Do I REALLY have to wait 14 days after transfer?!

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I had two embryos transferred (5 day blasts using donor eggs) six days ago (Tuesday 29th May) and the waiting is AGONY. I'm under strict instructions from my clinic to test on day 14 post-transfer, but DH will be away for work on test day. Naturally I'd much prefer him to be with me, but prolonging the agony for two additional days until he returns will be so hard!

Could I test on the evening of day 12 and get an accurate result? Or should I either test by myself on day 14 or wait until day 16 when DH is back?

I had a double donor transfer and had had hcg on the day of transfer, it had left my system by 4 days after and I picked up a true positive at 6 days past a blast transfer. Good luck!

I was told not to test for 12 days and to wait until blood test.

I tested with a hpt at 5dp5dt I couldn’t wait! IMO you have to have a will of iron to wait it out for as long as the clinics say.

I NEED TO TEST! I'm 9dp5dt!

But DH and friends are saying no. And I have this weird feeling that if I test early, I'll be "cheating" and then I won't deserve a baby so I won't be pregnant

This is AGONY.

I have minimal symptoms - nothing that I didn't have pre-transfer from the progesterone (slightly tender boobs, very mild lower abdomen cramps, a slight pulling on the right hand side which is probably a cyst they saw on an ultrasound.)

And this is only our first IVF attempt. I am in awe of people who put themselves through this over and over again . . .

I tested much earlier! I’m amazed you have stuck it out.

I used to think if it’s positive then yay! If it’s negative, then not all is lost because it’s actually too early lol!

I had many many ivf cycles though so it all became a bit everyday for me.

Are you working this week RPF?
If so why not test on Saturday then have the weekend to take in the result. Hope it's a BFP!

I’d have tested a thousand times already so you’ve definitely got will power! Good luck!

Shamless placemarking! Good Luck OP!!

Yes, I'm working . . . although my productivity is fairly low as I'm obsessively googling symptoms at this stage. I've learned, after my extensive and structured research, that nothing means anything *

I think I'll wait until Sunday. That's 12dp5dt, DH will be here, we can celebrate together if it's positive and go for a boozy Sunday lunch if it's negative.

I actually think I'm scared of testing. I'd rather be in the bubble of possibility than harsh certainty.
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And I don't understand why my text switched to bold, sorry!

I had 5 cycles and was a terrible earlier tester even though I tell everyone else not to

I think the trouble with testing early is that you know that a BFN doesn't mean anything, although it's no fun, because it can still become a BFP on test day, and you know that a BFP can be a chemical pregnancy, so it isn't the relief you'd hope for. (And I would suspect that you won't give up enough after a BFN to have a boozy lunch.)
I would either do the test on test day with your OH on Skype or a day later. But I'm the freak who never tested early and didn't take another test after the BFP so feel free to take my words with a pinch of salt.
Also, if you get the BFP after waiting an extra day, it's one less day of worry until the viability scan, and that wait, for me, was much worse.

9dp5dt = 14dpo. That’s a sensible time to test and not early testing.

I need a handhold please - I'm driving myself nuts. DH and I agreed to test on Monday morning, which is 13dp5dt - one day before the clinic told us to. It feels like a good compromise.

The symptoms I've had up to yesterday are gone now - sore boobs, very mild nausea, a feeling of being not quite right. I feel completely normal today, except for tender nipples which is likely to be the progesterone as I've had them ever since I started taking it (ie pre-transfer).

It has hit home to me how absolutely devastated I'm going to be if the IVF hasn't worked. And I'm now thinking it probably hasn't.

This is so, so hard.

Hi @RedPandaFluff , there really is no point in symptom spotting as everything could be due to the progesterone.

Saying that I tested at 9dp3dt last thing at night. As I knew it'd be positive as all my OHSS symptoms had returned.

I'd test on a day where you can have a cry if it's negative. Really it should be fairly accurate from 14 days past egg collection but if negative is test again on OTD.

Hi @hoping2018 - thank you for your message. I can either go in to work late on Monday, or work from home, or even take the day off if needs be so I think I'm reconciled to that being The Day. I genuinely can't shake the feeling that if I test earlier than the clinic told me to, that I'm "cheating" and don't deserve to be pregnant.

I know, that's stupid and illogical. But it's not the most stupid and illogical thing I've done on this journey

I'm obsessively googling "10dp5dt no symptoms" and some women do get a BFP in spite of feeling nothing . . .

Hi OP.

Just joining to say I feel your pain. I am only 4dp5dt and this is absolute torture. It’s my first transfer too and our only blast. I have been on progesterone before (when on Clomid and more recently for a medicated FET that got cancelled) and I don’t seem to get any side effects from it so am just feeling nothing, which is freaking me out, as I would hope to have some implantation symptoms by now... I’ve been pregnant three times before and always felt something, eg cramping or spotting. Can’t help but fear the worst.

I too am going to try not to test early. OTD is 10 days post transfer for me, blood test at the clinic next Thurs. I would just go with your gut. You’ll know when you just HAVE to take a test. It’s terrifying no matter what you do.

Sending sanity and luck!

I went though many ivf transfers and I never tested early for the same reason. Its also cause hope is better than defeat. Don't be negative though. Your chances are High and I wish you all the best for Monday

I know it doesn't really help but my symptom after IVF 1 was period type pains and sore boobs . I was so convinced my period was due, I had a glass of red wine because it hadn't worked.

She's now 11.

PS that’s great that some BFPs do occur even with no implantation symptoms. I was too scared to google that!

Nancy - yep, I have done (extensive!) research and it's very possible to feel 100% normal and still get a BFP. So we should still both be hopeful. Unfortunately my default state is cynical and pessimistic

Kannet - bang on. I'm in a bubble of possibility. The moment I see "Not Pregnant" on that stick I'll be crushed. So uncertainty is better than devastation.

MissBartlett - wow - that's great; and I bet you beat yourself up about that glass of wine, eh? I'm fuming with myself for forgetting and bursting into a hard sprint to catch a train the other day. We love nothing more than to give ourselves a hard time

Good luck for Monday OP, only this weekend to get through now. Stay busy.

I genuinely wish I could be sedated for the whole 2WW!

Sadly our patience wasn't rewarded with a BFP this morning - the cycle has failed. I'm devastated because I felt pregnant due to the progesterone. This is so hard

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that redpanda, I was getting so excited for you. Why do things have to be so hard with fertility treatment??!! I treated myself to something nice after each failed round and then immediately started planning the next one. I found that it helped. I really hope you get more success next time.
I know it's probably not of any consolation for you at the moment, but very often I look at my DD and think that she wouldn't be here if the previous cycles had worked so I'm really happy they didn't. Your time will come too xx

Thank you Pez. I feel heartbroken; truly devastated. I think it has hit me harder than I thought it would because (foolishly) I'd made so many stupid wee plans in my head, like how we could tell our parents etc. I'm filled with an all-consuming hatred for my body - those two little embryos were perfect, but my stupid body didn't know what to do with them. I'm just so upset.

However, we're lucky enough to be in a position to try again, thank goodness, so I'll give myself a day to wallow and then pull myself together and look ahead to the next try.

So sorry OP. Take all the time you need to come to terms with what has happened. Glad that you will have another chance at least. I hope very much that your time does come. Take care x

So so sorry RedPanda.