Anyone else awaiting fertility referral?

[MallonMary]

Hi all,

Been ttc (unsuccessfully!) for over a year and just found out there's a problem with DH sperm (low mobility and zero normal forms), so awaiting referral to fertility clinic to seek further help/advice.

Just wondered if there's anyone else in a similar situation about to embark on this journey too?

Also similar success stories welcome :) x

@Morpho123 I'm 27 years old, will be 28 in June and my partner is turning 30 this year

When is tour HSG booked for? Omg I'm exactly the same and faint at smears, fainted when I got my day 21 bloods done too. It's strange how similar our stories are!
If they don't mention the HSG at my appointment I will ask them before leaving and try pushing for that.
I was reading comments and wondering if they would try me on clomid or just go straight to IVF with ICSI due to my partners results.

I hope you don't mind me asking but are you choosing not to go NHS or not entitled for this?

@willithappen I called tonight and booked my HSG- it’s booked for 6th February, it has to be after period and before ovulation so they can confirm you 100% are not pregnant.
We would be IVF with ICSI too- we went to an open evening at a clinic near me on Tuesday! To get information ready should we go down that route, we are giving clomid cycles ago then straight to IVF.
Unfortunately where I live there is no IVF NHS funding, it’s terrible! That’s why the fertility clinic have given me everything else to try and help before I have to pay for ivf myself!
It’s not cheap at all! But not as daunting either, the clinic we viewed was so lovely and I felt I could trust them to help.
Let’s hope my HSG is clear then I can start clomid and hopefully get a BFP!
The good thing is after clomid they will scan at day 9 to check follicles, if they are okay they will trigger injection, they said if there are more than one follicle they will trigger them anyway to increase the chance with low morphology, whereas normally if there is more than one follicle they wouldn’t trigger in fear of multiple pregnancy.
So let’s wait and see! I’ll keep you all updated on the journey! Xx

@Morpho123 it seems like it's all going in a good direction for you though! I really wish you all the best and hope for that BFP for you!
Where do you stay? That's annoying it's not offered!

I'm anxious for the 21st. I need to stop googling and just relax and wait. I was really positive a while back and I actually got given an extra weeks holidays from work in December and I'm taking it as positives from the world as I'll need extra holidays to take this year if we go down IVF!
I'm due on in two days also and can feel it coming so that's probably what's making me feel less positive

I am sooo frustrated! So to recap, ttc over a year- I have bloods to confirm ovulation and a ultrasound- all fine. Dh has SA and came back low motility and 0 morphology, so I went with him to his GP appointment and they said they would refer us to the fertility clinic (hence my starting this thread). That was on dec 10th and since then we've been patiently (well sort of) waiting for our letter to arrive, then today I call go to chase up and the secretary after having us on hold ages, said our gps want to speak to us individually!! She couldn't tell me anymore (ie why? What about? Have we been referred yet or not!?) so dh appointment is Wednesday and mine the following Monday!! Agh so annoyed just feel like loads of time going by!

Sorry to vent but I'm so fed up. Ttc is like banging your head against a brick wall sometimes !

@MallonMary thats so pants! I love the NHS but my lord the waiting is long! I wonder why they need to see you separately?

Having gp problems too.....oh gp wouldn’t refer us said it had to he done through mine even though its him that has 0% morphology. Have been trying to book an appointment for 2 weeks now the receptionist even told me to change gp, took my forms to oh’s gp today who said i have to have a health screen before i can even book to see the gp 🙄.

I feel sick when I think about how long all this is actually going to take, I try and put it to the back of my head as the ONLY answer is to go private.

Here if you need to vent some more hun xx

I can’t believe it’s taking so long, why do they need to see you individually! It also infuriates me that if the problem is male factor, why they insist putting the female through so many tests?! It’s like they are trying to find something with the woman.
Nhs is a waiting game isn’t it, Iv given it a chance and at the moment it’s going okay but as soon as it doesn’t I’m going straight to private.
Make sure you push in your appointment for a referral ASAP.
We’re all here to listen and hope you get your referral soon xx

Hi All, sorry not been on here much. Just been feeling crap so didn't really want to spread my negativity. @MallonMary that's awful. It's so frustrating. If you hadn't have rang then you wouldn't have known that. It's just like they don't understand the feelings that we are going through...
@Nobunintheovenyet have they booked you in for the health screen? Hopefully they can get you in quick.
@Morpho123 try and keep at it with the gp and if you've got a good one then try and see that same one so you don't get messed around
@willithappen good luck for the 21st.

@MallonMary that's so frustrating I really feel for you!! A similiar thing happened for me last year, I was told I was going to be referred in October, chased it in December after not hearing anything and was told the GP wild call me back - was told the clinic wanted me to wait another few months before being referred!

Its all so frustrating and disheartening isn't it, feels like you make next to no progress and it takes so long!xx

@MrsV2018 You know we are here to listen, even if it is to moan and spread negativity. We are the people who understand.

Yes health screen is Thursday so not long to wait for that but the receptionist did tell me its a 2 week wait to see the gp. 🙈

Thanks @Nobunintheovenyet

I made my appointment with the fertility clinic for 4 Feb but I need to change it now .. oh can't get the time off...

How is everyone doing?

@Nobunintheovenyet sorry clicked on post too soon. How was your health screen?

@MrsV2018 I mean it we all know how hard this is. If you need to rant go for it.

Getting time off it going to be an issue for my oh too. I know its not ideal but could you go alone?

It went ok thanks, she has requested the dr to call me tomorrow rather than wait 2 weeks for a face to face so fingers crossed ill actually be referred tomorrow.

@Nobunintheovenyet glad it went well today for you. And that's really good that they will call you tomorrow..

They said they won't see me on my own. We have to go together. Oh works in a school so it's hard to get time off in term time but I'll just change it to the feb half term week if they can.

I just feel like I haven't got much time left. I'm going to be 35 in April and all I can think about is how much time we wasted and wish I'd have gone to the clinic sooner but it is what it is now and just need to get on with it

Hi all wondering if I can join the chat!

I’m 28, TTC #1, been trying for 13 months. Had my first GP app on Tuesday there and I’m going to have my 21 day bloods done in the morning (I’m a fainter so that will be fun 😂) DP waiting to be sent for to do his sperm sample (hopefully next week). Then I’m waiting on a scan & an HSG test (wish I hadn’t googled 😟), should be given a date within 12 weeks!

Im really sad it’s come to this, but hopefully not too long to wait to find out if there’s a problem!

I’m still really hopeful every month tho & I always think I’m pregnant 😂 5DPO today so having my usual TWW craziness 😂

Any ladies that’s had their scan done - is it done vaginally?

Hi all hope you don't mind me jumping on!

We have been TTC for over 2 years, first went the drs last July, every month I came on I was devastated.

I'm 28 and boyfriend 37.

I've had blood tests done which came back normal and boyfriend has had SA - not the results we were expecting a rollercoaster of emotions we went through :( he's been booked back in for end of Jan for a 2nd test (3 months apart)

In the mean time we have been reffered to the fertility clinic next Friday 24th Jan which the letter was only addressed to me (but we are both going)

The last few months I've had x3 close friends and family announce their pregnant and i can't help but feel so upset and anger towards them, I know I should be happy but some days Its really hard!

Good luck to you all on this journey xx

@KLG12 sorry to hear you're going through this too. I'm in a similar position. My checks have been fine but dh SA wasn't great. What were your dh results?

Mines came back low motility and O morphology. He hasn't been offered a second one yet.

@whatsthecraic91 sorry to hear you're having struggles ttc too. I feel your pain!

I've had the bloods (a fainter too, you'll be fine- I always ask to lie down) had the scan- it's internal and external, but both quick and fine. I've never been offered an HSG though- I'm surprised you're having this right away!

Hope all your tests go well. Keep us updated. It's a great support on here x

Can I join please?
Just hit three years. Had GP tests November. DHs SA came back as needing another as morphology was 2.5% and this week we have received results of second, count 251 million but morphology 2.5% again so it states that 'sub-fertility confirmed.'
We belong to different practices and my gps has asked to take results of this to her so she can refer us to fertility clinic. GP apt to do this is not until 31st jan. it is such a long waiting game!!
My ccg also funds nothing and I can't help but feel there's more wrong with me (even though bloods confirm ovulation) and that the cost and emotion of ivf is so daunting.
Just feels like a really hard time. Was great to read so many of you feeling the same. I've whacked DH on wellman, vitamin C and Zinc.

Welcome! Maybe also vitamin e for your husband it’s what my gp recommended!
Add that into the mix! We have 0 morphology.
I’m 4dpo and last night has a few drops of fresh blood. Doesn’t anyone have any ideas what could cause this? It’s a bit late for ovulation bleeding, too early for implantation. I’m wondering if this be because of a cyst maybe? Iv never had it that early. I normally spot at 6-8dpo all the way up to af! Xx

@MrsV2018 got the call and have been referred just to wait now. The nurse at gp said around 3-4 weeks but who knows.

I thought it might have to be both of you but wasn’t sure. Yes understand that I used to work in a school and you have near on no chance of getting time off during school.

I get that hun! Hindsight is a great thing but who knew we were going to have ttc issues. Have you booked your app for Feb half term? Its nice to have something to aim for.

@whatsthecraic91 sorry to hear you’re in the club too. I had a transvaginal scan it was fine i didn't think it was uncomfortable, much easier than a smear. I think its good to hold on to the hope that you will fall until you know IF theres a problem.

@KLG12 hi hun, there are a few of us on here who’s oh has unfortunate sperm, including mine. I was in shock for a while as I was sure it was me that had the issues. The 24th will be here before you know it, its my work pay day so I’m counting down with you lol. Let us know how you get on.
Its so hard not to be envious and its totally understandable.

@Sshsecretenclosed hey hun is the morphology the only issue with his SA? From what I can gather online you would still be a candidate for ISCI, but Im new to all this so still learning. Anyone feel Like they are learning a new language? Lol. My oh is on wellman too need to get the other vits today.

@morpho123 I have had 2 cycles where i had fresh pink spotting from ovulation until af and it was nearly every day! Sends your brain into overdrive.

@Nobunintheovenyet everything is just overdrive isn’t it? It’s draining! I went in all naive thinking it would happen, but it really doesn’t! Getting pregnant is hard!
My doctor didn’t seem to care about morphology which is weird, I mean at 0% id say it was a concern lol x

@MallonMary bloods done and no fainting 😁 nurse was fab, got it first time! Okay thank you I will be prepared for internal then when I go! Oh really? My GP said the scan & HSG were standard tests? Maybe it depends on your area I’m in NI.

@Nobunintheovenyet I cope well with smear tests so that’s good to hear! Yes definitely if I let myself over think and get down about it I would be ready for the hills! Of course I have my down days we all do!

@Morpho123 4DPO is early for spotting I’m not sure what could be causing that. I would spot from about 8-10DPO up to AF as well and I’m always hopeful it’s implantation but of course it never is ☹️

@Nobunintheovenyet yes. All else looks good. Count is very high in fact. I mean is 2.5% absolutely dreadful?! I feel so unsure about morphology and so scared that because our ccg doesn't offer ivf, this is all going to financially cripple us

@Morpho123 thank you. Might pick up some vitamin e!!

Hello! I'm joining.

I'm 34, been ttc no1 since April 2018. After a year we wen to Dr and I had my blood tests at day 5 and 21 - hormones all good. I've temped for years so know I ovulate, and did the test strips one month just to make sure. Regular periods and 13 days between ovulation and period.

I went for the ultrasound scan and they said I had an enlarged right ovary and fibroids.

I then fell pregnant July 2019.

Meanwhile partners sperm results came back normal 6%.

I had an MMC in September and during that time I was scanned lots by various professionals. I found out my fibroid(s) are large - one is 5-7cm big and I'm not sure how many others I have, where they are etc. I'm now on the waiting list for a specialist scan. The reassuring thing was everyone who scanned me had a look at my ovaries too and said they were absolutely fine. The nurses told me that fibroids can cause problems with implantation, but that since I implanted once, it can happen again and I should be happy. They said 6 weeks (when the embryo stopped developing) is a super normal time for miscarriage to happen, and that miscarriage is very common and early miscarriage is not about fibroids.

However I'm still worried. I've been a complete mess since the miscarriage and we've been trying again 4 months now although I feel in my heart I've lost hope. I know I need to be more positive as it's not helping. It doesn't help that although my cycle is still regular, my periods have changed since the miscarriage. I seem to get cramping mid-way through my cycle, my breasts are more tender, and my moods are all over the place. Also my bleed is different, a lot lighter in colour and volume...

yeah, that's where I am right now - awaiting seeing a gyno about the fibroids to find out more and now sure what the next step will be after that.

Big hugs to everyone - this journey is so isolating and so hard, you have no idea until it happens to you xxx

@MOGMOGMOG85 welcome to the thread. I'm so sorry to hear about you mc. I can't imagine how it must feel, just devastating.

On a positive note it's good they have found something and are investigating for you. I hope you get your bfp soon.