FET/IVF - January 2023

[Jane1284]

Hey

I would love to get a group together of some of us who are undergoing IVF or FETs in Jan. I found it really helpful to have the support of those going through similar last time (Nov 2020).

My story: I am due to start my first FET in January of my one and only frozen embryo. The embryo is from a cycle in Nov 2020 when I was almost 36. I have low AMH and AFC and it was my first and only NHS round. I got 4 eggs all which miraculously fertilised, 1 made it to day 5 and was put back in with a fresh transfer. Sadly it did not stick. 1 egg was left until day 6 and it finally made it to blastocyst. It has been frozen. Rather than having a FET back then they advised me to do a banking package of 3 cycles due to my low AMH/AFC so in Jan 2021 we started our first private IVF cycle with the same clinic (Kings). Once again I was on max stims (gonal f and menopur) and it looked like we would get 4 eggs again but when I woke from EC they told me they only got 2. I had a bit of a breakdown. I was so upset going through all that including over £2k worth of drugs injected to only get two eggs. It felt even worse as I had let myself hope it would go well. Out of the 2 eggs only 1 fertilised normally. On day 3 the embryologist told me it was average quality and she wasn't sure it would be good enough to freeze on day 5 if it even made it that far. I couldn't handle the thought of going through all that mental anguish to not have anything to freeze so I made a last minute decision to go in for a day 3 fresh transfer. I had zero expectations but somehow that average embryo stuck. I was so stressed all pregnancy and worried about everything but amazingly I gave birth to my first baby in Sep 2021. He is now 14 months and I am turning 38 in 2 weeks.

Now it is time to get back on the IVF/FET train. I have been for my initial scan and blood tests. The scan was fine. Still not many follicles but not significantly worse. Waiting for a consult with the Dr next week for an update on my AMH (can't wait.... ) where she'll also decide on our protocol. I am leaning towards a medicated FET just so we can plan it a bit better. If that doesn't work then it is back to a 3 cycle package of IVF.

I hope I haven't bored anyone reading this to tears. Would be great if anyone else out there would like to be a cycle buddy? :-)

Hi all,

I’m just looking for support and to share with those going through the same thing.

I had egg collection Wednesday, 13 eggs. Yesterday Dr called to say only 1 had fertilised. Now desperately hoping it will make it to transfer. 🙏🏻

Anyone else having a similar experience?

Hey ladies! I hope you are all well. I'm 9dp5dt nervously testing every day trying to see if the lines are getting darker. My clinic are not doing a blood test so I feel so nervous.

I had 3 but did not grow. I had the 1 put in as a 3DT.

I'm confident you will be fine.

Everyone says it only takes one, and I'm a strong believer in que sera.

I will keep you in my prayers and my fingers are crossed for us both!

It's been a couple of days since i last logged on but lovely to see more bfps and newbies on the group 🙂

I've found the last 2 days the hardest so far, I have felt so down and low now my test date is approaching and I feel as if all my symptoms I did have are fading away (maybe these were in my head) .....all I feel now is on and off period pain, like I am about to start any minute plus really moody, irritable and emotional just like I aways do before AF. Really not feeling hopefull, already had many tears today and yesterday 😫

@laurapop Congratulations on being PUPO! Mine was a 5bb 🙂

@Claireabella05 This is the hardest part of the TWW. If it's any consolation, my only symptoms were period-like pains and crying! I was convinced it hadn't worked and only took the test 2 days early to put myself out of my misery.

Try not to dwell too much on difficult thoughts, because they won't change the outcome. I know that's so much easier said than done. Sending you lots of love and luck.

@Claireabella05 this was me on my first round a few years ago! I was so shocked to get a positive result. You just honestly never know - so don't worry about any symptoms. But I know how emotional it is in general so I understand!

@countrypunk oh really! That's good to know 😊. I'm sure I remember reading there's not too much difference between A and B actually 🤷🏼‍♀️. What day are you on now?

The clinic said there's absolutely nothing you can do to affect the outcome (obviously within reason!!) Which made me feel better. I guess what will be will be and I don't need to go around worrying about every single thing I'm doing!

@acacaciabluebell when will your scan be? Its so hard waiting isn't it but testing so much may make you more stressed for now reason! I ended up booking a scan at 6 weeks last time even though my clinic scan was a week after it 🤦🏼‍♀️. Just couldn't wait!!

I think I will test on day 9 too 🤞

@laurapop I'm 12dp5dt, and cacking myself all day long that I'm going to lose it, so I can't take my own advice. The stakes are so bloody high aren't they. It's not just a case of oh, well try again next month!

I'm glad your clinic said that. It's really important for all of us to remember it. Hope you can manage to enjoy being PUPO 😊

Thanks @Capri93. It’s my first round and I think the emotions have overwhelmed me.

how are you feeling? praying for you also.

@Claireabella05 I’m in my 2ww too and feeling absolutely no symptoms and haven’t the whole time.

trying to distract myself and do things I enjoy ! It’s so hard I’m not feeling hopeful at all so just prepping myself. Already called the clinic to find out how quickly I can do another round.

xx

So reassuring to hear of others also in so much doubt. @Claireabella05 I'm in much the same boat. Complete lack of pregnancy symptoms, apart from period/progesterone symptoms (cramping in lower back/tummy). Only other thing is tiredness, but it could equally be just regular end of week tiredness, together with the emotional stress of it all. I'm going to test on Sunday at 9dpt, how about you? Terrified at the notion!

@ali2021 I’m also testing Sunday which is 10pt!

xx

Eek, wishing you all the best, @Vil !!! ❤️❤️ How are you feeling?

Oooh ivf newbies!!! Also my first round!

I feel okay, but I'm worrying over the smallest thing. I just accidentally stood for around 2 hours forgetting in the moment and now I'm googling like crazy if this is a bad thing... 2ww anxieties have hit hard!

@ali2021 I'm also going to test Sunday, a day early before OTD on Monday, I will be 10dp then, I'm glad I'm not the only one going through this...same I'm exhausted but it's because I am awake most of the hours in the night from all the anxiety, I wake up thinking there is blood and run to the loo 3/4 times a night, it's awful 😔

I’ve been called in for a day 3 transfer today, i’ve got 1 embryo that is leading, 3 more are slightly behind however I can’t help but feel a day 3 transfer is not good news (from things i’ve read online)
Any success stories on here from a day 3? Its currently got 8 cells but I haven’t been given a grade x

@LR94 I don't have any experience of a day 3. However, an 8 cell on day 3 is perfect so keep positive and wishing you lots of luck...many believe they do better in there natural environment rather than leaving them to a day 5.

@Claireabella05 okay thank you! Thats made me feel much better!

@LR94 i am a big fan of day 3 transfers. My successful round my son was a day 3 transfer and he was graded ‘average’. I only had 1 egg fertilise normally and they wanted to get it to day 5 to freeze but I requested a last minute day 3 transfer. I figure it’s better off in the womb where it belongs than in a lab. But I’m probably quite biased since I had success with day 3 and not with day 5.
good luck for today! Xx

@Jane1284 thank you! I feel much more confident now. The anxiety is wearing me down atm but fingers crossed. Thanks for your help

We caved and tested … We are currently 7DP5DT … this will be my first ever time of having a positive pregnancy test 🥹❤️

Congratulations @Laura23FE 🌺💜🌸

So exciting, enjoy the lovely feeling of seeing those two lines x

@Laura23FE congrats so happy for you. Love seen all yhe postives on this group x