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Starting the journey thread 2

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squirrelnutkins1 · 14/05/2019 21:27

So we're nearly at 1000 posts.... setting this up ready for round 2 when the other is full.

I've tagged all the regulars I think (please forgive me if not ❤️❤️❤️) and anyone else who has commented on the thread ever if you'd like to come back and fill us in!

Here's to support and success 🎉💐

@2fingers22018
@VenusStarr
@Kelly199
@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF
@CloudSway
@GreyC
@veeboo
@mrsmch123

@bump2be
@ells0204
@claudie86
@nataliejayne26
@trying81
@sl85
@pinkroseuk
@chloeh99
@daisymay25

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Kelly199 · 21/06/2019 08:57

Sorry about all the bold lol

2fingers22018 · 21/06/2019 11:22

@squirrelnutkins1 thanks hun @veeboo are you alrite? @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF fx the pessaries help hugs sorry its all soo stressful atm x @Kelly199 your soo kind thank you❤ i hope this is ur month, decorating always lifts my mood crazy as that sounds lol just brighter surroundings i suppose.. do any of you ladies fight with ur OH about ttc? I feel like thats all me and OH do now think thats a big factor in my depression. He doesnt open up to me its soo frustrating!

Kelly199 · 21/06/2019 11:25

@2fingers22018 thank you ❤️
Yes!! We have our days! It is hard. I think it's just that we obviously get frustrated about it all so have petty arguments over it! We do talk about it after then though, but doesn't stop me from moaning another day lol. Hope you're ok ❤️ xx

2fingers22018 · 21/06/2019 11:40

@Kelly199 glad we re not the only ones! was beginning to feel nuts over here lol i luv my OH to bits dnt get me wrong but why cant guys just talk, im not sayin im a saint far from it but i think thats why my temper boils over he seems happy to bury his head in the sand..im just rambling lol thanks for listening x

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 21/06/2019 11:48

Thanks everyone it seems to have subsided for now so hoping the extra one will help it wasn’t bright Red or anything so I guess I shouldn’t give up yet! Thank you for all being so lovely when I know you are al going through your own problems @squirrelnutkins1*@Kelly199 @2fingers22018* ❤️❤️
@2fingers22018 just to say we argue aswell even this am I was in a panic and everything he said was wrong I know he was trying but we are ok now! Hope your feeling a bit better this am? Xx

2fingers22018 · 21/06/2019 11:51

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF of course thats what we re all here for just try and rest as much as you can x❤

Kelly199 · 21/06/2019 11:58

@2fingers22018 not you're def not the only ones!! Hard times to go through. Yes, course that's not it. I love mine to bits too, but these are tough times to get through and some days are worse than others. Hard to keep a pma at all times and it takes its toll some days! You're not alone with that. Here anytime xx

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF so so pleased it's stopped. Hopefully that's the last of it!!
No problem at all. Here for you anytime you need xx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 21/06/2019 17:54

@2fingers22018 thankyou I have been at work so am planning a weekend of rest and hope for the best! I went for a nice walk at lunch as the sun was out which cheered me up but then I’m not sure he walk was a good idea as had some more spotting and had a bit on and off all afternoon it’s not red so don’t think it’s af just yet!

Thanks @Kelly199 xx

GreyC · 21/06/2019 18:07

Oh @finallytakingtheplunge; glad it’s slowing down & the pesseries are helping. Fingers tightly crossed.

@squirrelnutkins1 it’s a city hospital and no parking near it which is so frustrating but I’ve managed to get the morning off so I’m happy 😊 hoping the first consultation at the clinic will be in the summer holidays 🤞

veeboo · 22/06/2019 08:34

Hi ladies hope everyones doing okay. It's a busy thread at the moment so I won't try and catch everyone but wanted to say hi. Good luck to those in the tww and waiting for appointments.

I just wanted to say @2fingers22018 that I know exactly how you feel. We argue about ttc all the time and it makes me very sad. As you know my DP has started to go to a clinic for his ED and has only just started talking. I've been so frustrated that this has been ongoing since before our relationship and he never talked. We've tried to set new expectations of each other about how we communicate but it's an ongoing learning curve! Getting out for a walk and talking somewhere neutral helps. I'd also recommend talking to someone. I know you're desperate for your IVF to start but I think it was CloudSway who said on the old thread that you've got to live your life in the meantime.

I'm on day 4 of flashing smiley now and waiting for ovulation. Going to accupuncture this morning. Xx

2fingers22018 · 22/06/2019 18:34

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF how are you today?

2fingers22018 · 22/06/2019 18:44

@veeboo its not as simple as just living my life just now lol. I try to eat right sleep right exercise have a pma and do things i enjoy but thats not filling the void in my life. I know having a baby wnt make my life perfect but i want a baby with my OH that we can cherish and love & make happy family memories with.

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 22/06/2019 18:59

@GreyC thank you!

@2fingers22018 I’m ok thankyou have had a nice relaxing day went to the hairdressers laid in the sun had a snooze as am feeling very tired today! Had some more brown discharge but am trying not to get worked up about it as what will be will be! How ever my tests have arrived today so am now going to have to find the will power to not start testing till at least Monday! How are you feeling today? Xx

2fingers22018 · 22/06/2019 19:07

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF well at least its not bright red blood hate to b gross but u know what i mean you could still get ur bfp fx, i bet monday cant come quick enough for u id be sooo tempted to test aswell tbh..i feel slightly better went to a little gala day in the park with my friend got sum sun and ice cream bein outside does help x

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 22/06/2019 19:15

@2fingers22018 yes I know what you mean and I’ve read a lot on mine I know I know stay away but it seems that it’s quite common with bfp and bfn so I’m trying to keep a calm head! Not sure if Monday would still be to early so will see how I feel it’s still tempting though?! Yes I definitely think being out when it is nice is good for the soul and I’m glad your feeling a bit better today xx

2fingers22018 · 22/06/2019 19:19

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF thanks helps to know ive got u ladies to vent to..yh dr google will drive u nuts but i do the exact same x

veeboo · 22/06/2019 20:23

@2fingers22018 sorry if I said the wrong thing. I do understand how you feel. I'm desperate for a baby but making sure we do nice things still in the meantime as the time is going to pass anyway. Glad you got out and about today. Accupuncture was brilliant and I've been for a walk too. Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you @finallytakingtheplungewithivf

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 22/06/2019 21:39

@veeboo thanks!! Would you recommend the acupuncture then? If this round doesn’t work may do it next time!

veeboo · 22/06/2019 21:51

@finallytakingtheplungewithivf I really would. I'm going again next week. Everyone I know who has done it says good things. It's painless and I have felt very positive all day. She also gave advice about nutrition/supplements and general health. I talked about my history of anxiety alot which I think this will help. For example.. my clearblue ovulation reader broke today just when I'm about to ovulate and I was just like oh well, let's try our best! This time last week I'd have had a meltdown!

2fingers22018 · 23/06/2019 09:06

@veeboo thanks i appreciate u sayin sorry i know im prob being touchy with everything goin on but to be completely honest with u the comment about living my life felt a bit judgemental. We re all in the same boat here highs and lows and just tryin our best to get on with things, glad your acupuncture went well @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF how are u feelin today hun x

VenusStarr · 23/06/2019 09:28

Hi everyone 👋 just popping in, got back from my holiday yesterday. It was so nice to be away from real life for a while and spend time with dh, feel like I've really missed him. Which siunds silly but hope you know what I mean.

My period arrived 3 days early, not sure if the hsg messed it up but think I ovulated as normal. Period was weird too but happy it was pain free. It did mean I didn't go swimming as it was very light so didn't want to wear a tampon as it was hard to get in (tmi! Sorry) I did have a melt down on Tuesday where I just couldn't stop crying and all my worries came spilling out. Dh was an absolute star, letting me release it all🌟 he struggles to get the not being able to live properly, just existing. I feel like I'm always waiting, for ovulation, for my next period etc... So totally get what you're both saying @veeboo and @2fingers22018 ❤️

I don't feel positive exactly but do feel in a slightly better head space at the moment. Have to say, not were if it was the sea air but dh was very much leading the dtd while we were away (even more frustrating with af arriving!) hope it continues into my fertile week.... 🤞

I've had a brief scan but so much is happening it hard to keep up!

How are you getting on @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF? Got my fingers crossed tightly for you 🤞

@squirrelnutkins1 how's things with you? Hope your oh is feeling OK? It's really hard when the grief just hits you but it does pass 💜 sending hugs xx

@Kelly199 How are you getting on?

Hope everyone else is OK at the moment. We've got dh's Christmas present this evening - bought him tickets to see a comedian. Have a good day xx

2fingers22018 · 23/06/2019 09:36

@VenusStarr glad u enjoyed ur holiday..sorry about af tho. Thats exactly it everything is planned around af, take yesterday for example had a lovely day out with my friend in the sun really lifted my mood but kids everywhere theres nowhere you can go to escape it for a bit. Luv a gd comedy show enjoy! X

2fingers22018 · 23/06/2019 09:37

Maybe thats where we should go no kids there lmao

squirrelnutkins1 · 23/06/2019 11:56

Ah so happy you enjoyed your hol and had a good heart to heart. I think we need that change of pace to just relax properly and then get everything out. Sorry about af but I'm glad it wasn't too painful for you. Hope you have a great time tonight! @VenusStarr

I know what you're both saying @veeboo @2fingers22018 nothing seems to fill that void. I've felt it massively this weekend with being with family. We had a fab time, it was a glorious day yesterday and we went to the beach but there was a hole in our hearts. BUT this whole journey, particularly the mc, has made us very withdrawn and almost antisocial. So I've said we've got to start doing more things to keep our minds active and busy, not that you ever forget.

Glad the acupuncture was good @veeboo I've booked in mid next month for some reflexology. I've heard that can be really good for you.

@GreyC Ah that's good then 👍🏻👍🏻

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF have you decided when you'll test? Really rooting for you xxx

Sorry if I've missed anyone. Happy Sunday xx

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2fingers22018 · 23/06/2019 12:51

@squirrelnutkins1 sorry it put a bit of a downer on things it always does..hows ur OH been feelin? Mine has been pretty down aswell but he opened up to me alot at the wkend which isnt like him at all! I told him thank you i know it took a lot for him to do it and its helped me understand soo much more why hes been acting the way he has been. Off shopping today its my mums bday nxt wk need to get her pressie sorted. Happy Sunday x

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