Platitudes that really annoy you

[FairyAnn]

I'm in a grump. About to start our 4th embryo transfer after nearly 3 years of trying, so I'm feeling extra grumpy.

So I feel like having a rant about the things people say to you that they think makes you feel better (I should add that I know 99% of the time these come from a place of love but I'm grumpy)

'Lucky you' - when I've mentioned a lie in or early night. Usually followed by them telling me how tired they are due to their children.

'If you were really desperate, you'd try anything' - when I mentioned I won't give acupuncture a go.

'You don't want to book X, you might get pregnant' - when I mention booking a non-pregnant-friendly activity to cheer myself up after our Unexplained infertility diagnosis.

Any more? Feel free to rant away!

Did I mention that I'm grumpy...?

Recently I had. At least you're young enough. You have plenty of time.

And have you thought about getting pregnant..... I really recommend it.

You're still young though
It'll happen when it's meant to happen
But you said you didn't want kids! no funnily enough I was not keen on motherhood when I was 19 but thanks

I’m now in my forties so don’t get the “your young enough anymore”. Instead get the “you’re so lucky you can have a holiday without worrying about childcare”

I’ve also had the ‘think of the holidays you can have’ ...yes I’m sure a week on a beach looking at happy families will cheer me right up
‘At least you can properly focus on your career, it can be so rewarding to throw yourself into work’ ffs as if a crappy IT job will fill the void.
Oh and the best ever, think I can still feel the heartbreak ‘it’s true what they say u never know real love until u have ur own’
5 years down the infertility road for me and I think I’ve had them all. People can be so thoughtless. I used to be quite open about my infertility with friends and family but not anymore and no one asks either, it’s just real sad all round.

I was going to start a WhatsApp group for my child free friends so we could bitch about isolation without the constant 'well, at least you don't have little ones running around...' type of comments

But then I realised I only have one child free friend left - and got grumpy again. I have to laugh or I'll cry.