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How To Tell My Friend (Who Has Been TTC For 5 Yrs) I'm Pregnant!

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ballerini · 24/03/2018 01:15

My friend has been TTC for 5 years.
She asked me in January if I was going to start a family and I told her I was trying that month for the first time.
Last month she had her 2nd round of IVF and it did not work. I am now 10 wks pregnant. I'm seeing her this weekend when I will probably tell her I'm pregnant then. I feel like waiting longer to say might upset her more.
Has anyone got any tips on what to say or what not to say?
I feel so bad that this 2nd round of IVF didn't work for her and guilty for falling pregnant straight away when she's had a 5 year struggle and has not managed to get pregnant yet!
We have other friends who are going through IVF and one of the husbands told my husband that every time his wife saw a pregnancy announcement she would get upset and my friend also mentioned last year that she struggled a bit when her friend had a baby!

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ilikebread · 26/03/2018 19:59

Very thoughtful of you OP, I agree a text would be the best way to tell her. Let her know that your realise it will be hard for her snd understand if she needs a bit of space xx

salakadolamoo · 26/03/2018 20:11

We've been TTC for over two years. In that time 3/4 of my best friends have got pregnant or had their little ones. 2/4 are now pregnant for the 2nd time...

I can honestly say that I couldn't be happier for them and love my honorary Auntie role... but... one of them told me face to face two hours after I got test results saying I had ovulation issues and my reaction wasn't what it should have been. Definitely text your friend OP and give her the chance to be as excited for you as she really wants to be. Congratulations on your lovely news Thanks

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