@countrypunk I am so very sorry about your missed miscarriage. Similar circumstances for us. We were trying for 3.5 years with no hint of a BFP, we got one ‘decent’ embryo from 14 eggs in our first round of IVF, a positive with a great beta but no heartbeat at 7 weeks viability and fetal pole measured 5 weeks. I had no signs of miscarriage.
I say one decent embryo from the first cycle because we did have another, it was 5 cells at day 3 and didn’t become a blastocyst until day 6 when it was graded 5CC but the embryologist said it was bordering a DD. We didn’t use it because it wasn’t tested. And we were adamant after the miscarriage that we wanted to test before putting an embryo back in. We will donate it to science. In our second cycle we also got a 6 day 5CC but it degenerated to a DD before the embryologist could biopsy it. And then we got our one healthy embryo out all 29 eggs which was a tested 4BB 🙏
It’s a very very personal decision. We are very very lucky to have one child who we conceived naturally 9 years ago so maybe we were less willing to take a risk but to be honest I really think we would have tested regardless…I am an anxious person and after our miscarriage with a so called ‘excellent’ embryo (it was a 4AA), I just couldn’t bear putting anything back inside me unless it’d been tested. I have read mosaic embryos can self-correct but I think the proportion is small and I just wasn’t prepared to take the risk of that not being the case, I know I would have spent my entire pregnancy thinking something was wrong with the baby and I would miscarry which would have driven me mad…I also felt like all my eggs were shit and DH’s sperm were shit as out of 14 eggs in the first round we only got one decent blastocyst, out of 15 eggs in the second round we only got one blastocyst again. So it made me want to check that even this one was normal. I had no faith in my body producing a normal embryo at all.
These are all very personal decisions though and I’m just talking about what I would do. I needed confidence in my body and in the embryo, maybe it’s naive but PGTA was the only thing that’s given me that. It’s not foolproof and something still might go wrong, I might end up eating my words, but after years of secondary infertility and our ‘perfect’ embryo leading to a miscarriage I needed something to give me faith that this pregnancy wouldn’t be another failure…I think by doing PGTA it helped my mental health more than anything.