@2mumlife hey! Yes I feel a bit better now but I’ve not got a lot of hope for this working out. I actually ended up booking a private scan tomorrow to measure the yolk sac and see if heartbeat is clearer (the nurse said it was perfect but I felt like it wasn’t as clear as previous scans I’ve had before). We will see if that reassures me or not ….

How are you doing?

@Ellenn It could just have been angle baby was at? Hope the scan tomorrow gives you some reassurance 🤞

Im ok just 🤢

@2mumlife i know and also feel like the quality of image wasn’t great and wondering if it was cause my uterus can be a bit awkward sometimes. We will see tomorrow 😳

oh no about the nausea! I actually seem to only feel like first thing in morning before I eat but after breakfast usually I’m ok? Maybe I’m just lucky! I was totally expecting the nausea to be awful as felt during weeks 4/5 it was definitely worse during the day? So seems to have changed a bit 🤷‍♀️ are you able to work still ok? Or is it constant?

@Ellenn best of luck with tomorrows scan. Will it be transvaginal? They are so much clearer than the standard abdominal ultrasounds.
My second HCG came back with good results but unfortunately 2 days later I had a bleed and passed and big clot..I was in bits so haven’t post on the tread in a few days. Needed to take time. It was so so scary..I rang the EPU and they were so relaxed about it all..I wasn’t expecting that and tbh it just made me more stressed. Went for private scan yesterday and have never felt so sick. Couldn’t believe when we were told all was well and we even saw the teeny heartbeat. I’m shattered by all of this. Desperate to start feeling excited but the stress of all this is definitely taking it toll.

@IVFlife im so sorry to hear the eggs didn’t thaw. I can imagine how devastating this must be for you. None of this is fair xx

@Ellenn My nausea is constant during the day. I’ve told my line manager as it’s definitely affecting my ability to work. Still managing a bit as I work from home but really suffering this time. Good luck for scan today

@Eiremogra Understand how scary it can be when you think that’s it and it’s over. So glad you’ve seen your little embryo hanging on in there. The anxiety does get better x

Thanks @2mumlife . I guess I’m just desperate to get excited about this but know it’s such early days and I worry…a lot!! I really want to arrange another scan before the 12week scheduled NHS scan. It’s seems so far away!!

@Ellenn thinking of you today. Hope everything goes well 💕

@2mumlife @Eiremogra thanks guys 😘 not really sure how today will go and trying to not be too negative about it all 😢 will let you know either way. I suppose the only thing I hope is if it does end in miscarriage that it doesn’t end up drawn out and taking awhile to confirm things.

@2mumlife your nausea doesn’t sounds great, I hope it eases up soon. That’s good you can work from home at your pace though x

So my scan went ok, still a good heartbeat and doesn’t seem yolk sac is any bigger than it was 🤞 I’m measuring a couple of days behind so I hope it catches up and is ok. They did say it’s so tiny right now it’s hard to get accurate measurements. Also have a subchorionic haemorrhage which they said I may bleed or it will get reabsorbed. So will just need to wait until next scan on Thursday 🙈 really hope it catches up and continues to grow!!

how is everyone’s weekend going?

@Ellenn Glad you got to see heartbeat again. I had a SCH with DD and had a really big bleed and everything was ok. I think they are more common with ivf pregnancies? Sonographer is totally right that at this stage a tiny difference in how the sonographer measures something can seem really big. Also a few days out for dates is quite normal depending on when exactly it implanted - it’s not an exact measurement! Hope you’re feeling more reassured

@Eiremogra goodness that sounds so stressful with the clot etc. Glad scan showed all OK.

I felt so sad this morning. Really low and teary. I think partly hormones and the huge drop in them. (Although still haven't had a bleed yet) and partly the sadness. We should have been so excited this weekend preparing for transfer on Tuesday. We went to the beach today which was nice. It was sunny and beautiful.

@Ellenn good to hear about your scan. Will keep fingers crossed.

@2mumlife are you able to eat much?

@Ellenn this is such good news! I’m measuring a day behind too. The clot I passed before my scan was huge..I was shocked. It resembled nothing I’d seen before, even on my heaviest of periods. Maybe is was a SCH? You’re doing so well. Another week down

@IVFlife I know how gutting it can be to have yourself all built up and ‘ready’ for an expectant date for transfer, it’s beyond horrible but we stay determined and resilient. You will get through this, what helped me was focusing on the next step. Accepting the set back and moving towards planning for the next stage. I was on a mission!! Taking time to walk the beach is perfect, it helps to reset and escape the madness of all of this for a little while. Sending hugs xx

@Ellenn that is good news. Really hoping that it all works out for you.